Let's break this down, she sounds "right" but the presentation is pretty deceptive.
We're going to use the CDC's "Leading Cause of Death" (
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/lcwk1_2014.pdf)
Big PDF but it has death causes by age/race.
For Black women of ALL ages, Black men are not their problem. Not even close (see table at end of post). HIV is #13 and Homicide is #15. So saying Black women are killed overall by Black men as the #2 cause of death is bullshyt.
Now let's zoom in on the young ages: 15 - 29. Start on page 91. Homicide is the #2 cause of death. In fairness, amongst ALL races about 90% of female homicide victims are from male perpetrators. So does this mean she is right and "dating a Black man puts you in danger?"
First, the rate of Black female homicide victims is between 5-9 per 100,000 in that age group. The Black male homicide victim rate is between 50 to 80 per 100,000 in the same age group. Therefore a Black dude is 10X likely to be a victim than a woman. In fact, if anyone is going to get killed on a "date with a Black man" statistically it is more likely to be the man at the hands of some other dude
Also 8 per 100,000 is the White male homicide victimization rate in the same age group.
So Black women are only as or even less likely to get killed than a White dude. Sorry I have trouble feeling sympathy when the cards are stacked against BM like that.
Now finally, let's look at White girls in the same age group. From 15-24 the 4th leading cause of death for White women is homicide--mostly by White men--granted the rate is low (about 2 per 100,000). From 25-29 it is cause #5. The only reason it isn't cause #3 and we can't say "White men are the #3 cause of death of White women" is because their suicide rate is so high, that takes the #2 spot.
Now I know what comes next--they say since WW homicide rate is only 2 per 100,000 versus 5-9 per 100,000 for BW than it is a "safer choice" to not date BM. The problem is not BM, the problem is most Blacks proportionally live in high-crime urban areas. See table 6 from the DoJ study (
https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/bvvc.pdf).
For both Blacks and non-Blacks, 60% of females were killed by intimates and casual acquaintances. Think about that--in other words WW get killed by the same types as BW. The only difference is their rate is lower because they aren't disproportionately stuck in high crime areas. In other words,
your danger in dating a BM is only as dangerous as the area you live in. If you are dating a gang member or dealer, well what do you expect? If you are dating a regular dude with a job, your chances aren't that high and you are probably not too much more at risk than a WW.
But these bishes don't want the nuanced facts. They want to beat the BM with a bat since without us everything would be perfect, right? Could you imagine WW warning their younger sisters about the dangers of WM because 90%+ of those who rape and murder WW are WM?
Overall causes of death for Black women---on the balance keeping healthy is far more important than being paranoid of BM
From the CDC
page 89
Causes of Black female (all ages) death: percent
1. Cardiovascular (heart) disease
2. Cancer
3. Strokes
4. Diabetes
5. Respiratory diseases
6. Alzheimer's
7. Accidents (unintentional)
8. Nephritis (kidney failure)
9. Septicemia (blood poisoning infection)
10. Blood pressure
11. THE FLU
12. Pregnancy complications
13. HIV/AIDS
14. Liver disease
15. Homicide