Giving your daughter some licks while telling her to stop being "stank" is a great way to generate a plethora of other insecurities and issues that she will carry on for the rest of her life and replicate in other, ugly ways. That girls needs a grown black woman to sit her down and talk to her about self-respect, attention and love. Forcing a child to be a certain way never works; you need to help them understand the options they have, the consequences, and allow them to identify on their own the type of individual they want to be and how they ideally want to carry themselves throughout their life.