Venting to someone about your life problems is selfish

[BrothaZay]

Unless that person is a therapist or yall are in a relationship

You got to be a narcistic or full of yourself to ask someone how their day is, they tell you it's good and you then proceed to tell them how terrible yours was and bring down their energy. This is especially true for people who always have something going wrong every time yall talk or text.

 

[Jesus Is Lord]

Agreed! One should ask first, it’s that simple. But I give some people a pass because that venting could save their lives or possibly others. You never know how much on edge a person is. But you are right. It’s so damn selfish.

 

[BrothaZay]

Agreed! One should ask first, it’s that simple. But I give some people a pass because that venting could save their lives or possibly others. You never know how much on edge a person is. But you are right. It’s so damn selfish.

You're right. But when it's every single day and mainly about the same thing it's like nah. You're making your problem part of someone else's at that point

 

[Food Mane]

100%

What kinda person makes someone else feel bad so they can feel better? That's what it boils down to.

 

[Umoja]

I hate people like you and this is coming from someone who bottles things up.

If I ask someone how their day is, my hope is that they will be open about it. I don't have a problem providing support to family, friends or even strangers.

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

I don't know. If you ask someone or if they ask you how you or they feeling and you or they genuinely care about you and their well being, then it's not selfish if you or they tell how you or they feeling because you or they asked first.

Now if someone just automatically tells you their problems and you didn't ask for it, then I see your point.

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

I don't care to vent about my life problems to others as they have their own problems to deal with to hear about someone elses

Most people only ask anyways just to be nosey and not out of concern.

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

I don't know. If you ask someone or if they ask you how you or they feeling and you or they genuinely care about you and their well being, then it's not selfish if you or they tell how you or they feeling because you or they asked first.

Now if someone just automatically tells you their problems and you didn't ask for it, then I see your point.

Most people just randomly start rambling about their problems with someone having to ask.

 

[GreenGhxst]

Depends on their personal relationship

 

[Mastamimd]

Usually this happens (I hope) after the person that's having a good day asks if they want to talk about it. But if they just start telling you about their problems unsolicited, then that's annoying.

 

[The Realist Perspective]

There's a happy middle ground. I want my friendships and relationships to be real as in, if they're going through something, let me know. But once we chop it up, discuss ways of improving the situation, yet they make no moves to improve, and they keep bytching about it...that's a serious problem.

 

[Money Be Green]

@Pazzy

 

[King Poetic]

I say how you doing ?? they say ok and I say the same and keep it moving, no time to tell the person the shyt I’m going through and fukk up they mood

 

[Apprentice]

shyt like this is exactly why I don’t talk to mfs and keep all problems to myself

Shut the fukk up then nikka why did u ask me how am I doin? Mfs only wanna be in contact wit people when they winnin

 

[FreedMind]