The Undisputable REAL reason why there's so many deadbeat fathers and single mothers in the hood

[Kenny West]

I'm actually going to co-sign a bit. Mainly cause I know dudes who accidentally seeded up decent chicks and stayed with her and even more who seeded unworthy chicks and TRIED to make it work. The single parent/child support life aint the wave and nikkas know it but when they knock up trash they aint even gonna attempt to play house.

And can you blame em? Once the mom sheds the baby weight she'll be back to being the same person she was before for better or worse. So if she a hoe and you know it you gotta make the choice between a nikka fukkin your crazy bm or a nikka fukkin your girl/wife/mother of your kids. Both are a bad look but which one causes the most damage is a no brainer at that point.

With all this said tho, it's related but not the crux of the problem. Main problem is responsibility plain and simple.

 

[Raiders]

Young dudes are filled with foolish pride, I know a dude who takes care of the kid, but isn't looking for a relationship with his BM for this exact reason. I agree with the single mother part


Deadbeat gon deadbeat tho

 

[wickedsm]

If you could do a survey on this shyt you would see.


Most times than not the daddy and the mama both have mutual acquaintances

isnt that true of a great deal of relationships? people meet at work or school or grew up together same neighborhood or city?

my husband and i lived in 2 different staes when we met and even when i was younger i dated guys from out of town so i have no experience with
this that yall are talking about.

 

[SirReginald]

1-starred for idiocy

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

isnt that true of a great deal of relationships? people meet at work or school or grew up together same neighborhood or city?

my husband and i lived in 2 different staes when we met and even when i was younger i dated guys from out of town so i have no experience with
this that yall are talking about.

It's true for Single Mothers for sure. Everybody else ain't what I'm talkin about Luv

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

@princess125 I see you spreading negative energy in the Thread runnin around here givin nikkaz daps.


how do you figure it's idiotic? What makes it untrue, is there anything you'd like to add

 

[Woman of god]

@princess125 I see you spreading negative energy in the Thread runnin around here givin nikkaz daps.


how do you figure it's idiotic? What makes it untrue, is there anything you'd like to add

Lol Ur really gonna drag as many pages as u can out of this thread huh? I don't have a lot of experience with this topic other than to say there is a myriad of explanations for fatherless homes, but I don't think ur reason is one of them

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

Lol Ur really gonna drag as many pages as u can out of this thread huh? I don't have a lot of experience with this topic other than to say there is a myriad of explanations for fatherless homes, but I don't think ur reason is one of them

I just want the good shyt.



But how you figure that that's not even an option? How old are you?

 

[ZEupTWN]

*Sighs*

the main issue is that there isn't any importance placed on true love.....when quite a few black men think of true love...they think of living in some fantasy world...when true love is just developing a connection/bond with a woman that leads to marriage....it's that simple...I don't know what's so impossible about it...unless you are just afraid of genuine communication/connection with a woman....a stable foundation between a man and a woman builds successful families....


if we have a lot of black men out here who only base their existence around cheap thrills...is it any wonder what starts all this mess?!?.....

some black men claim they are the "leaders"...but when talk of this pops up...it's always someone else's fault...and it doesn't add up...since black men supposedly are the "leaders" of the black community...

Deep.

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

Deep.

It's deep but it doesn't really discuss the what

 

[The ADD]

*Sighs*

the main issue is that there isn't any importance placed on true love.....when quite a few black men think of true love...they think of living in some fantasy world...when true love is just developing a connection/bond with a woman that leads to marriage....it's that simple...I don't know what's so impossible about it...unless you are just afraid of genuine communication/connection with a woman....a stable foundation between a man and a woman builds successful families....


if we have a lot of black men out here who only base their existence around cheap thrills...is it any wonder what starts all this mess?!?.....

some black men claim they are the "leaders"...but when talk of this pops up...it's always someone else's fault...and it doesn't add up...since black men supposedly are the "leaders" of the black community...

They think that way because we all know what the connotation of "true love" is. Based on that term most men don't develop feelings for a woman in that regard.

It seems ticky-tack but if the proposed solution is to get men to feel comfortable with that term (that might not be what you are saying) it's not worth capital compared to what the end goal is.

 

[cam>]

bottom line is these dudes just want freedom.

They value it over literally anything else.

They don't want responsibilities and obligations of any sort.

They want freedom, even when it's empty or destructive.

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

bottom line is these dudes just want freedom.

They value it over literally anything else.

They don't want responsibilities and obligations of any sort.

They want freedom, even when it's empty or destructive.

That's not really it tho. Irresponsibility is more anecdotal than what people believe


A real nikka not just gonna up and leave his seed for absolutely no reason at all. There's always something there and this is usually it


I'm dead ass serious too

 

[cam>]

That's not really it tho. Irresponsibility is more anecdotal than what people believe


A real nikka not just gonna up and leave his seed for absolutely no reason at all. There's always something there and this is usually it


I'm dead ass serious too

i asked you before, and you didn't answer.

when your dad did it to your mom, was it because she was ran through by other dudes your dad knew?

or does this theory only apply to everyone else except your mother?

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

i asked you before, and you didn't answer.

when your dad did it to your mom, was it because she was ran through by other dudes your dad knew?

or does this theory only apply to everyone else except your mother?

Actually my mom met my dad when she was 17 and got married to the nikka at 20. They were never divorced and she worked for a living but still played her [correct] role in life. You wish your mom was as Trill as mine



You on the other hand

Which is why you're upset at this Topic and you're trying to take your pent up anger out on me.


I knew this Thread would touch people in a real way. Your proof of that. You're crying on the inside right now foreal, I can tell