Those of yall 27+ and older, has it become easier to find the type of mate you've wanted

[Originalman]

I am 27 and have been married since 22. In my opinion, I would say the longer you wait, the harder it is to find a mate. By “mate”, I mean a woman that you can get along with, are attracted to, that doesn’t have any children.

If you find a woman who has good morals, good hygiene, takes care of herself, you find attractive, you get along with, has no children and is ready to settle down....you better scoop her up before someone else does or before she’s compromised. I don’t really believe in “soulmates”. As a man, I believe in finding someone like I stated above, and molding her (not changing her) into your soulmate. You both have to tolerate each other and things will never be perfect, though.

Real talk

 

[HoloGraphic]

Turning 27 in two months. I just hope my career gives me more oppurtunities to meet women.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You don't find the type of mate you want, You can only find the one that irritates you the least.

Ain't this the fukking truth.

 

[Stuntone]

It doesnt get easier, if youre not getting your type in your 20s, youre probably not going to unless you have some major changes.

im in my 30s. i had 4 girlfriend all my types. Usually take a year to find her when im single. Since ive hit 30, it seems harder to find the looks and mind i want. i have a great girl right now, but if we breakup im probably going to be single for a long time. The game is getting worse.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

But wouldn't those be the same exact women you'd be with anyway when you're 23? Women are gonna be that way no matter what your age is.

You see what I'm saying right?

I mean I don't know how cats in here mature but the man I am now and type of womam i want at this stage is way different then what I wanted at 23.

 

[Listen]

I was 30 when I got married, had a kid, bought a house etc and that shyt wasn't a day too early for how immature I was. I could have never been one of those 24 year old husbands.

I can tell you this though..the key in my mind is more than you need a woman, you need to be ok being alone with yourself first. I got so many friends who simply cannot be alone and are always looking for a warm body instead of the right body.

The second thing is if you want a woman who isn't a thot or a broken person, you gotta eat your own dog food. If you want a nice girl with good morals and some sort of backbone, it's only fair to think she might be looking for the same thing, so don't be trifling ass dude.

Waiting is hard AF though sometimes, but I found that if your being true to yourself, and are worthy of respect and love, you will find the same thing when the time is right.

 

[International Playa]

Top quality women get snapped up real quick, the older you get the less quality women of your age range.

Quantity of women is there but quality decreases

 

[International Playa]

@Shadow King you kick a lot of good game, just that the negativity about yourself sometimes overshadows some the gems you spit

 

[MikelArteta]

I was 30 when I got married, had a kid, bought a house etc and that shyt wasn't a day too early for how immature I was. I could have never been one of those 24 year old husbands.

I can tell you this though..the key in my mind is more than you need a woman, you need to be ok being alone with yourself first. I got so many friends who simply cannot be alone and are always looking for a warm body instead of the right body.

The second thing is if you want a woman who isn't a thot or a broken person, you gotta eat your own dog food. If you want a nice girl with good morals and some sort of backbone, it's only fair to think she might be looking for the same thing, so don't be trifling ass dude.

Waiting is hard AF though sometimes, but I found that if your being true to yourself, and are worthy of respect and love, you will find the same thing when the time is right.

Listen to Listen

 

[Vandelay]

It's easier to get women as you get older...

The ones you want...not so much.

I coulda got so many dimes from 17 to 23 but I was a p*ssy. Now I get mad women who choose up on me, actually attractive women...but they have baggage.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

If you have your life together, it shouldnt be hard at all. Anything over 30 is going to be super easy. Remember those ignore texts and curves etc. Won't happen much. Like someone said, high competition for mid 20ish.

 

[Shadow King]

@Shadow King you kick a lot of good game, just that the negativity about yourself sometimes overshadows some the gems you spit

I experience sexual invisibility daily, and for legit reasons. Most men may struggle or fail at who they think they're entitled to but they aren't necessarily invisible. I have traits that may work in my favor but all become apparent AFTER getting my foot in the door. I currently have no tangible qualities to get my foot in the door.

There was no fast ass girl to gobble my dikk up everyday in 8th grade to instill that arrogance and entitlement that enables men with nothing to offer the conviction to get p*ssy and companionship anyway. I didn't go to a 4-year college and dorm to build a bridge between the familiarity with girls built in high school and the freedoms of adulthood. I rap and I'm good at it but I don't look the part and that's had a nice part in stopping me from resonating with people, so there's no status. I'm not a 6 foot-plus square-jawed undiscovered model type so women aren't going to succumb physically.

I could "play the game" and go 3 for 1000 over the next year trying to do shyt to overcome being behind the curve with things that are supposed to open up the sex/dating game (lies, half-truths, making investments in clothes I can't afford right now, dropping money I don't have on motels every time I want to fukk) but I'll be do my myself a better service by simply just doing what I'm supposed to do for myself. When I need to bust a nut that's not in my hand there's a couple BP hoes I can rely on for that. But outside of that I need to be doing shyt I should've done 5 years ago, and that's a mentally demanding list.

 

[International Playa]

@Supreme Leader Reinscarf

Any advice on getting success on online dating sites? Do you always message the women first?

I want to open a profile on match

 

[tater]

it's been easier to date i've had yes i keep count 24 dates with different women since November, all were attractive all but one had no kids, all had a great career, all were black women between 29-34.

I probably would have entered a relationship with a good percentage of them, but not ready to be in a relationship after just being engaged last year

All these women care is that you're ambitious and have a good career and no kids, and because I'm a christian and I go to church its just an added bonus as all these chicks are religious and there are no men in the church anymore.

What happened with your engagement? If you don't mind telling...

 

[How Sway?]

Granted im 26 but It seems easier and harder at the same time.

Unless you live in a big major city, good luck finding a woman over 22 with no kids. Esp if you're into black and latin women.