The single parenting thread

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

So, long story short, going through a divorce and I have been having custody of my daughter (better socioeconomic conditions, mama needs to set herself up in a new city), and I wanted to talk about parenting techniques, specifically as it pertains to a father raising his daughter.
Had to find a hairdresser (luckily my daughter has dreads), and I have had to step up my parenting skills considerably.
On some real shyt, I am trying to find ways to get my daughter to see the benefits of doing her chores and stuff without relying on punitive punishments as an impetus.
Are any others on here parents? I would like to hear what others do and compare/contrast. Right now I got my daughter on a points system, where she gains points for doing the right thing and completing the homework/chores I give her. I take away points for detrimental behavior instead of corporal punishment.
What are some other techniques used for parenting?

I am not lost out here, but i felt I can't be the only single parent on here, that's why I am making this thread.

 

[Kwéyòl]

What ever happen till death do us part

 

[cheek100]

How old is she?

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

How old is she?

8

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

What ever happen till death do us part

Life breh but its cool, and i wish her the best

 

[cheek100]

8

Ok well the trick with girls is u gotta outsmart them. Easier said than done.
Punishment is key to them understanding rules.
Don't wanna wash dishes? Ok no tv
Stand on it like a rock. Otherwise u doing her a disservice.

Does her moms undermine your rules to make u look like the bad guy?

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

Ok well the trick with girls is u gotta outsmart them. Easier said than done.
Punishment is key to them understanding rules.
Don't wanna wash dishes? Ok no tv
Stand on it like a rock. Otherwise u doing her a disservice.

Does her moms undermine your rules to make u look like the bad guy?

Her mom is far away and hasn't seen her since she left. She will see her in the summer, but she trusts me with this process, so she doesn't give me too much flack. I do the no tv thing, but at the same time, instead of coercing her to do things to get a reward, I want her to see the benefit in doing these things.
I guess long story short I hate playing the bad guy all the time. How can I instill discipline in her without having to do that? I been doing it for a while now and I see the toll it's taking on our relationship. I don't want her growing up to resent me just because I tried to put her on the right track

 

[Kwéyòl]

Life breh but its cool, and i wish her the best

You ain't try to work on it breh

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

You ain't try to work on it breh

People grow apart and go through differences. Can't work on it when both hearts done moved on. I could have kept her, but I felt like it was time for both of us to move on and find happiness rather than put on for 50 years faking it with love n hip hop drama

 

[Mfalme_Perez]

My daughter is only three so I'm not at that level yet. My best advice is to love her to death. Don't do anything in front of her that you wouldn't want any other person to do to her. Most of all, tell her how beautiful she is. I personally sit in front of the mirror with my baby girl and show her how beautiful she is. "Look how beautiful your hair, skin, eyes are." She'll appreciate it.

Much love to you and your fam.

 

[cheek100]

Her mom is far away and hasn't seen her since she left. She will see her in the summer, but she trusts me with this process, so she doesn't give me too much flack. I do the no tv thing, but at the same time, instead of coercing her to do things to get a reward, I want her to see the benefit in doing these things.
I guess long story short I hate playing the bad guy all the time. How can I instill discipline in her without having to do that? I been doing it for a while now and I see the toll it's taking on our relationship. I don't want her growing up to resent me just because I tried to put her on the right track

We got a lot of the same shyt going on. I'll say this about daughters (have 2) they love they pops. It ain't really nothing u can do that will break that bond. But u gotta be the mean guy if u the only parent. She'll grow up hearing most everyone tell her nothing but "good n nice" things. YOUR job is to prepare her for the worlds ugly side. She's gotta see strength in u so she don't "find" another mans strength. Dig?
She won't resent u unless u hurt her or neglect her. When she's in college (God willing) she'll thank u for raising her tough.

 

[Stuntone]

"Spare the rod, spoil the child"

Whip that azz bruh.

 

[Prince Mongo]

I ain't got no kids, but if I did, I'd know not to ask the coli for parenting advice

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

I ain't got no kids, but if I did, I'd know not to ask the coli for parenting advice

im sorry you've never been intimate enough to make a child. Shut the fukk up and stop with the wack ass facade.

 

[4North1Side2]

So, long story short, going through a divorce and I have been having custody of my daughter (better socioeconomic conditions, mama needs to set herself up in a new city), and I wanted to talk about parenting techniques, specifically as it pertains to a father raising his daughter.
Had to find a hairdresser (luckily my daughter has dreads), and I have had to step up my parenting skills considerably.
On some real shyt, I am trying to find ways to get my daughter to see the benefits of doing her chores and stuff without relying on punitive punishments as an impetus.
Are any others on here parents? I would like to hear what others do and compare/contrast. Right now I got my daughter on a points system, where she gains points for doing the right thing and completing the homework/chores I give her. I take away points for detrimental behavior instead of corporal punishment.
What are some other techniques used for parenting?

I am not lost out here, but i felt I can't be the only single parent on here, that's why I am making this thread.

Lead by example. From day 1, my sons always seen me washing dishes, sweeping, vacuuming, taking out garbage, dusting, scrubbing, mopping, cleaning clothes, etc

When I start cleaning, I ask them to help like (jadyn, vacuum the floor while I clean this dishes please)

I usually hear no complaints. My sons are ages 7 and 9.