TIPS: Ladies...How to Keep a Man

[Chelsea Bridge]

Look like Jennifer Hudson?

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Some thing I found on tumblr but it applies

And men say women are confusing.

 

[Boolean]

:freeman:

Phylicia looks better than Jennifer Hudson tho :freeman:

 

[Swirv]

Woman outnumber men globally. Before religious cacs (mainly those associated with christianity) spread their ideology it was common to have more than one wife. Now all of a sudden its a bad thing & u wonder why men resort to cheating.

 

[HoustonHeat]

Believe me I agree. But entertain this thought.

After a certain amount of time, lets say 2 years a guy reaches the point where he is really actually committed to the point where he sees long term. I'd bet decent $ in the first 3-6 months there was a point in time where you irked him to the point where he at least thought about cheating with one of his girlfriends...probably because you got mad at him for something stupid and put him in the doghouse, or did something stupid yourself.

Some dudes (like women) will do mental gymnastics to convince themselves that they aren't cheating and youll never know. This is especially during the earlier stages. After a year or two you're in...there's no denying that youre official so you cant really rid of the guilt. Not saying your man thinks like this but many do.

I myself battle with the gymnastics and havent done anything regretful yet. When i talk to men/friends who ever think of cheating, the prologue almost always features his girl neglecting him over some stupid argument/issue. So he gets it somewhere else. Like you said (which I missed until now) it is ALL about his own self-discipline and options (as I added). More options reduce discipline.

Oh, I don't doubt that BOTH of us have fantasized about cheating or been in tempting positions. But when it came down to actually pulling the trigger, a certain type can exercise that ultimate control, and other types cant.

 

[MikelArteta]

stop screwing with thugs and badboys and pumping out illegitimate kids. Stop looking at swag and the money he has, and looks, and look for character.

But all yall care about is some 6'2 baller with a benz with no education who gets his money from selling drugs, then sit back and cry when you get cheated on, or left with a little hoodlum.

Sent from royalty breh

 

[Ain't That Something]

This pretty much sums it up...plenty of men cheat on good women everyday just because they can...

Maybe women should quit choosinv thugs

 

[MikelArteta]

This pretty much sums it up...plenty of men cheat on good women everyday just because they can...

if women stopped taking bsck cheaters and abusers the rates would drop. in all my years i have never met a chick who left her man the first time he cheated

Sent from royalty breh

 

[DaChampIsHere]

You could play all those roles all you want, won't do anything if a man has not made the decision to be faithful or exercise self discipline.

Cheating is about the cheater, not the cheated on.

Lawd if this ain't true I don't know what is.

When I get that urge I feel like nothing can stop me. No matter how good I got it.

 

[Rawtid]

stop screwing with thugs and badboys and pumping out illegitimate kids. Stop looking at swag and the money he has, and looks, and look for character.

But all yall care about is some 6'2 baller with a benz with no education who gets his money from selling drugs, then sit back and cry when you get cheated on, or left with a little hoodlum.

Sent from royalty breh

Men cheat everyday, b. Rich men, poor men, ugly men, fine men. If a man want's to cheat he will. If a man wants to be committed he will. Save this rant for the single mother thread Zay just made.

 

[rapdonttweet]

Believe me I agree. But entertain this thought.

After a certain amount of time, lets say 2 years a guy may reach the point where he is really actually committed and sees long term. I'd bet decent $ in the first 3-6 months there was a point in time where you irked him and he at least thought about cheating with one of his options...probably because you got mad at him for something stupid and put him in the doghouse, or did something stupid yourself. The reason is that any time a guy experiences such activity, he starts losing faith in the relationship and begins to think, "Why bother being faithful when for all I know, this girl is gonna get mad at me over some dumb shyt again and then break up...leaving me with burnt bridges and missed opportunities?"

Some dudes (like women) will do mental gymnastics to convince themselves that they aren't cheating and youll never know. Cognitive Dissonance I guess. This is especially during the earlier stages. After a year or two you're in...there's no denying that youre official so you cant really rid of the guilt. Beyond that, the man will have faith in the relationship working. Not saying your man thinks like this but many do.

I myself battle with the gymnastics and havent done anything regretful yet. When i talk to men/friends who ever think of cheating, the prologue almost always features his girl neglecting him over some stupid argument/issue. So he gets it somewhere else. Like you said (which I missed until now) it is ALL about his own self-discipline and options (as I added). More options reduce discipline.

Some people just never think about cheating. I never have. If I lost faith in the relationship I'd end it and get with another chick. I hate those feelings of guilt and secret keeping that are associated with cheating. As a kid I didn't have any power to do what I want. Now as a man I don't have to deal with that. If I want out of something I just end it.

 

[Ashley Banks]

stop screwing with thugs and badboys and pumping out illegitimate kids. Stop looking at swag and the money he has, and looks, and look for character.

But all yall care about is some 6'2 baller with a benz with no education who gets his money from selling drugs, then sit back and cry when you get cheated on, or left with a little hoodlum.

Sent from royalty breh

You can't be serious. All types of dudes cheat.

 

[SumBlackguyz]

You could play all those roles all you want, won't do anything if a man has not made the decision to be faithful or exercise self discipline.

Cheating is about the cheater, not the cheated on.

I disagree. IMO cheating lies within the cheatee. A lot of people dont stay vigilant to their standards and settle for someone that has qualities beneath what they were looking for. So what happens is subconsciously you're looking for someone that meets all of those requirements


So if you're dating a flat chested woman when you like cleavage, its only a matter of time before try to obtain what you feel you deserve, as opposed to waiting for someone that you feel that is at or above your standards. Why would you continue driving a geo metro when you can easily afford an audi?

If you're with the woman of your dream, then there is no one that your eyes sees as equal and all of your requirements are met.

So you're really doing yourself and the dating world a favor by staying single and holding fast to your standards so you dont accidentally crush some young person's heart that you felt you would need to upgrade from at the start


At least thats what I've learned through my life experience

 

[Ohene]

Some people just never think about cheating. I never have. If I lost faith in the relationship I'd end it and get with another chick. I hate those feelings of guilt and secret keeping that are associated with cheating. As a kid I didn't have any power to do what I want. Now as a man I don't have to deal with that. If I want out of something I just end it.

thats how it shoud be

 

[MikelArteta]

Some people just never think about cheating. I never have. If I lost faith in the relationship I'd end it and get with another chick. I hate those feelings of guilt and secret keeping that are associated with cheating. As a kid I didn't have any power to do what I want. Now as a man I don't have to deal with that. If I want out of something I just end it.

im the same

Sent from royalty breh