The single parenting thread

[Taadow]

Lead by example. From day 1, my sons always seen me washing dishes, sweeping, vacuuming, taking out garbage, dusting, scrubbing, mopping, cleaning clothes, etc

When I start cleaning, I ask them to help like (jadyn, vacuum the floor while I clean this dishes please)

I usually hear no complaints. My sons are ages 7 and 9.

This here.

It lets them know you're not asking them to do anything you wouldn't do.
...and by doing this, you show them (and it doesn't hurt to tell them) they have a part in the house moving smooth if they do it.

The inverse, you have to show them how things can go wrong if they don't. Like:

- if they never put things back where they belong, you have to point that out when they lose something they needed.
- Or if they don't wake up and brush their teeth/wash their face/get dressed but somebody invites them to do something,
you gotta say "no" and explain they can't because they're not ready.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Listen, respect and value your children. Dont be a tyrant. Remember, positive reinforcement. You dont want to only punish. You want to reward them for a job well done. Even just acknowledgement and a compliment goes a long way.

Take your daughter out at least once a month. Have a daddy/daughter day. Ask her about her life, do things she enjoys, try something new. Children are little adults in training. They still want to be valued and respected. Try not to belittle them or treat them like a nuisance.

Also, especially for teens and tweens. Make sure you address any issues you have with them, with them and not just talk about the problem to others. They want to be talked to and not talked about. Let her know that she can come to your for anything.

Again, LISTEN! Value and respect. God gave you two ears and only one mouth for a reason.

 

[Dominicansbelit]

So, long story short, going through a divorce and I have been having custody of my daughter (better socioeconomic conditions, mama needs to set herself up in a new city), and I wanted to talk about parenting techniques, specifically as it pertains to a father raising his daughter.
Had to find a hairdresser (luckily my daughter has dreads), and I have had to step up my parenting skills considerably.
On some real shyt, I am trying to find ways to get my daughter to see the benefits of doing her chores and stuff without relying on punitive punishments as an impetus.
Are any others on here parents? I would like to hear what others do and compare/contrast. Right now I got my daughter on a points system, where she gains points for doing the right thing and completing the homework/chores I give her. I take away points for detrimental behavior instead of corporal punishment.
What are some other techniques used for parenting?

I am not lost out here, but i felt I can't be the only single parent on here, that's why I am making this thread.

I never had a child.. but I think as soon as you give them too much instant gratification they will become spoiled.. Try giving your kids only the necessities and they will learn to appreciate the extra things in life after they earned it..

 

[Swirv]

Her mom is far away and hasn't seen her since she left. She will see her in the summer, but she trusts me with this process, so she doesn't give me too much flack. I do the no tv thing, but at the same time, instead of coercing her to do things to get a reward, I want her to see the benefit in doing these things.
I guess long story short I hate playing the bad guy all the time. How can I instill discipline in her without having to do that? I been doing it for a while now and I see the toll it's taking on our relationship. I don't want her growing up to resent me just because I tried to put her on the right track

You're setting yourself up to bend your rules. Don't overthink the process of raising her. Your system should be consistent or else she will take advantage of your weakness.

When you and your ex were together, was your ex the main disciplinarian?

 

[Prince Mongo]

im sorry you've never been intimate enough to make a child. Shut the fukk up and stop with the wack ass facade.

Weird ass nikka, wtf facade am I supposed to be putting on? Do you know me irl gay ass nikka? Wtf did you even quote as if I was talking to your fakkit ass? Sissy ass nikka your child is doomed because he has a sissy a father who is so stupid he has to ask anonymous nikkas on an internet forum for parental advice. I know if you told your mama you need advice on parenting from a internet forum, she'd be embarrassed. Gay ass internet geek ass nikka wasn't nobody talking to you in the first place

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Going thru divorce sucks. My ex is currently avoiding my lawyer smh. I was trying to have this shyt wrapped up by now but shes bullshytting. Anyway I have a little girl who is 7 so I can relate. I only have her 3 nights a week but its all school nights. All I can do is be the type of man that Id want her to be with

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Weird ass nikka, wtf facade am I supposed to be putting on? Do you know me irl gay ass nikka? Wtf did you even quote as if I was talking to your fakkit ass? Sissy ass nikka your child is doomed because he has a sissy a father who is so stupid he has to ask anonymous nikkas on an internet forum for parental advice. I know if you told your mama you need advice on parenting from a internet forum, she'd be embarrassed. Gay ass internet geek ass nikka wasn't nobody talking to you in the first place

foh breh