I know this is unasked for Advice, BUT
breh, please reconsider. You may have all the podcasts and audiobooks but that transfer from 495 -> 95 on a friday will whoop your ass every week.
With moderate traffic my girl used to work at NIH, in bethesda, we were living in downtown silver spring. It took her 20m to get to work with moderate traffic, sometimes a half hour in the evenings.
You absolutely should not live any more south than woodbridge, and even that is pushing it. Because, once you get off of the beltway you will then have to deal with bethesda, which is full of entitled cacs.
Your commute will be dreadful. you should book an airbnb in both stafford and woodbridge and try to do your commute at rush hour times and see what its like.
If yall have jobs that are reolcating you, you gotta eat that CoL and move somewhere at least in between bethesda and belvoir.
do not buy a house