Walking Away From An Argument Is A Skill/Art

[King]

This actually goes back to slavery. Black men invented being cool - literally. And it is a skill. A survival skill. It’s been passed down through generations.

I remember reading a whole paper on this. During slavery black men had to reclaim their masculinity in the face of deadly consequences by maintaining composure and being willing to walk away from fukk shyt. Emotionally reacting would get you tortured and killed back then.

There’s a book on the history of it as well. Black Cool: One Thousand Streams of Blackness

Here’s an article:

@IllmaticDelta can prob shed some light on this

 

[rabbid]

I want all the smoke. Alot of yall be abandoning your post and that shyt adds up in the end when you realize you stopped standing up for things and lost your edge as you got older. Now if I've already spoke my peace then thats different. I'm not gon say it again. I'm not gonna go back and forth with Republicans for instance. But in general I'm gonna speak up if somebody try me.

 

[KGlock]

What people need to realize is, not engaging and or ignoring an obvious shyt stirrer is more effective than going back and forth with em. It be the ego that wants you to prove something to that person and thus argue or react to em. Easier said than done obviously to not react but take a deep breath try to smile on some he/she thought that they could try it and failed and keep it moving.

We conditioned and programmed to not be p*ssy, cowardly and deal with issues head on on some aggressive shyt. However, the way those in power got to where they are now was from using their head not irrational emotion. This is coming from someone who everyone thought would be a lawyer arguing so much. I grew older and realized a lot of the shyt we were taught/programmed was necessary ain't necessary.

 

[Still Benefited]

The art of being indifferent and righteously unnaffected

 

[Charlie Hustle]

@Rusty$hackleford I work in the corporate world in the military industrial complex. I'm senior level, black and still young. Its a dirty game

 

[Heafcliffe]

Takes too much energy and perception of caring to engage in such foolery.

Was in those situations as a young professional and . As a seasoned professional with some influence, I govern myself in a manner to show/ demonstrate to the newer (black) employees how to carry things:

- Accountability
- Direct eye contact
- Body position

 

[TEH]

This is so true. I’ve learned that you can say the simplest shyt. Some real basic fire is hot shyt and there will be somebody coming to argue. But it’s so basic and obvious that you think “nah they not serious…lemme figure this out”
The longer it goes on, the more irritated you are because they usually saying some shyt that does not correlate to reality.
Our brains are hardwired to not accept change easily. We like patterns. We like hearing truthful things that reinforce and validate reality. Having somebody just flagrantly tell you the opposite of what you know with no evidence or proof—having them take you all the way there only to find out they don’t even have the intellectual capacity to understand what they arguing about?

That shyt can make you wanna two-hand choke somebody. And I don’t know why. Why not just let them talk their shyt?

I’m still working through some cosmic concepts around the power of true and the danger of allowing lies to go unchallenged. There’s something powerful that makes us react to hearing lies or wrongness in a visceral way. That’ll be what I concentrate on my next mental trip.

True

That’s not true at all. No one in my life that I know of is defined that way or that’s not how the world works. That’s not true at all!

That’s also why we argue when someone makes a generalization especially about us. Like, that might have been true one time but it doesn’t define me. You don’t really know me and I’m going to try to convince you who I am now.

What’s your academic field? It seems that I like this train of thought.

 

[African Peasant]

This actually goes back to slavery. Black men invented being cool - literally. And it is a skill. A survival skill. It’s been passed down through generations.

I remember reading a whole paper on this. During slavery black men had to reclaim their masculinity in the face of deadly consequences by maintaining composure and being willing to walk away from fukk shyt. Emotionally reacting would get you tortured and killed back then.

There’s a book on the history of it as well. Black Cool: One Thousand Streams of Blackness

Here’s an article:

@IllmaticDelta can prob shed some light on this

 

[Bryan Danielson]

Triggering content. Don’t even get me started.
Usually I’m pretty chill. But when I get to “No fukks given” levels…Issa wrap.

Yea I been having a problem with my creative director.

When my old CM moved to another team, he kinda gave me a warning about her in one of our last meetings.

I been trying to just keep my head down for the last 2 weeks or so

 

[The Pledge]

I try to be cool, thankfully I rarely get tried in person. Being tall as fukk helps.

 

[010101]

i love to dance through conflict ha*

 

[King Poetic]

In my teens and 20s and early 30s , I would have literally lost control

Now I just turned my back and walk off and let the other person do all that talking while I’m hitting up draft kings

 

[Blankthawtz]

This is so true. I’ve learned that you can say the simplest shyt. Some real basic fire is hot shyt and there will be somebody coming to argue. But it’s so basic and obvious that you think “nah they not serious…lemme figure this out”
The longer it goes on, the more irritated you are because they usually saying some shyt that does not correlate to reality.
Our brains are hardwired to not accept change easily. We like patterns. We like hearing truthful things that reinforce and validate reality. Having somebody just flagrantly tell you the opposite of what you know with no evidence or proof—having them take you all the way there only to find out they don’t even have the intellectual capacity to understand what they arguing about?

That shyt can make you wanna two-hand choke somebody. And I don’t know why. Why not just let them talk their shyt?

I’m still working through some cosmic concepts around the power of true and the danger of allowing lies to go unchallenged. There’s something powerful that makes us react to hearing lies or wrongness in a visceral way. That’ll be what I concentrate on my next mental trip.

This why I fukks with you.... You get me!...

 

[Dont@Me]

This is so true. I’ve learned that you can say the simplest shyt. Some real basic fire is hot shyt and there will be somebody coming to argue. But it’s so basic and obvious that you think “nah they not serious…lemme figure this out”
The longer it goes on, the more irritated you are because they usually saying some shyt that does not correlate to reality.
Our brains are hardwired to not accept change easily. We like patterns. We like hearing truthful things that reinforce and validate reality. Having somebody just flagrantly tell you the opposite of what you know with no evidence or proof—having them take you all the way there only to find out they don’t even have the intellectual capacity to understand what they arguing about?

That shyt can make you wanna two-hand choke somebody. And I don’t know why. Why not just let them talk their shyt?

I’m still working through some cosmic concepts around the power of true and the danger of allowing lies to go unchallenged. There’s something powerful that makes us react to hearing lies or wrongness in a visceral way. That’ll be what I concentrate on my next mental trip.

You explained this so well when I was going back and forth to amothafukka online who couldn't see the point in learning self defense because he never had to fight. Got me so mad that I wanted to fukk him up to teach him a reason he should believe in it.

 

[Action Mike]

Arguing outside of just it be entertaining or a teaching moment you'll learn from or i might is crazy to me.

Especially if I think you're stupid.

There are legit stupid people on planet earth, you arguing with them is thinking they have some intelligence to comprehend your point or make their argument stronger. Outside of that its just emotional, which is reserved for women or children.