This dude on tik tok shows a lot of women are still cool with men talking to them in public.

[maxamusa]

OP is this thread serious? If so this goes for all people in life; don't be a creep(or smell phunky) and people will fukk with u if you cool

 

[Savvir]

Eh. I just understand what's going on for most men and what's on the horizon. Props that's it still good for you and some others.

What year did cold approaching die for you?

Like, you were getting at hoes and pulling em... then one year it all stopped?

Or are you comparing your teenage/college years to adulthood?

 

[number21]

How did it come to this?

All the propaganda that pushed about the evils of cat calling, the boom of online dating and apps, more women consistently voicing how they don't want to be bothered when they're out and about doing things.


That lead to more men becoming more self conscious about getting seen as a creep for "bothering" women and to falling back onto dating apps and social media seeing them as being safer.

 

[number21]

What year did cold approaching die for you?

Like, you were getting at hoes and pulling em... then one year it all stopped?

Or are you comparing your teenage/college years to adulthood?

Late 10s. Realized I can put more effort on online dating apps or go events where communication and having that kind of interest is fine. But I don't do apps, so it's when I go to community events.

Pulling up on random chicks were never my thing but seeing the shift tide cemented it.

 

[8WON6]

don't be a creep

now define "creep".

 

[The Wall Is Undefeated!]

now define "creep".

'Creep' or 'Creepy' is womanspeak for an ugly to average looking dude. In a western woman's narcissistic mind, any man that talks to them who happens to be ugly to average looking is automatically 'creepy'. Also, any man that's nervous and stutters his words is also a 'creep'.

 

[Wildhundreds]

All the propaganda that pushed about the evils of cat calling, the boom of online dating and apps, more women consistently voicing how they don't want to be bothered when they're out and about doing things.


That lead to more men becoming more self conscious about getting seen as a creep for "bothering" women and to falling back onto dating apps and social media seeing them as being safer.

As long as you're respectful when approaching, I don't see the problem. Maybe its a good thing that they call you a creep if you're being cordial, because i promise you its more wrong with that woman than its worth even getting the number.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

But randomly pulling up on a chick when you're out and about and using your "mouthpiece" rarely happens today and will cease to happen with the upcoming gens.

For me (not a playboy by any means) I have felt the lemon hasn’t been worth squeezing and pick my approach wisely. Sometimes I’m in the mood, other times I am chillin’.

I just know the reason why my phone is on silent and I’m not getting action is due to my lack of input, not because of the universe

I tried that “fukk it” approach and it’s a waste of time for me. I’m aware it’s a number’s game but it’s not worth it for me. It’s funny how dudes compare the dating game/Men to animals or hunters… when the latter are strategic about how they catch their prey.

 

[TheGreatMTB]

I can tell by dude's voice he's nervous. It'd probably go better if he had confidence. Also shooting straight into taking women on dates and inviting women for wine is 1000% gonna be viewed as creepy unless you match the 10/10 (6'5", muscular, well dressed, etc) man women think they can all find.


Treating them like they're normal people, having a normal conversation with them, and asking for their number is the best thing to do. Text for a bit then set up the date.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

another problem is this forum is composed of an older demographic that did not grow up with social media and dating apps being a factor in their life. Facebook, Black Planet, and MySpace were optional during that era.

 

[TheGreatMTB]

For me (not a playboy by any means) I have felt the lemon hasn’t been worth squeezing and pick my approach wisely. Sometimes I’m in the mood, other times I am chillin’.

I just know the reason why my phone is on silent and I’m not getting action is due to my lack of input, not because of the universe

I tried that “fukk it” approach and it’s a waste of time for me. I’m aware it’s a number’s game but it’s not worth it for me. It’s funny how dudes compare the dating game/Men to animals or hunters… when the latter are strategic about how they catch their prey.

the game would be a lot more efficient if women shot their shot. They shoot 90% from the field and still refuse to do it. Meanwhile if you're a dude and you're pulling half the women you talk to you're putting up insane numbers.

 

[Still Benefited]

his only issue was that he was moving too fast. Asking for a dinner date by the second sentence.

Making your intentions clear always works best.

 

[Still Benefited]

another problem is this forum is composed of an older demographic that did not grow up with social media and dating apps being a factor in their life. Facebook, Black Planet, and MySpace were optional during that era.

Most of these posters didnt grow up cold approaching either. Truth is,not a damn thing happened other than a few viral videos about catcalling on social media. And a few thousand women cosigning tweets about wanting to be left alone. Its simply confirmation bias,for men who never cold approached women in the first place("See! I was right not to approach these mean bytches")


Theres not a man on earth who had one method of attracting women that worked. And he just decides to abandon it because random women on social media said they didnt like it. Not the women he was approaching saying they didnt like it,but random strangers

 

[RaspberryFitted]

the game would be a lot more efficient if women shot their shot. They shoot 90% from the field and still refuse to do it.

ironically this is what the current/younger generation of Men have been expressing, yet are being told they’re scared or incels.


still, a man should have a animalistic element to him. One that goes after whatever he wants with reckless (respectfully) intent. One with a sense of audacity and boldness that have the room like “he really tried that shyt “ or one that’s confident in his abilities and leaves everything on the table

 

[Budda]

Cold approaching will never die.