Unrealized Potential

[TheArchitect]

Does anyone else feel they have something blocking them from reaching their full potential? Whether it's financially, mentally, physically, etc?

I feel due to my fukked-up upbringing leaving all types of negative emotions and mental framing, I have subconsciously been limiting myself my entire life. IDK if it's some sort of clinical anxiety, depression, or what. It was so bad that for a long time, I didn't really know ANYTHING else. Hell, I don't even feel as if I've experienced true happiness (ever since I was a small child, and I barely even remember that); It was always temporary due to the negativity always reminding of it's presence. I could be having a "good" day, then some shyt will enter my mind bringing me back down. It was always things like "you can't...your gonna get laughed at...your gona lose...remember what happened the other day?....etc..." Even when people would compliment me, I honestly couldn't take it seriously because I always felt I was being patronized or pitied. It's not as bad these days, but the shyt still lurks in my head. I don't know if anyone can relate, but all comments and input are welcome.....

 

[bcrusaderw]

Have you considered therapy?

 

[Tunez]

@*L*E*G*A*C*Y* Help him

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

For real, I feel the same way...and think it has alot to do with my upringing as well as a first gen African/west Indian in Pittsburgh feeling like an outcast. It's hard to explain, but I feel like I was never in the proper enviroment where I could thrive and be myself...shame that at 30 I'm finally getting to do this now after being stuck in college for a decade...

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

I feel due to my fukked-up upbringing leaving all types of negative emotions and mental framing, I have subconsciously been limiting myself my entire life. IDK if it's some sort of clinical anxiety, depression, or what. It was so bad that for a long time, I didn't really know ANYTHING else. Hell, I don't even feel as if I've experienced true happiness (ever since I was a small child, and I barely even remember that); It was always temporary due to the negativity always reminding of it's presence. I could be having a "good" day, then some shyt will enter my mind bringing me back down. It was always things like "you can't...your gonna get laughed at...your gona lose...remember what happened the other day?....etc..." Even when people would compliment me, I honestly couldn't take it seriously because I always felt I was being patronized or pitied. It's not as bad these days, but the shyt still lurks in my head

This hit me like a ton of bricks man....

I know I could be really successful if I let my guard down, but it's been up for so long over the years.

Even with women sometimes I felt like I would just fail cause "oh I'm black" or "oh I'm African" or "oh I'm west indian" and I'd find absolutely no one to relate to or I'd feel like I'd fail at life...but yeah, it took alot to get over that thought process. I have bad memories from my younger years enter my mind and then it'll bring me down and make me sad and mad too...I think it would just be better to finally get into the mode of living a successful life where I finally am doing things right...then I'll have that confidence.

 

[ShenJingPoQi]

Unrealized potential in men is very common in the black community. There isn’t enough guidance to untap the potential.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

Have you considered therapy?

I agree.
Therapy could definitely help you work through your emotional roadblocks. I highly recommend it OP.

 

[smokeurobinson]

Cant say I can relate. U cant point fingers at any roadblocks, the only roadblock is yourself. Its your choice to let the roadblocks define you. Either u quit when u see the roadblock or u deal with them head on and keep it pushing. This world is cruel and cold on people with excuses so crying about your roadblocks will draw no sympathy. Jay Z had roadblocks as well.....The secret is he kept going and thats why u dont hear about them. No one wants to hear ya stories about roadblocks. We wanna hear the story about how u conquered the roadblock. And guess what? U wanna hear that story as well. U wanna tell it. Embrace those roadblocks like a weight lifter embraces weights. They will shape you into something stronger in the future if u just sweat thru them. Or you can run and hide when u see a roadblock.....Running and hiding will also shape you....It will shape u into someone who runs away from a challenge. So the choice is yours. Which option will you exercise?

 

[Roaden Polynice]

This hit me like a ton of bricks man....

I know I could be really successful if I let my guard down, but it's been up for so long over the years.

Even with women sometimes I felt like I would just fail cause "oh I'm black" or "oh I'm African" or "oh I'm west indian" and I'd find absolutely no one to relate to or I'd feel like I'd fail at life...but yeah, it took alot to get over that thought process. I have bad memories from my younger years enter my mind and then it'll bring me down and make me sad and mad too...I think it would just be better to finally get into the mode of living a successful life where I finally am doing things right...then I'll have that confidence.

I thought you were gonna help the breh out but all you did was talk about yourself

 

[TheArchitect]

Have you considered therapy?

I actually have. I just never could really afford it....plus I've always felt like this isn't something I can really talk to most people about....basically offline, NO ONE knows my struggle. Their have been people that have witnessed it or maybe even know a little something, but for the most part I never felt anyone could help me....

 

[TheArchitect]

For real, I feel the same way...and think it has alot to do with my upringing as well as a first gen African/west Indian in Pittsburgh feeling like an outcast. It's hard to explain, but I feel like I was never in the proper enviroment where I could thrive and be myself...shame that at 30 I'm finally getting to do this now after being stuck in college for a decade...

I'm also a 1st gen West Indian (Belizean). Yeah, I spent most of my life being treated like an outcast and shytted on because I wasn't like everyone else (features, personality, etc.). I always felt the same way. That's one of the reasons why I want to travel the world; I can't spend the rest of my days in the U.S. It's toxic for people like me....

 

[TheArchitect]

This hit me like a ton of bricks man....

I know I could be really successful if I let my guard down, but it's been up for so long over the years.

Even with women sometimes I felt like I would just fail cause "oh I'm black" or "oh I'm African" or "oh I'm west indian" and I'd find absolutely no one to relate to or I'd feel like I'd fail at life...but yeah, it took alot to get over that thought process. I have bad memories from my younger years enter my mind and then it'll bring me down and make me sad and mad too...I think it would just be better to finally get into the mode of living a successful life where I finally am doing things right...then I'll have that confidence.

Oh Lord, don't even get me started with women! To this day I hate trying to get to know females due to my childhood. I was pretty much being shytted on, disrespected and played with for practically nothing. I still keep it in the back of my head "this bytch gone try me," or "This is probably a waste of time". I've had females play fukked up head games just to ridicule me, try and get me jumped, diss me just to smile in my face and ask about some next nikka the next day, etc.

 

[TheArchitect]

Unrealized potential in men is very common in the black community. There isn’t enough guidance to untap the potential.

Exactly. It was fukkED up. Anytime I'd try and get some advice, people (including family) would feed me straight BULLshyt and smile in my face....

 

[KOOL_G_TRAP]

This hit me like a ton of bricks man....

I know I could be really successful if I let my guard down, but it's been up for so long over the years.

Even with women sometimes I felt like I would just fail cause "oh I'm black" or "oh I'm African" or "oh I'm west indian" and I'd find absolutely no one to relate to or I'd feel like I'd fail at life...but yeah, it took alot to get over that thought process. I have bad memories from my younger years enter my mind and then it'll bring me down and make me sad and mad too...I think it would just be better to finally get into the mode of living a successful life where I finally am doing things right...then I'll have that confidence.

Stop looking for cac bytches then c00n

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Oh Lord, don't even get me started with women! To this day I hate trying to get to know females due to my childhood. I was pretty much being shytted on, disrespected and played with for practically nothing. I still keep it in the back of my head "this bytch gone try me," or "This is probably a waste of time". I've had females play fukked up head games just to ridicule me, try and get me jumped, diss me just to smile in my face and ask about some next nikka the next day, etc.

The same happened to me...even worse cause I was ridiculed for being a nerd and an outcast in high school by men, women, damn near everyone. Then I grew into my looks the older I got, but I didn't grow into my confidence...or at most it got stunted.