Thoughts on Physical Punishment of Children?

[SupaDupaFresh]

I'm not a parent but I think talking and reasoning with your child like a human being would be the key to whatever discipline you use.

If you choose to spank them explain what they did wrong and why you need them to follow your direction. Hitting without any type of explanation or acknowledgement that they're a human being you're purposefully hurting will only lead to resentment.

Truth be told in the black community a lot of parents think they're above doing that.

Yep. Classic black parenting is that children are seen and not heard. That the golden standard of raising a "good child" is straight As and silence. Which these obnoxious parents reinforce by force and not hard work. Then blow up like they're the victim being hurt by someone ungrateful for their "care" and support when the child grows up and speaks up like adults are suppose to do.

And when this child wants answers for some of the worst and most unreasonable behaviors they endured from them and has affected them they will runaway and even lie about the past.

These are not good parents. Just lazy ones.

 

[OfTheCross]

Are you going to hit your children? Why or why not? I had this argument with one of my homies who said that he will definitely hit his children. He said that's what kept him straight growing up.

I've always been against hitting your children as a form of punishment. Research has found that physical punishment is both ineffective and bad for children's development.

All options are on the table. A spanking does not equal child abuse

 

[OfTheCross]

Never had (both of my kids) and so glad we didn't spank.

One in college now and the other in HS.

Never could understand what folks strategy for discipline would become when they got too old (and big) to spank?

U look like a punk in my opinion, oh you can hit a 6 year old but now that they are 16, you don't want the smoke?

Good job. I'm of the opinion that if you gotta spank a kid last Kindergarten you're on the wrong path

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

I'm for it. In this life, somebody WILL or will TRY to put hands on you. It's best to learn that from parents as a correction for bad behavior.


I said this before on here but that's white kid's problem. Them weirdos grow up with no "spankings" and the minute they get to Jr High and someone pushes or punches them, their whole world shatters. They don't know how to process it so now they're ready to shoot up the whole school

Nah breh. Beating your kids all the time does not teach them how to fight. You're not raising their muscle mass or toughened up their flesh with every swipe of the belt. In fact beating your kids teaches them the EXACT opposite, which is how to accept abuse from others.

Kids learn how to stand up and speak for and defend themselves from parents who engage with them when they are troubled and allow them to do just that.

Kids who were beaten all the time often end up either emotionally unregulated psychos with severe mental issues, who have learned its okay to take out their internal struggles on others by satisfying themselves with others pain (consider that every serial killer, ever, was raised on beatings and spankings).

Or they end up meek pushovers who dont know how to speak for, pursue, or satisfy their needs, fear conflict, live their adult lives with depressing inhibitions to explore and experience their own lives, often end up in horrible relationships that puts them back in that comfort zone of feeling protected and loved by someone domineering and abusive.

It never ends up well.

I had a "tough" father who thought he was making me tough by beating me silly if I so much as put my shirt on backwards...at the age of 4. He thought he was making me tough but I have been in therapy for years figuring out so much behavioral issues as an adult that stem back to those times. Issues involving my career goals and success, anxieties, fear of speaking up sometimes, fear of deep relationships. Always seeing every opportunity in life with disaster scenarios.

I would rather choke on air than put my kid or any black child through what I go through to this day all because of that shyt my parents thought would make me "strong" and "prepared" for the world. It didn't do shyt but damage me, hold back my every potential, and keep me stuck in a life of constant fear...until now man. God bless some folks out there.

 

[MajesticLion]

 

[Buddy]

Nah breh. Beating your kids all the time does not teach them how to fight. You're not raising their muscle mass or toughened up their flesh with every swipe of the belt. In fact beating your kids teaches them the EXACT opposite, which is how to accept abuse from others.

Kids learn how to stand up and speak for and defend themselves from parents who engage with them when they are troubled and allow them to do just that.

Kids who were beaten all the time often end up either emotionally unregulated psychos with severe mental issues, who have learned its okay to take out their internal struggles on others by satisfying themselves with others pain (consider that every serial killer, ever, was raised on beatings and spankings).

Or they end up meek pushovers who dont know how to speak for, pursue, or satisfy their needs, fear conflict, live their adult lives with depressing inhibitions to explore and experience their own lives, often end up in horrible relationships that puts them back in that comfort zone of feeling protected and loved by someone domineering and abusive.

It never ends up well.

I had a "tough" father who thought he was making me tough by beating me silly if I so much as put my shirt on backwards...at the age of 4. He thought he was making me tough but I have been in therapy for years figuring out so much behavioral issues as an adult that stem back to those times. Issues involving my career goals and success, anxieties, fear of speaking up sometimes, fear of deep relationships. Always seeing every opportunity in life with disaster scenarios.

I would rather choke on air than put my kid or any black child through what I go through to this day all because of that shyt my parents thought would make me "strong" and "prepared" for the world. It didn't do shyt but damage me, hold back my every potential, and keep me stuck in a life of constant fear...until now man. God bless some folks out there.

Where did I say "beating your kids all the time"? Yall are coming up with your own interpretations of what people condone

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

Every one of the handful of times I got the belt, I knew exactly why I got it.

Maybe you know why you got it, but do you remember taking any real lesson away from it other than "don't do it again"?

 

[the bossman]

Black people need to let go of that slave bullshyt. Then we wonder why so many of us are violent and have no form of conflict resolution.

@Matt504 @OfTheCross

What about African cultures that have been doing it since before slavery

 

[the bossman]

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Where did I say "beating your kids all the time"? Yall are coming up with your own interpretations of what people condone

This topic always gets folks triggered

 

[The Pledge]

All options are on the table. A spanking does not equal child abuse

This. My wife works in social services. Spanking isn’t abuse. If you hit a child hard enough to leave a mark that last over night, you’ve gone too far.

I’ve seen the horror stories almost daily, there’s some mother fukkers out here straight torturing their offspring.

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

Proverbs13:24
He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.

This is why the black community is fukked up. Still practicing and emulating the behaviors of our oppressors, including their selective hypocritical Bible thumping while dehumanizing others, and the "suffer now, your reward is in heaven" miserable living.

White parents raise their kids and their homes with maturity and respect. They learn and practice new and progressive methods of engaging with kids and maintaining a healthy family that work and raises their kids to be the next generation of fearless and respectable leaders in this world that reflects the healthy environment they were given. But black parents wanna take that same Bible that was shoved in our faces as property to white people 600 years ago, pass it down generation after generation and teach our own kids how to be quiet, obedient, battered slaves to a master with mental issues. That, or how to be whacked out "tough" domestic terrorists.

Amd then we wonder why our kids are nuts in the street and falling behind when others are getting ahead. We want to talk about abusive systemic racism holding our youth back. We got to talk about abusive, systemic, shytty, lazy, Bible based parenting plaguing our communities.

Beating does NOT work. And black parents who think just following a Bible verse and calling it a day is "parenting" are the worst. The WORST. Lazy and dumb. Put down the Bible, put down the belt, and ENGAGE with your children.

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

No, I have a 7-year-old and have not had to spank/beat or use any form of corporal punishment. Studies have shown doing so leads to further behavioral problems. There really is no justification for it. Black people need to let go of that slave bullshyt. Then we wonder why so many of us are violent and have no form of conflict resolution.

@Matt504 @OfTheCross

Bingo.

 

[breakfuss]

What about African cultures that have been doing it since before slavery

Our ancestors aren’t above reproach either. Know better, do better.

 

[Chrishaune]

Another brainwashed thread.

The Lord will rule with a rod of Iron. I can tell the ones that won't have discipline, and won't survive.

 

[breakfuss]

Another brainwashed thread.

Says the person regurgitating bible verses .