UPDATE PG 16 "I want to really get to know you before we get physical" = Toss azz in the Bushes ?

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

I always pay, even if the guy offers. My dad told me to only let my boyfriend/husband spend money on me.

but some women think that men are supposed to pay and some even think that men want to pay because that's what they were told, tell her to pay for her own food/drinks etc and she doesn't want to pay THEN toss her in the bushes but don't do it because she wants to get to know you before she has sex with you.

Ew.

For me, if I offer to take someone out, I'm obligated to pay, no questions. That's just plain ol' bummy lookin' and I can't do it

 

[MikelArteta]

Or realized that rushing isn't for them.

I have a couple of friends who are good with casual sex...one who WANTS to have fun, but can't, cause she gets emotionally invested...it's so sad. If it's not for you, it's not for you. Don't worry about what other people are doing.

If she's really feeling him and wants to take her time, then nothing wrong with waiting. What's stupid is if she's saying that, but then rushes to sleep with another dude (and sometimes chicks do dumb shyt like that - hold off on the guy they like cause they don't want him to think she's a ho, but get her fix with a dude she's just having fun with...now that's grimey)

, from my past this is a mechanism that women use, slept with jamal on the first date he never called back, slept with treyvathian before the commitment was offered, they got the "goods" without offering anything, without her getting ot know them, but now you have to go through the hoops.

More times than not women cannot do casual sex, like you mentioned the emotions overtake them.

an analogy that has been used on here many times is this, if you were usher, trey songz, her fav singer or whatever would she let him wait? more than likely no. Many of the times a chick wills leep with a guy who doesnt even care about her and just wants the punani and then let the guy that does care go through a maze just to reach the end.

 

[Stuntone]

She TOLD you that?

and losers could just be "established" not necessarily people who wasted no time.

You know what...I know a few girls from ATL that moved to DC that work for non-profits and volunteer organizations so...its kinda interesting...i don't think they're 28 tho...

Not exactly, me trying to piece it together made me feel like she shouldve known he wasn't really the ideal type.

I'm sure she hasn't dated a guy like me, not saying i'm all that. But I'm sure im more on point than anyone she's dated.

 

[MikelArteta]

Even though I know I can play this role and smash in a few more dates. I'm going to tell her, since she feels that way. I jumped the gun in pursuing her and we should probably just hang out as friends, meaning she pay for her stuff. Bcuz she is cool, but her words just turned me off. Especially since she hasn't offered anything else up.

never open your wallet on a chick till your in a committed relationship breh

 

[Stuntone]

never open your wallet on a chick till your in a committed relationship breh

I do believe in paying on the first date tho.

 

[MikelArteta]

Not exactly, me trying to piece it together made me feel like she shouldve known he wasn't really the ideal type.

I'm sure she hasn't dated a guy like me, not saying i'm all that. But I'm sure im more on point than anyone she's dated.

so she never dated a guy like you before, so you gotta wait.

you think treyvathian was waiting?

that's what kills me, that whole crap that women drop "your special, your different, i never felt this way before, thats why i dont want to rush into anything and ruin it"

 

[MikelArteta]

I do believe in paying on the first date tho.

 

[MBwithadream]

Breh if she won't give you the puss... Dont fire her yet..
Just reduced her playing minutes and keep her on the depth chart


In the meantime find other chicks who are down to fukk

Eventually when she notices that u aint thirsty for some puss... She will give it up just to keep you interested.. And when u smash her few times then throw her ratchet ass in the bushes for making u wait that long and having to pay for 3 dates

Spoiler

See that shyt, is why I catch hell now.

I mean, how the fukk you gonna to compare another nikka to me?

 

[Ashley Banks]

Ew.

For me, if I offer to take someone out, I'm obligated to pay, no questions. That's just plain ol' bummy lookin' and I can't do it

It doesn't mean you can't pay, I just feel like if you're just getting to know someone you shouldn't be putting that much into it, in-case they aren't what you expected them to be. Nothing bummy about that. But a lot of guys do feel the same as you.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

Not exactly, me trying to piece it together made me feel like she shouldve known he wasn't really the ideal type.

I'm sure she hasn't dated a guy like me, not saying i'm all that. But I'm sure im more on point than anyone she's dated.

So what did she say about past dudes though? or for you to think that?

You might be psyching yourself out.

 

[RealAssanova]

LOL who excuses women for being illogical? Do you miss the constant women bashing threads that get made here on the daily?

all i'm sayin is, if women have the right to be illogical and base shyt off of their emotions, why can't we get a pass when we think with our nuts instead of our brain?


When you see a pair of t*ts and azz you want to savagely suck on and tear apart, blood flow is greatly restricted to your brain. Sentences become blurred, you begin to feel light-headed and testosterone levels begin to sky-rocket (apart from an other thing ).

Still, ya'll ain't sensitive to our plight.

 

[MikelArteta]

It doesn't mean you can't pay, I just feel like if you're just getting to know someone you shouldn't be putting that much into it, in-case they aren't what you expected them to be. Nothing bummy about that. But a lot of guys do feel the same as you.

you are a good righteous girl Juicy

May the Lord bless you with a worthy man

 

[Desirous]

, from my past this is a mechanism that women use, slept with jamal on the first date he never called back, slept with treyvathian before the commitment was offered, they got the "goods" without offering anything, without her getting ot know them, but now you have to go through the hoops.

More times than not women cannot do casual sex, like you mentioned the emotions overtake them.

an analogy that has been used on here many times is this, if you were usher, trey songz, her fav singer or whatever would she let him wait? more than likely no. Many of the times a chick wills leep with a guy who doesnt even care about her and just wants the punani and then let the guy that does care go through a maze just to reach the end.

I don't disagree. Honestly, I haven't had sex in over a year...and this isn't the first time I've gone this long. Doesn't have anything to do with someone not calling me back after though...but sex means more to me than physical pleasure and I enjoy it when it's with someone I am comfortable with/care about/know well. I just know myself and what works for me. I'm sure guys I've gone out on dates with think I'm playing hard to get though...but if a person wants to get to know you, they will, whether you give it up or not (and even if you do give it up, if the dude's still interested, he'll stick around...I've seen it happen with people...girl sleeps with guy on the first date...they end up dating, in a relationship for years etc). There really are no rules when it comes to love/relationships...it's so case-by-case...so you just gotta do what's is good for you at the end of the day.

 

[T-K-G]

OP already figured out what he's gonna do so i dont have anything to contribute to this thread


but im over here laughin cuz imagine if op was like "i told this girl that i wanted to wait before we had sex" nikkas and females would be in here clowin the fukk outta dude "this fakkit ass nikka" "bytch nikka scared of p*ssy" all kinds of shyt

but it's the other way when the girl says they want to wait for sex

look at the amount of clowing in that "have you ever been oblivious to a chick's advances?" thread, nikkas callin each other all types of shyt . imagine if that shyt was the other way around "have you ever been oblivious to a nikkas advances?" that content would be worthy

im not even tryna have a discussion on it, i just thought about it and thought it was funny/stupid

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

It doesn't mean you can't pay, I just feel like if you're just getting to know someone you shouldn't be putting that much into it, in-case they aren't what you expected them to be. Nothing bummy about that. But a lot of guys do feel the same as you.

Then we're in agreement; When you want to get to know someone first

Casually hanging out>>>>>>>Going on dates