So then this tells me you're still thinking with a 14 year old mentality, because no grown adult should be thinking that this shyt is okay. Let the roles have been reversed with a 24 year old man and a 14 year old girl, and we would've called for his execution in the same day. How in the world is this not rape, especially if one person in question is legally unable to consent? Imagine if that was your kid, breh.
14 year olds think that shyt is cool because they don't know truly understand the gravity of the situation, and at 14, you're right in the middle of dealing with hormones and body changes. Like what the fukk does a 14 year old know about... anything? The only thing you know at that age is Xbox, homework, and the girls (your age

) in your class that you're crushing on. The 24 year old, on the other hand, has passed that phase long ago and should obviously know better. What's more, this kid looked like an actual child at the time, so she she can't even use the "I didn't know he wasn't 18" excuse. Nah, that was wrong of her.
Even if he isn't damaged, if she really did that shyt, nothing changes. It's still on her, as the adult, to know what's right from wrong. This shouldn't even need an explanation.