The real reason women don't like good men / nice guys...

[PinotNoir]

Same here. I love a man who can teach me something, or just watching a man do something he is passionate about. Whether it's my crush teaching me to shoot a basketball, helping me improve my free throw skills, or the other dude who was a gamer, and modded and fixed video games, computers and speakers. The way he worked that soldering iron.

Arrogance is a turn off tho. Dudes who assume I don't know as much as them or try to tell me how I feel and why I am doing what I'm doing.

Yes passionate about his work is turn on. I dealt with an intellectual snob earlier this year and it was a big turn off. He didn't know nearly as much as he thought, could barely add had two masters and grew up privileged..I learned a lot from him tho because he could debate his butt off.

 

[philmonroe]

Let's cut the bullshyt ok

The so called nice guy/nerd is only complaining because they want the fine hoodrat or gorgeous sista who like the so called bad boy, nothing more....

Them nikkas don't even try to talk to the nerdy sista with glasses and is average looking cause they believe they deserve top notch sisters....

Same shyt apply to sistas as well... u have nerdy book smart sistas passed up on decent brothers cause they want the thuggish ruggish bone and these be the same type of sistas who get beat and taken advantage of cause they not used to that street shyt lifestyle.

nikkas will continue to argue over this even when we all are 6 feet deep....

Exactly this is always the case. You'll have people dispute it but this is what the problem is period. Also some people not being real with themselves about their looks and knowing where their true zone is if money/status doesn't play a part.

 

[Larry Lambo]

Not gonna read 9 pages of posts, but there is some truth to what the OP said. I don't necessarily agree with the nice guy part, but here's my take.

Women would rather have casual sex with a guy who is either a promiscuous "player" or emotionally unavailable tough guy, versus a regular dude that they see themselves having a relationship with. I've heard many women say that there has to be something wrong with the guy for them to be cool with casual sex. They haven't come to the realization that they really don't have a high relationship value so when they choose to satisfy their urges, it's easier to give in to the dude "who ain't shyt", versus the quality dude.

The "nice" guy could be put on her unrealistic list of potential long term partners while the players and bad boys are chosen for a no strings attached f**k. So the key is that if all you want is sex from a chick, and you're a good dude, is to behave as if you have bunch of hoes and she needs to get in where she fits in. It's unfortunate that you might have to play this game instead of keeping it 100, but it's damage control. Most chicks aren't ready to accept that a guy who's not some man-whore or playboy, would only want sex and nothing else from them.

To be honest, most of these brauds think they are on the same level as the dudes they are fu***ng. They really believe that. So what's the reason why these men aren't pursuing relationships with them. Ohh, it's because all men are sleeping around or aren't interested in relationships. Not because these women are 6's that are chasing 8's and 9's.

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

With the bad boys and the a$$holes, when the relationship goes south, they can blame it on the guy being a jerk, a cheater, a horrible person. Her friends will support her and console her.


But when the guy loves her and was willing to do anything to keep her happy, and she still leaves him...it flashes an ugly reflection on her, that she's the one who's a horrible person. A good man is hard to come by, then she gets one and still isn't satisfied. What does that say about her?

Nah breh, women don't like nice guys because they're soft. They lack testosterone and that's what really attracts females. When you're waiting on your lady hand and foot she's only losing respect for you because that's sucka shyt. You're only making yourself valuable as a servant, not as a real man who will protect her and fukk her brains out.

That's the reality of the situation. You can keep playing the nice guy and keep losing or wise up to the way of the animal kingdom.

 

[Arithmetic]

I go to a school where I am dirt poor compared to the other students. I consider myself above average in the looks department. I do look rough because of how and where I was raised. I'm also pretty studious. For whatever reason, this mixture seems to attract a lot of girls at my school. My girl comes and visits me and gets hella possessive.

 

[philmonroe]

It is what it is. Obviously level of attractiveness is subjective, but there is a reason chicks like Olivia Munn can cake up. Women like that look good enough
to have mass appeal, and share the interests of absolute dorks who know that at the end of the day, the best girls they can get usually look like

Spoiler

And that is not to say these women don't deserve love, but truth is, the more average, or below, you are, the less likely you are to be in a circle of pretty people.
Just like the less athletically inclined usually pursue intellectual hobbies. The issue is we ALL like pretty things, so no one wants to feel limited by what they have
been born with. If you are a reasonably good looking girl who ain't out hopping beds *and* have true intellectual prowess, your stock to regular dudes is high, so
much so you will hear Unicorn talk. I have liked a lot of girls who were into the things I were into, but lets face facts: Many were not very good looking in the face, were
overweight or ridiculously slim, and had no social grace. Thats kinda why dudes end up feeling entitled to better, though, because they get over *some* of their limitations,
but have a complex when the attractive girl s still aren't looking for them (in youth, that is.) I imagine its the same for women, but im not trying to date dudes, so their plight
isn't really of concern to me

I said some of these same things in a similar thread in the root. Dudes that are "nerds" know the girls they destined for don't look like the IG "thots" they claim to hate and they mad about it. They think they deserve better and maybe they do but if nobody going for you there's you answer on top of like you said girls in your spoiler (little better looking on avg) are the type of girls that usually mesh better with the "nerds" just wish they'd be honest

 

[CinnaSlim]

I got you. I'll carry your baggage on my back.

You don't need too lol. Thanks, hun.

By the end of the year. I should be back on my feet.

 

[philmonroe]

You don't have to be an azzhole to say how you feel. Nice guys will not say how they feel. Being timid is usually a sign of insecurity.

I can't feel sorry for a nice guy when they really do have issues, I can't look at them as normal. I only really mess with down to earth women, and even they avoid nice guys cause they give them a weird vibe.

Yep and rule number two below explains exactly how I feel about "nice" guys

https://boldanddetermined.com/the-21-rules-of-the-rich-and-how-you-can-emulate-them/

 

[Soon]

Nah breh, women don't like nice guys because they're soft. They lack testosterone and that's what really attracts females. When you're waiting on your lady hand and foot she's only losing respect for you because that's sucka shyt. You're only making yourself valuable as a servant, not as a real man who will protect her and fukk her brains out.

That's the reality of the situation. You can keep playing the nice guy and keep losing or wise up to the way of the animal kingdom.

I disagree, a guy would better off being a lame or soft. I've seen these types of guys snatch up women. Especially in college, I've seen lames snatch up that dimed out pre-med or pre-law students.

You can't even put the nice guy in the soft category, they are in a whole different breed. They want something in return for their niceness, its all about appearances.

Someone said it best nice guys are shallow, they are cursory in their depth and numbing in their approach.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Same topics recycled over and over

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

I disagree, a guy would better off being a lame or soft. I've seen these types of guys snatch up women. Especially in college, I've seen lames snatch up that dimed out pre-med or pre-law students.

You can't even put the nice guy in the soft category, they are in a whole different breed. They want something in return for their niceness, its all about appearances.

Someone said it best nice guys are shallow, they are cursory in their depth and numbing in their approach.

Doesn't matter if you disagree, it's biology, breh. So you can disagree with that.

Those nice guys got it twisted because the world doesn't work like that, bartering niceness for x. Those guys pretty much turn into doormats. Women don't respect them. And they're usually bitter and mad at the world, doing favor after favor and never getting what they bargained for. And they're usually uptight trying to keep up a perfect nice guy image instead just being easy. Uncomfortable and unconfident. Insecure. These traits drive women away. Drives them to the opposite of that.

Those guys usually get caught up in the #GMB stories because their women are attracted to more masculine, virile men. This is how iit works with every species on Earth, breh.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Let me give a different perspective. Not "Nice guy", not bad boy.
A couple of my exes were good guys. Not only were they good to me, they were good to every other girl.

Paying people's rent, cock-blocking and helping keep simps away, being a listening ear, babysitter and a shoulder to cry on.

That doesn't sound like bad things, but people need to respect boundaries and stay in their lane. I don't mind my man having female friends, especially if they've been friends long before I came in the picture. Im just not trying to be one of many.

 

[Arithmetic]

You don't need too lol. Thanks, hun.

By the end of the year. I should be back on my feet.

Don't mention it.

 

[Youseenmywork]

A good guy can still be a good guy but not the right guy for you.

I would like to see what the "next guy" posses that the previous didnt.

 

[Soon]

Doesn't matter if you disagree, it's biology, breh. So you can disagree with that.

Those nice guys got it twisted because the world doesn't work like that, bartering niceness for x. Those guys pretty much turn into doormats. Women don't respect them. And they're usually bitter and mad at the world, doing favor after favor and never getting what they bargained for. And they're usually uptight trying to keep up a perfect nice guy image instead just being easy. Uncomfortable and unconfident. Insecure. These traits drive women away. Drives them to the opposite of that.

Those guys usually get caught up in the #GMB stories because their women are attracted to more masculine, virile men. This is how iit works with every species on Earth, breh.

What are you talking about? I said "nice guys" and lames/softies are two different animals.

Nice guys are in a whole league of their own. Nice guys = "And they're usually uptight trying to keep up a perfect nice guy image instead just being easy. Uncomfortable and unconfident. Insecure."

There are tons of lames/softies who gets married, not everyone is macho.