And that’s the whole point! When girls in our community are 18-25 they aren’t all being bombarded by brothas who want to MARRY THEM.
I ask, show me this large group of Black girls turning down proposals?! Women are out here getting to the bag because they don’t actually have men around trying to actually marry and provide.
This is a CULTURAL problem. Marriage and family building isn’t an actual focus in our COMMUNITY.
You might say the extremely beautiful women who “play the game” are a problem, but the average girl in our community isn’t getting attention and turning down multiple brehs trying to find a wife.
These cats are advocating smashing and running, and then complain about women when they get older. All the chicks you’re encountering were played by guys who were “having fun”, the same way you “had fun” and left those girls in the wind.
The culture doesn’t promote marriage anymore. Men and women have gone rouge.
The same way women should want to be wives is the same way men should want to be responsible husbands.
Only here to comment on the bolded none of this Andrew tate stuff.
I agree black men aren’t necessarily knocking on the doors of girls 18-25 to get married. Problem is these women in this age bracket are also looking for fun but then turn around and complain at age 30 when they can’t find a man. Or their “fun” led to them being a baby mama.
Fair or not, men can run around and have fun and not have to be concerned with their “age” or “miles” from age 18 to damn near 45 because most women don’t care about how many bodies a man has. However, whether they’ll admit or not, most men DO care about how many bodies a woman has had and are less likely to “wife” someone who has been promiscuous and has had many partners . So when a woman decides to “live her best life” and twerk in the club and have 5-8 bodies under their belt, she better do so understanding in 5-6 years when she’s now looking to settle down, she best not complain about the lack of decent men. At the very least, refraining from all that shyt in your 20’s may draw the attention of a man looking to wife you especially one that is in his 30s and is done with his “hoe phase.”
As I said, it’s not fair but it is what it is. If women want to increase their chances of having a decent man, they need to stop with the “yolo” bullshyt while they’re in their prime years. If you hoe around in your prime years and turn 33 and are happily single then cool. But don’t bytch about wanting “real love” and “nikkas ain’t shyt” after you done gave a bunch of undeserving nikkas the best parts of yourself in your prime.
I also strongly believe that many black men actually strive for wifing a chick at a young age but that’s a topic for a different day.