The no contact rule after a breakup?

[Kyle C. Barker]

Never contact.

Every time you contact your back to day 1 of the pain.

This is so true

 

[MikelArteta]

The no contact actual works in reverse, it usually makes your ex miss you more and think about you, then they contact you, next thing you know you at her place hitting it from the back, then yall back together, 6 months later she break ya heart again, starts questioning your future, and your worth as a man, next thing you know she say she seeing someone else, now you back in the shyt again, so you go no contact, and then she hit you up... It's an endless cycle of fukkery

which is why you take no contact to the grave, i broke up with my first lvoe in 2008 you knwo the last time i spoke to her? 2008.

when you continue to break nc you'll always have that emotional connection or clinging to the cliff of hope.

 

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which is why you take no contact to the grave, i broke up with my first lvoe in 2008 you knwo the last time i spoke to her? 2008.

when you continue to break nc you'll always have that emotional connection or clinging to the cliff of hope.

Just saying, if ya shorty ever breaks up wit you and you want her back you can use NC and she'll contact you again more times than not.


And damn, just recently broke up with the one I thought was the love of my life, can't imagine not speaking to her again but I put her on NC she broke it(she always breaks it lol)

But it's looking like its a wrap for that.

Single life ain't bad tho, now it's time to hustle and get my shyt together.

 

[Ziggiy]

All my friends call me a savage cause I straight go COLD TURKEY on a chick when it's over. But really I'm not, it's just that when it's over it's OVER. Let the shyt go.

 

[Dixon Cider]

Just saying, if ya shorty ever breaks up wit you and you want her back you can use NC and she'll contact you again more times than not.


And damn, just recently broke up with the one I thought was the love of my life, can't imagine not speaking to her again but I put her on NC she broke it(she always breaks it lol)

But it's looking like its a wrap for that.

Single life ain't bad tho, now it's time to hustle and get my shyt together.

I'm on that building myself better, times during the day can't help but think what if I did it different

 

[Sccit]

Im not, dont look at social media or
Anything. She was texting me over weekends and I texted her one day after that and her bf talked shyt and blocked the number so I felt the need to get him on the line in which he was very respectful on the phone.

Should I not fight for something? Isn't that the Alpha thing to do? Like my mans new york? From the steeets of harlem? He was ready to die bout his.

IF U GOTA ASK WHAT THE ALPHA THING TO DO IS, THEN U JUS AINT ALPHA MAYN

 

[4Eyez]

You know what you've got a case of the feels, it's okay embrace the emotion, let it wash over you. Give yourself time to grieve and just wait, wait for a day and then another day and another, and eventually you will realise it's been a while since you last thought about her and then eventually you will be able to think about her, to look back and not feel so raw about it.

Give yourself the space and time to heal, be kind and fair to yourself. You'll get there, we all get there eventually

Realest shyt I read so far.

OP, it's going to hurt for a while. You'll frequently bring it up in conversations. Things that made you two laugh might bring back memories and be hurtful. You'll want to see what shes up to, but control yourself. You'll feel hollow at times, like nothing in the world matters. The sooner you can get out of that mind state, the better. Focus on yourself bro, internally and externally. Do things that make you feel good, do things you have interest in that you haven't gotten around to doing yet. Read a book. Lay on grass and feel the texture of the leaves between your fingers. Life is beautiful. You're free. Go do whatever you want, seriously. The world is yours.

I've always been the type to completely end all contact. Not cause of some dumb macho shyt, but I don't have it in me to keep contact honestly. It would seriously hurt to see them happier and whatnot with simply me out the picture. It also helps remove them from my life altogether. Mega props for people who can still be cool with their ex's and keep things moving strictly forward and never back. I've met some wonderful ladies that could have potentially still been good friends today. The only exception is for my first girlfriend ever, from HS. Dunno why, but its all love between us. Nothing else. No flirting, no interest, sometimes a little reminiscing, but its mostly cause we care for each other and want whats best for one another. We were together for 5 years.

Today my lady and I (now ex) just ended things...

Ultimately, she was just too much of a different person from me. The things we are concerned/unconcerned with or the things we prioritized or valued often conflicted. She's younger as well. I guess I knew this was coming, but when it all started I really began to enjoy the ride. I could of been like one of the fellas and just hit and dipped, but that's not really me. Took a real liking to her. Sucks being the good guy to a fault. A few relationships in (this one being the shortest and most problematic) and life always reminds me that things don't last...

I know, TL;DR but really bro, just focus on you. I wrote this to you, but also to myself as a reminder, you know? After what happened today, I told myself I'm not getting involved with another female for a longggggg time. Strictly doing me. I stood single for two and a half years after my first ex, which was the greatest growth period of my life. I never even push hard for chicks, but they usually come on to me. Here and there one feels right and I fall hard for them. Can't be getting too involved. We gotta just do us and push all else to the side. That's my plan for now. What's yours?

 

[Dixon Cider]

Realest shyt I read so far.

OP, it's going to hurt for a while. You'll frequently bring it up in conversations. Things that made you two laugh might bring back memories and be hurtful. You'll want to see what shes up to, but control yourself. You'll feel hollow at times, like nothing in the world matters. The sooner you can get out of that mind state, the better. Focus on yourself bro, internally and externally. Do things that make you feel good, do things you have interest in that you haven't gotten around to doing yet. Read a book. Lay on grass and feel the texture of the leaves between your fingers. Life is beautiful. You're free. Go do whatever you want, seriously. The world is yours.

I've always been the type to completely end all contact. Not cause of some dumb macho shyt, but I don't have it in me to keep contact honestly. It would seriously hurt to see them happier and whatnot with simply me out the picture. It also helps remove them from my life altogether. Mega props for people who can still be cool with their ex's and keep things moving strictly forward and never back. I've met some wonderful ladies that could have potentially still been good friends today. The only exception is for my first girlfriend ever, from HS. Dunno why, but its all love between us. Nothing else. No flirting, no interest, sometimes a little reminiscing, but its mostly cause we care for each other and want whats best for one another. We were together for 5 years.

Today my lady and I (now ex) just ended things...

Ultimately, she was just too much of a different person from me. The things we are concerned/unconcerned with or the things we prioritized or valued often conflicted. She's younger as well. I guess I knew this was coming, but when it all started I really began to enjoy the ride. I could of been like one of the fellas and just hit and dipped, but that's not really me. Took a real liking to her. Sucks being the good guy to a fault. A few relationships in (this one being the shortest and most problematic) and life always reminds me that things don't last...

I know, TL;DR but really bro, just focus on you. I wrote this to you, but also to myself as a reminder, you know? After what happened today, I told myself I'm not getting involved with another female for a longggggg time. Strictly doing me. I stood single for two and a half years after my first ex, which was the greatest growth period of my life. I never even push hard for chicks, but they usually come on to me. Here and there one feels right and I fall hard for them. Can't be getting too involved. We gotta just do us and push all else to the side. That's my plan for now. What's yours?

. The thoughts don't really hit me unless in the morning or going to do something we would have done and it isn't as desirable of activity.

Not giving into these females either by settling. After all I deserve to be treated good as well as treat someone good but also I need to wear that I do have a high self of esteem for myself and be meticulous about myself and other things and be picky to weed out the fukk shyt. I'm more active. I am telling myself daily just improving myself and making advancements in my life and staying humble. If she calls at least I can tell her the truth about what ive accomplished and it won't be a lie.

 

[4fossa]

lmao I was going to do this exactly same post looooooooool

 

[4Eyez]

Yesterday night was super rough for me brehs...them super lonely feelings crept up on me. I promised myself I wouldn't go through something like this again after my last breakup. I know it's a silly promise, but I thought I would be able to hang tight.

Dunno why, but I've been waking up at 4AM for like the last week or so. Looked at my phone, she texted me close to 3AM today saying:

"I honestly feel like I made a mistake, I'm so sorry. I know you don't want to hear this. I'm just so confused, I don't feel like I'm ready"

I texted her back:

"You're only thinking about yourself at this point. Which is fine I guess, but you told me you're not willing to try anymore. Sounds like you have other plans already. I tried my best to talk it out but you didn't budge. Yeah, we might lose time with each other, but that was a risk I was willing to take since the very beginning. You don't care about me enough, it's very clear."

She hasn't replied


Sorry for derailing this thread brehs...just having a hard time coping with this. Sucks cause we're in the same internship, so we'll have to see each other and our mutual friends every Wednesday. It's going to be super awkward those days. I hope she's mature enough to not be flirting or doing dumb shyt while I'm there with her.

Happy Friday brehs

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Let her go breh. Brother @Mechatronic said it best:

Some breh is stickin it in her butt right now.

You don't really want her back, you just want to know you can still have her, and you're afraid of being alone (like a she)

U wastin time bro.

 

[Dixon Cider]

Yesterday night was super rough for me brehs...them super lonely feelings crept up on me. I promised myself I wouldn't go through something like this again after my last breakup. I know it's a silly promise, but I thought I would be able to hang tight.

Dunno why, but I've been waking up at 4AM for like the last week or so. Looked at my phone, she texted me close to 3AM today saying:

"I honestly feel like I made a mistake, I'm so sorry. I know you don't want to hear this. I'm just so confused, I don't feel like I'm ready"

I texted her back:

"You're only thinking about yourself at this point. Which is fine I guess, but you told me you're not willing to try anymore. Sounds like you have other plans already. I tried my best to talk it out but you didn't budge. Yeah, we might lose time with each other, but that was a risk I was willing to take since the very beginning. You don't care about me enough, it's very clear."

She hasn't replied


Sorry for derailing this thread brehs...just having a hard time coping with this. Sucks cause we're in the same internship, so we'll have to see each other and our mutual friends every Wednesday. It's going to be super awkward those days. I hope she's mature enough to not be flirting or doing dumb shyt while I'm there with her.

Happy Friday brehs

Hey, you get to see her so it's alot different. I moved to another coast to settle my life. Not like ima run into her anytime or like shes gonna say "can we meet up and talk?" Thats dead. Now it's "you moved all the way over there why do you care?"

 

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