Was he wrong/do you blame him #GMB

[Coco Loco]

Explain.
My thing is, if he's actually doing all that, when does he have time to cheat? And if she's asking him for proof, wtf was she doing. Sounds like she's guilty about something

You’re missing the bigger picture. This is not about him being accused of cheating, this is about his wife causing chaos for kicks and being a bytch. She didn’t just start and he didn’t just start “letting it slide”. She’s probably the one cheating and wanted to throw in some razzle dazzle because she was bored that night

Your friend is in a miserable marriage but won’t leave to find peace because he doesn’t want another man raising his child. Sadly if he doesn’t leave the situation he may have a mental breakdown

Cheating won’t make his wife not be a bytch. Setting some boundaries or leaving her ass to cause chaos by herself will

 

[Umoja]

If he is, oh well it's not my problem. But me calling him a liar without proof serves no purpose. Y'all act like there's nobody actually going thru shyt like this though

As you go through life, it becomes easier to sniff out bullshyt.

If that's a story you actually heard, the first thing that's coming to my mind is him looking for a justification to cheat. When people are looking to do some fukk shyt, they have a way of working themselves into a frenzy so that they can pin the blame elsewhere.

And I've heard the "my wife/girlfriend is paranoid" enough times to at least question the cause. Had a friend of mine running jokes about how she would stalk him and shyt. Low and behold, he gave her an STD and got another woman pregnant whilst they were in a relationship.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

If he’s really sticking around for his kid, then he shouldn’t be cheating.

Having a disagreement with your wife is not an excuse to cheat.

Dude should communicate with his wife why her behavior is wrong and try to come to an understanding with his wife.

Don’t matter the circumstances cheating is always scumbag shyt.

What he gone tell his daughter” I slept around with other women so i could stay in your life”

 

[Eternally Jaded]

If he’s really sticking around for his kid, then he shouldn’t be cheating.

Having a disagreement with your wife is not an excuse to cheat.

Dude should communicate with his wife why her behavior is wrong and try to come to an understanding with his wife.

Don’t matter the circumstances cheating is always scumbag shyt.

What he gone tell his daughter” I slept around with other women so i could say in your life”

Sorry for the long read, one of the guys I know from work going thru it. Dude does it all, goes to work, the gym, takes care of the kids, cleans the house, cooks, etc doesn't cheat
Yesterday he had tickets for Earth wind and fire, called his wife she said yes she wants to go, he had dinner etc planned. All day yesterday she's blowing up his phone for bs last minute errands so his day was fukked. Then she waits until like an hour before the concert to come up with an excuse not to go.
Today, he does a shift at a facility, cleans the house, etc etc etc and even has dinner waiting for her on the stove before he comes to work(7p-7a) . He fukking goes off (usually he's laid back) she's calling him accusing him of cheating and makes him show all types of verification of where he was today(Google location, time sheet, etc) finally he gets off the phone and tells me"I'm not leaving because I don't want @anotherman raising my daughter, but from now on I'm def cheating"
I honestly had no response for him. So I'm asking y'all, is he wrong? And yes, they're both black.

See, the thing is if he's already in a stressful situation, adding a 3rd or 4th party isn't going to make his life less stressed.

That's called sipping sour and guzzling strain.

He needs to square everything out with his wife. That's the original issue.

Adding another woman into the mix is only going to make things worse.

Tell him to deal with his problems, not compound them.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

The brehettes might get me 4 this but she iz cheating. He may as well start cheating back, he has already been charged n convicted in her eyes 2 rationalize her cheating so he midas well do the crime... double Jeopardy ....when either gender iz acting weird then starts accusing 4 no reason they cheating... iknow this from experience.... when he starts cheating she is NOT going 2 handle it well but it's her fault 4 pretty much opening that door...lots of women ruin good men this way n god forbid they hold themselves accountable

 

[DreadBrown]

Sound like dude is already cheating and looking for justification

‘I might aswell be cheating’ is a knee jerk reaction. Nobody who wasn’t already cheating or close to cheating would actually go through with it

 

[lespaulultra3]

Ya'll boys gonna learn lol. First of all, my chick knows that if I have tickets to something I want to see, I'm going with or without her. I don't care if she waits in the car or in the bathroom. I'm going and for sure that other ticket will be used by another chick. Your boy is what's known as the safe dude. Does all this shyt around the house thinking it's earning him some prize. If the CEO of google could get cheated on, how you think some nikka working graveyard shift is safe?

Women do love chaos and chaos will be there. Not all but most. Either she creates it or he does but there will be some sort of chaos in the relationship. He needs to keep her on her toes. My girl knows what I'm capable of so even if I'm going to see Barney Live, she knows she needs to go simply so I won't do some crazy shyt. Some dude I don't even like said something good before. "You worried too much about what your girl is doing. You need to create an environment where she is worried about what you're doing".

And don't think your boy can't find the time to cheat. I've literally had a Airbnb at my ex girls apartment and I'd make up excuses like taking out the trash or going to the store just to go to the other floor and knock down the other chick. All a nikka needs is 20-30 minutes.

Your boy is in too deep at this point. He could start dressing like future or running the block but she will just look at him like he's crazy. Maybe there is a way to earn a woman's respect after losing it but I never figured that shyt out. It's always easier just to cut ties and start new with another chick. Of course that's probably impossible for your boy since he has kids with her. He either need to suck it up and deal with what he married or just divorce her now IMO.

 

[Action Mike]

Sounds like jail and hell

If that last any longer he should take the giant L and leave to be honest

 

[KBtheKey]

In my opinion he was just sposed to tell her she doing too much and stopped answering calls, and only text back. Could be my wife, either way bytch you not bouta ruin my day with some bullshyt

Story is lacking backstory tho. Gotta know they history before trying to assess their situation

Edit: just remembered he work 12+ hrs AND goes home to clean the crib AND takes care of the children? That nikka a munch..

 

[360dagod]

Yeah homeboy does everything except give her the "tingles" she wants..

She bored

 

[F*ckthemkids]

Doesn’t cook
Doesn’t clean
Lazy
Combative
Disrespectful of his time and affection
Accuses him of cheating and wants tabs on his location.

He’s sharing that woman. Fukk cheating. He needs to lawyer up and file for divorce and full custody. Life is to damn short to be in some toxic, loveless marriage where you cheating on each other.

 

[Uachet]

Doesn’t cook
Doesn’t clean
Lazy
Combative
Disrespectful of his time and affection
Accuses him of cheating and wants tabs on his location.

He’s sharing that woman. Fukk cheating. He needs to lawyer up and file for divorce and full custody. Life is to damn short to be in some toxic, loveless marriage where you chestibg on each other.

If everything about his story is true, then the only justifiable answer is what I have bolded. You divorce and fight for custody of your children. Children are not dumb, they can pick up when something is not right in the house, and a lot of times they know the truth about the infidelity. So staying for them and cheating back is only teaching them poor coping mechanisms for relationships.

On another point, a lot of times cheaters will preemptively accuse the other person of cheating to throw them off of their own cheating. Also one indicator that a person is cheating is when they make up fights for no reason or find reasons why they need to break a date night with you at the last minute that are not some immediate emergency. His wife may not actually be cheating, but her actions as described by him do give of the stench of the possibility of cheating on her part. His proposition is no real solution at all, because any exposal of what he does can make his whole situation worse than what it already is.

So really, his first step should be determining if his wife is cheating on him or not. If not, then I say perhaps some marriage counselling is in order. If she is, then he needs to acquire a good divorce lawyer and prepare to battle for custody of his child. If he cares enough to stay in an untenable situation for his child, he ought to care enough to fight for 50% to 100% custody of his child.

 

[Commish]

Dude would be wrong for cheating. What is cheating gonna do to make things better for his marriage? So, he would rather continue to make matters worse than better?

All he have to do is put his down & tell his wife that the bs will stop from now on & she either gonna comply or he will bounce & deal with her in divorce court....

Should have never allowed the disrespect to fester in the first place!

 

[King Eros]

He needs to ask her straight to her face if she's cheating. Say "who are you cheating with?" rather than, "are you cheating". Ask her three times in a row, watching her eyes and body language. Even use an accusatory tone.


That's the first step.

Then stop doing so much stuff for her. He works too hard for that bullshyt. Let her know this relationship "needs more reciprocity" or it ain't going to make it.

 

[Ricky Fontaine]

The brehettes might get me 4 this but she iz cheating. He may as well start cheating back, he has already been charged n convicted in her eyes 2 rationalize her cheating so he midas well do the crime... double Jeopardy ....when either gender iz acting weird then starts accusing 4 no reason they cheating... iknow this from experience.... when he starts cheating she is NOT going 2 handle it well but it's her fault 4 pretty much opening that door...lots of women ruin good men this way n god forbid they hold themselves accountable

Damn where the hell you been at?!