Top tier, quality females with kids

[missyleebunny]

It sounds like a lot of young men on here who haven't really lived life to know the dynamics of a committed relationship.

I understand the statement 'why would I want someone if they couldn't hold their own marriage,' but imo this is a more appropriate question for women to ask for the simple fact that unless he's a truly moral person, most men lack sexual integrity which can be an obvious dealbreaker. Most men don't go into a marriage with the intention of cheating but most end up doing so.

As a woman, knowing most will deal with that or possibly abuse, I don't question a divorced woman as a much as a man.

If it's a divorced man, I tend to think the worst.

I've been surprised at the men I thought were upstanding, decent married men (doctors, teachers etc) who thought it was OK to use escorts and carried in extramarital affairs unbeknownst to their wives. I've seen it too many times.

What do you do in those situations and you have kids to support? Will you forgive one cheating? What if one offense destroys your trust so severely you can't bring yourself to have sex with your mate anymore?

 

[King Sun]

Actually now In days most of the women that are successful or doing well for themselves are single moms but ill let the coli tell it

 

[Docaveli]

It sounds like a lot of young men on here who haven't really lived life to know the dynamics of a committed relationship.

I understand the statement 'why would I want someone if they couldn't hold their own marriage,' but imo this is a more appropriate question for women to ask for the simple fact that unless he's a truly moral person, most men lack sexual integrity which can be an obvious dealbreaker. Most men don't go into a marriage with the intention of cheating but most end up doing so.

As a woman, knowing most will deal with that or possibly abuse, I don't question a divorced woman as a much as a man.

If it's a divorced man, I tend to think the worst.

I've been surprised at the men I thought were upstanding, decent married men (doctors, teachers etc) who thought it was OK to use escorts and carried in extramarital affairs unbeknownst to their wives. I've seen it too many times.

What do you do in those situations and you have kids to support? Will you forgive one cheating? What if one offense destroys your trust so severely you can't bring yourself to have sex with your mate anymore?

I disagree with you because women are just as trifling as men when it comes to cheating, keep in Mind most married women would never tell you their past because its dark so a married woman and single women are the same thing, everybody got a experience. When Men commit we actually commit, Women commit today and change their mind tommorrow i thought everybody knew this?

 

[missyleebunny]

I disagree with your statement that women cheat just as much as men. Does it happen? Sure. As much as men? Absolutely not.

Men tend to marry at the right time versus the right person. Then they get surprised when, as you say, the woman flip flops. In those instances the man never really judges her love for him accurately. It's the ones who give a gift way too much of themselves, who live with him for 5 years no ring that would actually try to keep a marriage (the ones men lose respect for).

The decision to get married was a big one for me and I thought we'd die together but then again at 21 what do you really know.

MOST people who marry settle. What both parties have to do is find someone they mutually respect and enjoy and give boundaries to their courtship and marriage. None of this dating 3 years and living together bs.

Let marriage be marriage.

 

[Docaveli]

I disagree with your statement that women cheat just as much as men. Does it happen? Sure. As much as men? Absolutely not.

Men tend to marry at the right time versus the right person. Then they get surprised when, as you say, the woman flip flops. In those instances the man never really judges her love for him accurately. It's the ones who give a gift way too much of themselves, who live with him for 5 years no ring that would actually try to keep a marriage (the ones men lose respect for).

The decision to get married was a big one for me and I thought we'd die together but then again at 21 what do you really know.

MOST people who marry settle. What both parties have to do is find someone they mutually respect and enjoy and give boundaries to their courtship and marriage. None of this dating 3 years and living together bs.

Let marriage be marriage.

Unless u have sum type of concrete statistics i don't think u can say Men cheat more, remember there are more females to males and women can be more active than men. 10 years ago if u told someone u was fukking ur teacher they would say u was lying on ur dikk but tell that same shyt now and people gun believe u, i treat everybody the same i don't put nothing past nobody.

 

[missyleebunny]

We'll agree to disagree but men are walking erections. They like variety and a lot of it. The more successful they are, the more they feel they should be getting.

Add to that the inevitable marital stress that may build up over the years and after she has kids, work and the everyday grind AND the fact that most people are only moral to a point...

Men are are bout as faithful as their options.

 

[mamba]

beta male shyt I aint giving my time,love and money to a child that aint my blood.

As women make more and more money and family dynamics change, they'll see how it feels to support children who aren't your own flesh and blood.

Nobody's hard-earned money should support the child of the able-bodied person who produced it. fukk I look like working my ass off to feed another nikka's kid? Women don't understand how messed up that shyt is.

 

[Docaveli]

We'll agree to disagree but men are walking erections. They like variety and a lot of it. The more successful they are, the more they feel they should be getting.

Add to that the inevitable marital stress that may build up over the years and after she has kids, work and the everyday grind AND the fact that most people are only moral to a point...

Men are are bout as faithful as their options.

But women have all the options all the time so its realistic to believe they cheat more

 

[Jahmal]

I would never settle for a single mom

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Are you God? If anything women with children are the most high quality cuz they have a responsibility

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

My parents are still together, too, brehette. 30 years and counting. Not everybone in the Black community comes from broken homes.

30 years ago thots weren't common.

 

[BulletProof]

It's one thing if you're older and get married on some Brady Bunch shyt.

Not when you're younger and still finding yourself.

She made her decision one way or another.

 

[Smoke]

MOST people who marry settle. What both parties have to do is find someone they mutually respect and enjoy and give boundaries to their courtship and marriage.

I agree with this

 

[missyleebunny]

But women have all the options all the time so its realistic to believe they cheat more

No, if women were built like men that's true. But we're not. It's not so much a moral issue either. We don't have a desire for strange men like men do women.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

No, if women were built like men that's true. But we're not. It's not so much a moral issue either. We don't have a desire for strange men like men do women.

:dwill:

Strange men?
Uhhhh when you meet a man you don't know already he's "strange".
What, women only mess with dudes they know.