Validation from other men might actually be more important than attention from women for a lotta dudes

[MischievousMonkey]

I doubt it's about men per se, I just think they want validation period

They're living their fantasy like it's Sword Art Online or GTA rp

The want to be that guy

 

[ba'al]

I agree a lot of dudes have that competition mindset. "I gotta be seen as the best, the hardest, strongest over all the other men." That's the same shyt animals do out in the wild to attract a mate. Taunting, fighting, and proping themselves up infront of the other male animals.

The sweet spot imo is when you stop caring what other people think male or female and just be you.

 

[3rdWorld]

I'm living for myself, not for the admiration and attention of other men..

Sounds weak as fukk..infact women say that. They say they dress provocative and sexy to make other women jealous, not to attract men.

 

[KGlock]

It ain't just online, it be in real life too. If you some combination of tall, good looking, swole, dress good then you know what I'm talking about. God could open up my brain now and reveal I genuinely don't give a fukk what another man thinks about me nor do I be looking at a nikka more than 2-3 seconds other than to just identify what character he/she is, head nod keep it moving at most.
However, you see in today's world how hella dudes steady looking at other men analyzing them and shyt, on some lowkey weirdo competitive shyt.


Aint nothing wrong with getting a lil inspiration to fuel you in getting to wherever you tryna be or get to but fools OD it and end up coming off insecure and low self esteem. Yes men are naturally competitive but the only competition you should have is yourself, getting better from the man you was yesterday.

I legit be on some tunnel vision shyt when I'm outside unless it's a baddie with a fat ass then I'm peeping extra longer. I still be aware of my surroundings but the fk I look like claiming to be a straight confident male looking or staring at another dude, or worse yet tryna impress a motherfukker for some worthless validation that ain't finna swell my bank account?

A lot of these dudes like that Henri and Luken fool are hella insecure, prolly either got bullied growing up, was a weirdo loner or ain't get hoes like that early on so now when they grown up with a bit of cheese in they pocket now they tryna gain validation from strangers to make up for that inadequacy they felt in their youth.

Drake is basically a bigger scale example. Biggest artist in the game, got all the clout, money and access to the finest women in the world but despite all that shyt is still corny as fukk and always seeks validation from hood nikkas, baddies, etc to feel whole.

 

[SupremexKing]

Easier to play the part (the role player) than be the one that others model themselves after. The latter requires work and sacrifice, whereas the former just requires one to 'act'. It is dangerous imo.

I used the mask of an imagined self to get through my major in college but it wasn't me acting the part online. I just meditated and really behaved as the person I imagined until the imagined person was who I operated as in life.

I think it is necessary to distort our own perceptions of self, especially if we seek to grow further. But it becomes a danger when we rely solely on the delusion and not try and make it the real self.

Interesting thread, you can take this topic down many routes and I immediately thought of Soren Kierkegaard's "The Sickness Unto Self" which discusses the psychological manipulations people put themselves through only to end up empty and further away from who they are or what they should be - themselves. He used the term, "dying death", there are no prescriptions to that disease and it's worse than death.

Deceiving yourself is extremely dangerous now that I am thinking about it.

@MMS

What do you think?

another unspoken part about this is the amount of envy and jealousy these cats get. it's an entire different ball game to build the mental required to play past all the daily hater shyt. especially in babylon

 

[Redwood]

Too many cats that like to talk out of both sides of their neck so I couldn't really care less.

 

[JasoRockStar]

another unspoken part about this is the amount of envy and jealousy these cats get. it's an entire different ball game to build the mental required to play past all the daily hater shyt. especially in babylon

I actually think some people enjoy the jealousy and envy. Attention is attention to a lot of people.

 

[High Art]

Men? Most males are not men.


The reason why adult males seek authoritarians is because they are like women. They need a daddy.

Nah, they want to act out in violent ways and want a system that allows it or at the very least, have that violence met out by proxy. This is why pretty much all authoritarian regimes and so on operate on a might = right mentality.

 

[Mowgli]

First of all








But that Henri Christophe thread got me thinking. Dude just hopped on here making stuff up for absolutely NO reason, just to impress a forum that's filled with other men. He ain't the only one either too. Luken, JCotton, "Originalgangsta" and more all did it too. Dudes will make up accomplishments, lie about their background, lie about their salary, lie about their physical attributes, constantly bring up all the females they bagged...all to impress other men. It doesn't matter if it's their personal circle of friends or random MFs on the Internet.


I haven't even seen them do all that when they're trying to impress a woman they're talking to.

Get validation from God not clowns

 

[SupremexKing]

I actually think some people enjoy the jealousy and envy. Attention is attention to a lot of people.

i can agree with that, which is why so many men are so messy.

 

[King Poetic]

It’s true

And unfortunately many dudes go bankrupt or don’t really have shyt, but they will risk debt to get that acceptance…

Come to LA during award season, u got broke nikkas running out to rent cars and suites to impress not only women but guys as well

 

[JasoRockStar]

i can agree with that, which is why so many men are so messy.

Facts. IDK if dudes have always been like this and the SM has just made it more apparent, or if it just became more common recently, but the messy behavior is out of control.

 

[CashmereThoughts]

First of all








But that Henri Christophe thread got me thinking. Dude just hopped on here making stuff up for absolutely NO reason, just to impress a forum that's filled with other men. He ain't the only one either too. Luken, JCotton, "Originalgangsta" and more all did it too. Dudes will make up accomplishments, lie about their background, lie about their salary, lie about their physical attributes, constantly bring up all the females they bagged...all to impress other men. It doesn't matter if it's their personal circle of friends or random MFs on the Internet.


I haven't even seen them do all that when they're trying to impress a woman they're talking to.

I don't know any men that value a mans opinion over some p*ssy. in fact to an extreme degree they will do anything for some p*ssy including ruin good relationships with respectable men

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Forum is rife with it. But it adds about 56.75% of the entertainment factor so never change tlr.

 

[Dave24]

I agree a lot of dudes have that competition mindset. "I gotta be seen as the best, the hardest, strongest over all the other men." That's the same shyt animals do out in the wild to attract a mate. Taunting, fighting, and proping themselves up infront of the other male animals.

The sweet spot imo is when you stop caring what other people think male or female and just be you.

How do you get into the sweet spot??