UPDATE PG 16 "I want to really get to know you before we get physical" = Toss azz in the Bushes ?

[Stuntone]

You young cats need to get to seminars on how to deal with women...
If you trying to see where it can go with this woman in a relationship the 3 dates isnt necessarily a bad look as long as shes offering NEXT time out and you feel that interest is being reciprocated...tbh i wouldnt be taking ANY chick out to dinner dates and movies first few times regardless what the face and ass look like....You cats always get suckered into coming out ya pockets cuz a chick look halfway decent
I dont understand why dudes have problems setting ground rules before you go out....

From the go I stated I was wrong for wining and dining.

 

[LebronsHairline]

A lot of good points here I must say.

Thing is, I don't think she's trying to play me or anything. She's just analyzing her past and trying to apply what she thinks would be the best method to make us work out long term. Like I said, we're both damn near 30 and for me, trying out shyt at 30 and not really knowing what you're doing, is just a turn off. I know she really likes me. That's why I take a lot of responsibility in this, I shouldve have been just chilling, instead of dating. But when I think about details, she was holding my hand in the car and walking to my apt. I think it bothers most men when women words and action don't match up.

Anyway, I aint tripping tho. Whatever happens, happens. I have options, so I'm good.

At the end of the day your the MAN in the situation, if you want sex tell her thats what the fukk you want. Don't play her little games, your obviously doing your part cause she wants you but she aint giving you what YOU want and that aint cool; and you need to tell her that.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

At the end of the day your the MAN in the situation, if you want sex tell her thats what the fukk you want. Don't play her little games, your obviously doing your part cause she wants you but she aint giving you what YOU want and that aint cool; and you need to tell her that.

by calling him the man in this situation......

did you just inadvertently say she was weak and that no matter what only he could dictate the outcome of the relationship?

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Basically she wanted to indulge in the girlfriend treatment I was simpishly providing, but wasn't ready for the girlfriend requirements. .

 

[LebronsHairline]

by calling him the man in this situation......

did you just inadvertently say she was weak and that no matter what only he could dictate the outcome of the relationship?

No matter what women he talks to he should always be the one in control because he is the MAN, no woman on planet earth wants to be the leader in the relationship

 

[Stuntone]

She just called again. Wanting to talk it over and clear up the confusion.


First thing she said was, "I hope I didn't make things complicated. I just want us to build up a strong friendship." Sounds like a article that would be in Steve Harvey's book to me. I told her that's cool and I respect that, no confusion there. Then went on saying how she wants to continue the way we were. I was like, "we can hang out, but we need to be on a friend tip like you said." Then she started playing like she doesn't understand that. I told her that I jump the gun by taking her out and treating her as if we were dating seriously. She didn't really want to hear that. I really don't care what happens. Too many chicks out here.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

No matter what women he talks to he should always be the one in control because he is the MAN, no woman on planet earth wants to be the leader in the relationship

see this is why I have no sympathy for chicks that get manipulated

it's your life. nobody should be in control of ANY decision that you're a part of. in no other area of life do people allow others to control their emotions and actions.

Whether or not she WANTS to lead the relationship shouldn't matter. She's a grown ass woman. Own your shyt. You don't sit back and let other ppl dictate your career do you? So why the hell do women accept the concept that its okay to sit back and let a man dictate and lead the relationship. shyts just a lazy submissive ass way to approach life THAT GETS YOU HURT. And then we wonder why we have threads like this where a 28 year old doesn't understand that kissing on a guys couch, after the third date, late at night more than not leads to sex. This passive mind state needs to get allllll the way the fukk out of here.

we get spazzed on for being sexist all the time. However y'all sell women as emotionally unstable and incapable of making informed decisions whenever you try to tell dude to "be a man." How about both sexes grow the fukk up and start thinking before acting.

*all typed with a smile on my face and no hate*

 

[Rominati]

She just called again. Wanting to talk it over and clear up the confusion.


First thing she said was, "I hope I didn't make things complicated. I just want us to build up a strong friendship." Sounds like a article that would be in Steve Harvey's book to me. I told her that's cool and I respect that, no confusion there. Then went on saying how she wants to continue the way we were. I was like, "we can hang out, but we need to be on a friend tip like you said." Then she started playing like she doesn't understand that. I told her that I jump the gun by taking her out and treating her as if we were dating seriously. She didn't really want to hear that. I really don't care what happens. Too many chicks out here.

Real talk both of ya are going 30. Silly lil mind games like this shouldn't be going down . Just drop the situation completely breh. Both of ya are in the wrong. You for not making your intentions clear. Her for playing highschool tatics in her late 20s.

Just a fail of a situation overall. You right bruh, you getting money off that IT wave , you shouldn't have to be going thru this. Jus move on to the next chicks. I wouldnt even entertain a "friendship" with the chick. Not even because of what she did, but because it looks like this relationship between ya two will jus be a headache in the future.

 

[Stuntone]

Real talk both of ya are going 30. Silly lil mind games like this shouldn't be going down . Just drop the situation completely breh. Both of ya are in the wrong. You for not making your intentions clear. Her for playing highschool tatics in her late 20s.

Just a fail of a situation overall. You right bruh, you getting money off that IT wave , you shouldn't have to be going thru this. Jus move on to the next chicks. I wouldnt even entertain a "friendship" with the chick. Not even because of what she did, but because it looks like this relationship between ya two will jus be a headache in the future.

I feel you, like I said earlier. She has some potential, but not enough to put up with a lot of headache and bs for. I get so turned off by bs and when a chick is confusing, that I usually just fall back from the chick. Seems like we're heading down that road.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

PICS.

 

[LebronsHairline]

see this is why I have no sympathy for chicks that get manipulated

it's your life. nobody should be in control of ANY decision that you're a part of. in no other area of life do people allow others to control their emotions and actions.

Whether or not she WANTS to lead the relationship shouldn't matter. She's a grown ass woman. Own your shyt. You don't sit back and let other ppl dictate your career do you? So why the hell do women accept the concept that its okay to sit back and let a man dictate and lead the relationship. shyts just a lazy submissive ass way to approach life THAT GETS YOU HURT. And then we wonder why we have threads like this where a 28 year old doesn't understand that kissing on a guys couch, after the third date, late at night more than not leads to sex. This passive mind state needs to get allllll the way the fukk out of here.

we get spazzed on for being sexist all the time. However y'all sell women as emotionally unstable and incapable of making informed decisions whenever you try to tell dude to "be a man." How about both sexes grow the fukk up and start thinking before acting.

*all typed with a smile on my face and no hate*

don't compare me to the nikkas on this website please im not saying she should sit back and be a fukking ragdoll, im saying a woman wants to feel like her man is in control and leading her to wherever she needs to be in life and he fukked up by not letting it always be known that p*ssy is what the fukk he wants if they want to continue dating period. I guarantee if he had kept giving her the feelings she likes while letting her know that he wants p*ssy she wouldn't be doing the bullshyt she's doing now. Only reason she's pulling that old bullshyt is cause the men in her life didnt teach her better

 

[tru_m.a.c]

Only reason she's pulling that old bullshyt is cause the men in her life didnt teach her better

lol how do you not see this as a backhanded comment

 

[LebronsHairline]

lol how do you not see this as a backhanded comment

are you female? and it is what it is, time and time again i have always seen the women who are in the most successful relationships and understand how men are the most are the ones who had strong father figures who taught them the nature of the game. and that's what it is , It's clear as day from what i've read and especially since she's what? a 28 year old shy girl who was nervous about kissing a nikka on her couch?

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

She just called again. Wanting to talk it over and clear up the confusion.


First thing she said was, "I hope I didn't make things complicated. I just want us to build up a strong friendship." Sounds like a article that would be in Steve Harvey's book to me. I told her that's cool and I respect that, no confusion there. Then went on saying how she wants to continue the way we were. I was like, "we can hang out, but we need to be on a friend tip like you said." Then she started playing like she doesn't understand that. I told her that I jump the gun by taking her out and treating her as if we were dating seriously. She didn't really want to hear that. I really don't care what happens. Too many chicks out here.

Since when is 3 dates "dating seriously". Especially at just $35 a pop. I can't believe you're in your 30s and still sweating stuff like this lol

Sounds like she's better off.

 

[Chris.B]

I had no idea they made black women with blonde hair.

I guess I learn something new everyday