The older I get, the less I care what a woman does for a living

[Ohene]

Exact opposite for me. Reaching that age soon where if a girl isn't innhere career I won't consider her

 

[Gold]

The older I get the more I care about it tbh.

 

[Taadow]

I see what you're saying, I'm just not sure about the logistics long term and with inevitable wear and tear on the relationship. I think when a person puts their self in the position of making a much greater amount than their partner and their partner does not have to same values or if their conflict resolution styles don't meld together, you're at risk for some problems, gmb style.

What you say here is highly possible...but it doesn't negate what I said.

I'm just saying financial problems are the main reasons for divorce and break ups.

...now this I disagree with. Why?
Because I would say a lot of times the "financial" issues are just the symptoms manifested by the bigger issues, which could be
what you said - different values, and/or their conflict resolution styles don't mesh well.

That, and people are havin' sex with other folks. lol

a lot of people will love you and then when things start going downhill they will use you. And if they are dependent on you, they will use you good to get back at you.

Then it can be argued they don't really "love" you, because "love" is actions.
Especially if they want to "get back at you" because, "things start going downhill".

As they say: "they don't love you - they love things about you..."

 

[Bless't]

Myself personally, I find intelligent, educated, confident, and successful women to be very attractive. A woman who might be a 5 or a 6 on the physical attractiveness scale hits the 9-10 range for me if she has those qualities. I wouldn't want to get involved with a woman that "needs" me per say. Financially speaking, I need someone competent who I can build with. Anything less would make her kind of a leach, or a child, like a dependent. I mean she has to be capable of bringing something to the table. I feel you though on the competition thing. Some women have a chip on their shoulder in both the professional world, and in their social life. They wonder why they're single or going through divorce number 2.

I agree with all of this.

Find a successful and driven yet easy-going woman and boom... done and done.

 

[threattonature]

To me she has to either be a great homemaker or have a good ass job. The latest girl I was dating was lazy as hell and didn't want to work but also a slob when it came to cleaning and never cooked. I make enough money so if she kept the house clean and always kept dinner on the table then I would consider wifing.

 

[Rarebird77]

Stank attitudes and entitlement come in all economic levels.


Men brag about their degrees and status all the time. the only difference is it is expected of them and is a selling point for a relationship because women seek financial stability.

That's not what I implied.
Nobody is looking for easy compatibility.
What I said in subsequent posts is that emotional compatibility (for example) is way more important.

I love how butthurt @Dollfacecraze is that she stalks the thread and daps any view in opposition. You'd think I attacked the essence of her being because I don't care about a woman's masters degree that much.

People are very zero sum game in this thread.

I didn't read that you said you didn't want a woman with a career or education you just said its not the basis of your attraction to said woman say she does have those things.

Why the contempt? I'm confused. . .

 

[Diondon]

I'm the opposite. When I was younger I was more looser with my dating standards.

 

[agnosticlady]

Stank attitudes and entitlement come in all economic levels.


Men brag about their degrees and status all the time. the only difference is it is expected of them and is a selling point for a relationship because women seek financial stability.

I was not speaking on status. I was specifically speaking on degrees. In my experience I rarely see a man brag about his degree unless he is at the top (a high manager, CEO, and etc). That could be because having a degree means absolutely nothing in the real world if you can not apply it. Instead I've seen men use their high positions over people or as a way to prove why they are better, but as for their degree in history - no. While I've seen plenty of women use the fact that they have a degree as a way to demean people. Its just a degree - that millions of others have.

 

[Aceofspades404]

People are very zero sum game in this thread.

I didn't read that you said you didn't want a woman with a career or education you just said its not the basis of your attraction to said woman say she does have those things.

Why the contempt? I'm confused. . .

where's the contempt? ppl can't disagree now?
Ppl interpret things differently and that's not what I got from reading his post. Just like you're interpreting my disagreement as some sort of disdain for @Raul

 

[Rarebird77]

I agree you can interpret it differently but when said person explains that's not at all what they mean at what point do you take them at their word?

 

[Aceofspades404]

I was not speaking on status. I was specifically speaking on degrees. In my experience I rarely see a man brag about his degree unless he is at the top (a high manager, CEO, and etc). That could be because having a degree means absolutely nothing in the real world if you can not apply it. Instead I've seen men use their high positions over people or as a way to prove why they are better, but as for their degree in history - no. While I've seen plenty of women use the fact that they have a degree as a way to demean people. Its just a degree - that millions of others have.

never disagreed with your experience, was simply providing you another perspective that was based on my experience.

 

[agnosticlady]

never disagreed with your experience, was simply providing you another perspective that was based on my experience.

ok

 

[Aceofspades404]

I agree you can interpret it differently but when said person explains that's not at all what they mean at what point do you take them at their word?

when you're familiar with a poster, you usually try to get inside their brain and understand them especially when they have said conflating things in other threads.

 

[agnosticlady]

I get this gist of what @Raul was saying, I didn't even need to finish reading it all. I agree with him for the most part, no need to pick it all apart.

seriously people are turning a page into chronicles The man never said he refuses to be with a woman with a masters or refuses to be with a dentist who owns her own business. He said a degree, college, and those things are not what makes a good significant other for him. Having a degree and not having a degree does not make one a good or bad person. It also does not tell whether or not the person will be a good parent, spouse, financially responsible, and etc.

 

[blackzeus]

Ol "will you have me" azz nikka