Man thank you so much for saying this. This conversation always brings the unlearned mf's out and it boils my fukking blood...
The n-word was mainstream before all those 60s/70s comedians...
No this is not a relevant point, because if you wanna point blame at popularizing and commercializing the n-word, I think it's bullshyt you don't place the blame at the feet of.....
the mf's who created, popularized, and commercialized the word.
Bro it's not gender specific. There are black people of both genders who let non-black people use the word with impunity...
I know of a 32-year old black woman who told me last month, that her Mexican homegirl in San Antonio uses the shyt all the time, and she never checked her on it because "that's just how she grew up"...
I'd be sitting all day and never be able to remember how many black folk of both genders I've seen give all kinds of non-blacks the pass...
Your point on hearing black men use it recklessly around non blacks, it's kinda incredulous to me if you've never heard some black women do the same...
We live in a society where amongst us as a community, a third of us truly detest non blacks using it, a third of us embrace nonblacks using it, and another third of us are indifferent and choose not to police how other people talk or feel. That's a truth as real as any about Black Americans---->we have no consensus on the issue...
When it comes to blame for the popularity of the word, it goes squarely and completely at the feet of Honkie America. They made the fukking word up, applied it as a slur, and for any dumb comment about NWA or hip hop or anybody black or anything BLACK making the shyt mainstream.......I suggest mf's go educate themselves on American literature before being black was seen as mainstream cool. American literature used to have FAR less censorship and everything from journals to comics to newspapers to early film are, quite literally, LITTERED with the gotdamn n-word all over the shyt...
WWAAAAAAYYYYYYYYY before "being black" was ever a popular, cool thing, the n-word was already cool and en vogue. In actuality the word was in popular usage when being black was way the fukk more dangerous than it is today, and much, much less accepted or tolerated or faux-beloved...
This anger and rant isn't directed to you specifically g, but I really, really hate misinformation, and even more than that....
I hate how we as BLACK PEOPLE continually, amongst ourselves, blame ourselves for hands we never fukking dealt ourselves. It makes me more sad than angry that we are so culturally indoctrinated to White American, Europeanized rhetoric, that every fukking issue about us as a community, is our fukking fault, when in actuality none of them are. We continually tell each other that we created, or spread, problems and division within us, and it's so fukking maddening and sad...
Mf's really ran in here blaming hip hop and black people for this stupid shyt

it doesn't cost a mf anything but time to try to learn and educate themselves on shyt...
I love all black people, I love being black. I don't use it around nonblacks, but I do use the n word. My kids are with black women and I exclusively date black, but I do like to fukk on nonblack women from time to time. I'm saying this to say, I'm not some militant negro who lives my life in that space of militancy. I'm hella flawed...
But sometimes I read shyt on here and the lack of awareness and true to the soul PRIDE in being BLACK stirs me. Not just this thread, plenty others. Mf's be thinking they cooking and the entire time a dearth of real love of their blackness is showing thru...
I'm out, this topic of conversation always pisses me off...