"The problem with today's culture is we're raising Women to be MEN" TD Jakes

[Bossino]

I hope this trend of women putting careers before families ends in my lifetime.

I don't care and I'm 24 if there was to be a correctional trend in dating rn it wouldn't hit until after I'm not interested at all 27-28. So it's effectively been over. All these new jawns "Skandaluzzzz (Scandalous, she's so scandalous), She soooooo."

If they choosin and been choosin fine something that meets your standard and do you, but if you gotta kill whatcha eat/earn ya keep, might as well play the field

 

[Bossino]

I just get confused with how many women are picking losers? why not get your club shot up by the "potential".

At least you'll have somewhat of a decent middle class family.

Why get smashed by a soundcloud rapper / loser? as a matter of fact, why even keep the kid(s)?

There is no logic, breh no need to waste the time trying to understand them just move accordingly

 

[Rum&Pineapple]

Oh yea, definitely. I just ignore the men who talk about “gold diggers”.
Lol
If a man has it and wants to provide, he will. And he’ll make it clear he’s in a position to provide.

Yeah it’s odd to me. They want someone who needs them but then they don’t want that person to rely on them as the breadwinner. They will go into their 50/50, equal rights tangents. So it’s like, sir, if you want a feminist what are you really complaining about? Lol.

 

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[Raphaello]

This is stupid. Whether you like it or not women will continue to take on leadership roles and portray msdculine traits. We are NOT going back to the 1950s. The solution is women have to change their dating habits.

 

[Cadillac]

genuinely surprised something like this is coming from TD Jakes

 

[Bumblebreh]

This is stupid. Whether you like it or not women will continue to take on leadership roles and portray msdculine traits. We are NOT going back to the 1950s. The solution is women have to change their dating habits.

Bre if you want a 1950s house wife your money has to be long.

 

[saturn7]

I was reading a thread the other week about Latina women. Disregarding the fact that some seem to think Latino is a race, the responses were interesting. It all came down to an attraction for their “passion”. Everything they do is done with “passion” but threads where a black woman might do the same thing, they easily get tossed in the stereotypical “angry black woman” category

Anyway, this whole thing with black men competing against black women is tired. Don’t see any other race of men clawing their way into the mainstream by bashing their women. Don’t see any other race making a huge public spectacle of blaming all their woes on their women either.

”Black women need to choose better”
”Black women are raising feminine men”

And then when you ask what the black men are doing in all of this, the excuses becomes

”Black women are too independent”
”Black women are too worried about education”

And then finally, when all is exhausted, and you point out maybe they are independent because the man has been nowhere around

“Black women need to be held accountable“

This is only done in response to decades of anti-Black male rhetoric that came from BLACK WOMEN!!
Don't act like sistas were not on mainstream platforms for decades saying that brothas ain't shyt and all brothas either, wanted white women, were dogs or gay.

Also Black women do need to choose better esp in terms of the nikkas they let impregnate them.

 

[King Poetic]

See, some of us get this, but the problem is the people raising their daughters tell us y’all do care about that shyt (either because they ended up with a man who can’t provide so they are doing it all, or because they think it’d be easier to pair their daughter off if they bring major tangibles to the table). So women work to achieve/acquire those things only to see men drawn to the women who either don’t have them or don’t make them their selling point.

Most black girls aren’t raised thinking that being able to take care of a home is enough. So they spend time trying to build and have stuff to bring to the table, when they could’ve changed their dating targets and just dealt with men who didn’t expect tangibles.

A lot of the women who were hurt, made bad choices, etc over corrected and told their daughters no man would ever take care of them, instead of telling their daughters how to make better decisions at younger ages.

And it’s not all on women because there are definitely men who have dogged out good women and made them jaded, but there are a lot of people who failed to honestly discuss family and marriage with their daughters and this is the result.

Shoo. One of my cousins is an investment banker and I can’t even tell if his wife finished HS When I saw that I was like “y’all got us playing the game all wrong”. Lol

Here’s the problem and I said it before

Black, white, Asian etc women all live that hot girl summer life

However in the white and Asian communities on a whole by their junior year of college they are taught to find your husband, get your degree and start a family and that’s all by 25/26 years old

Not in the black community… sisters was taught by generation X females/the Oprah’s dumb asses… girl get your degree, career started, get you a apartment/condo/house, car and then you’ll be ready to find a man on your level… by that time sisters be 32 and up and a lot during getting their education and career started end up having a kid with a bummy nikka and now your prospects of finding a man is real low..

Especially when u lead with your degree and career and followed up with demands of a man needs to make say $80,000 a year and need to be this or that…

This is why u only see 25% of black women married but close to 75% have kids out of wedlock

It’s only going to get worse, just look at social media

 

[Easy-E]

That conversation always turns into mothers needing to choose better, not the fathers stepping up and doing better.

Black men are legit the most involved fathers, in America, married or not (scientifically measured). Ya'll gotta let that stereotype go.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Women get to compete with men and shyt on men for not making as much or more as them

Rigged gams

 

[Rum&Pineapple]

Black men are legit the most involved fathers, in America, married or not. But...

I grew up in a two parent household myself. But all I see in here is brehs complaining about how women need to choose better, so if you let THEM tell it…

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Dynamics.

Some old nikkas think the young generation, namely their sons, just be "smelling themselves" when they get confidence and then feel like they gotta knock them down to check them and it kills their momentum. When they should be teaching them how to direct that energy. This happens usually when a Son works with his Father in the family business. The son and father clash and don't speak to each other for years.

Sometimes a father who was emasculated by his mother, marries a woman exactly like his mother, lets his wife emasculate and son-husband their son and the cycle repeats. You have generations of men who marry domineering, disrespectful, controlling women. Sometimes they’ll either move his domineering mother in when she gets too old or his wife’s mother in and the family dynamics are fukked up. All the men in the house lose. The young women in that household have it just as bad because the pressure is on them the most to do good in school because these women do not like sharing attention with their daughters. They only want them to do good in school so they don’t have to care about her. So these young women grow up not getting proper love from their parents or their brothers and they have to use a masculine persona to defend themselves. They end up getting with the wrong men because the father wasn’t there or he failed her via being a result of multi-generational buckbreaking. The young girl grows into a mother who treats her sons the same way her mother and grandmother treated the men in the family because that’s all she saw growing up. That’s why some women in this community talk to Black men fukked up, because they momma and gmomma did it. The men in this community accept the disrespect because their dads and grandfathers told them that is what being a man is.

Then you got these Pastors and Bishops doing Steve Harvey acts while running through the women.

And then the current academy debates on Black men being mimetic of the white man. Educated Black men being too scared to be strong or firm because they don't want to be White or controlling

A lot of pan African Hoteps put nikkas on that “worship the woman” shyt when some of these dudes were on the streets looking for guidance away from abusive single parent homes as well. Basically telling them to go right back home and put up with that shyt

You lost me at some of that but I agree with the Steve Harvey shyt and educated Black men not speaking back against misandry

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

It’s not just the ones who let you know early on that they are losers. There are also fairly stable “potentials” who also decide they aren’t ready to settle down into family life. So how are women supposed to vet them with 100% accuracy?

In the hood women know exactly who they getting with 9 out of 10

 

[Easy-E]

I grew up in a two parent household myself. But all I see in here is brehs complaining about how women need to choose better, so if you let THEM tell it…

My point is; I'm tired of hearing "all good men" are taken, gay or incarcerated.