The nikkas who have been complaining about a lack of cooperation for years are beyond help. It's a waste of time.That is what OP is stressing. But he's offering pointers and advice on how guys can level up. Not quick fixes, but long term improvements that will help get better opportunities to get with your desired partner.
Nothing wrong with the message OP is relaying. It may fall on deaf ears for the most part, but if it encourages 1 person to work harder, it was worth saying.