This Recently Married Man Just Realized Marriage Is Not For Him.

[No_bammer_weed]

Anyways, yeah marriage is like the ultimate tricking event in America. I don't condone paying for sex but damn if u gonna have this mentality and think your wife comes before u, might as well trick off on prostitutes. Dudes like this make me not want to marry an American chick.

The idea is to marry someone who is like minded, who puts you above herself, so that you are both living and working towards the happiness of another. Where the problem develops, is that so many cats give the rings and big bellies to either the first chick that will give them some ass, regardless of intelligence or temperament, and/or the chick with the cutest face or biggest ass....then these cats whine, bytch, and moan when these relationships end in disaster, and want to smear the gender as a whole, and the concept of marriage.

 

[MikelArteta]

I will go into it next time, with the understanding that it is work. I'll go into it wanting to make the other person happy before myself.

I did.... but I was living in the day to day, and I think I went with what I thought I 'should' do since we had been together so long.

why sacrifice?

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

why sacrifice?

?

 

[Ricky Church]

 

[QuintessentialBM]

No. In life, what I want most is to be happy. If I settle, that doesn't translate to happiness...just ensures that I'm not "lonely" which is less important to me.

People say that but everyone has a breaking point. The time will eventually come where it's like.... Ok, I'm unhappy being alone, I really need to try to find a relationship/marriage because I want A, B & C. You mean to tell me you won't ever get to that point.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

my grandfather gave me marriage advice over the weekend. simple things yet gold nonetheless.

1. "women arent meant to be understood, only loved. nobody will ever fully understand them"

2. "it takes 2 to argue. if she wants to nag u, let her and dont fight back if it isnt a big deal. she will get tired of nagging by herself and just shut herself up but if u keep going back and forth she will start fights just to get ur attention"

he's been married 51 years so he must be right.

my wedding is in 25 days brehs

This is gold, although I already knew this.

Good luck on your marriage and congrats.

 

[MikelArteta]

?

ll go into it wanting to make the other person happy before myself.

why sacrifice your happiness?

 

[MikelArteta]

People say that but everyone has a breaking point. The time will eventually come where it's like.... Ok, I'm unhappy being alone, I really need to try to find a relationship/marriage because I want A, B & C. You mean to tell me you won't ever get to that point.

All women get to that point except nuns.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

ll go into it wanting to make the other person happy before myself.

why sacrifice your happiness?

Nah- I was just referring to what this whole thread was talking about. If I'm staying in the relationship, I'm clearly happy. But next time I won't be as selfish.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

All women get to that point except nuns.

Well I know that but you get what I'm saying. She won't be singing that same tune at like 40 if she's still unmarried without children.

 

[MikelArteta]

Well I know that but you get what I'm saying. She won't be singing that same tune at like 40 if she's still unmarried without children.

as my breh @kevm3 would say attention = a women currency, once that slowly erodes a female thought patterns changes.

 

[Bender Rodriguez]

people think marriage is some ish that just happens and life goes on. Nah you gotta work at that ish every fukkin day. Some days you do good, others are fukk ups and you learn. I do think marriage is for the other person but its 2 ways. One had washes the other. i didnt know this, my wife wanted to do everything together and be a family and i was trying to do my own thing while have a wife and kid and it doesnt work that way, like i posted before i learned the hard way. No one ever gave me talk about marriage, i dove in thinking it was peaches and cream

 

[MikelArteta]

people think marriage is some ish that just happens and life goes on. Nah you gotta work at that ish every fukkin day. Some days you do good, others are fukk ups and you learn. I do think marriage is for the other person but its 2 ways. One had washes the other. i didnt know this, my wife wanted to do everything together and be a family and i was trying to do my own thing while have a wife and kid and it doesnt work that way, like i posted before i learned the hard way. No one ever gave me talk about marriage, i dove in thinking it was peaches and cream

how long you been married for?

what was the hard way?

would you recommend marriage?

 

[keon]

The idea is to marry someone who is like minded, who puts you above herself, so that you are both living and working towards the happiness of another. Where the problem develops, is that so many cats give the rings and big bellies to either the first chick that will give them some ass, regardless of intelligence or temperament, and/or the chick with the cutest face or biggest ass....then these cats whine, bytch, and moan when these relationships end in disaster, and want to smear the gender as a whole, and the concept of marriage.

i stopped posting in tlr becuz of all the scorned & bitter dudes postin & whinning about a broad in this bytch..but i gotta c/s everything you said

 

[Desirous]

People say that but everyone has a breaking point. The time will eventually come where it's like.... Ok, I'm unhappy being alone, I really need to try to find a relationship/marriage because I want A, B & C. You mean to tell me you won't ever get to that point.

I can't honestly tell you how I will feel 5,6,10 yrs from now. Just knowing my personality and the fact that I haven't settled for boyfriends in the past, tells me that it's not really in my personality...but maybe down the road, I will feel I "need" a companion vs wanting one.