We don't care if birds cheat, so why do we care when birds cheat?

[Existential]

You have to invest yourself in a relationship so it can grow, but you can't lose yourself in the process. It's more of a balancing act than moving one way or the oth

This is a dope way of looking at it. Never heard anyone put it that way before.

 

[MikelArteta]

Because it's easier to cling to an illusion than face reality. Not because we have to examine the other person. But we have to examine ourselves.

exactly
no one wants to admit they made poor judgment

 

[feelosofer]

exactly
no one wants to admit they made poor judgment

I think what it is, is that we as humans are optimists at heart. It takes experience to temper our expectation and cheating is the ultimate hammer.

 

[MikelArteta]

See, I want to get on this level. I try to develop emotional security when others do me wrong because I can't keep people from doing wrong. I can only control how I feel, so I want complete control of my feelings or the ability to heal from unwanted feelings. Control is the desire, but I try not superimpose this desire on others' lives. It's easy for a man to make that mistake and that's when a man becomes a tyrant: when he controls other people's lives for selfish reasons.

Simply put, we want to free ourselves from the idea that we have to change people so we can be happy. We want to free ourselves from wishing that some people were better. We have to change ourselves so that they can't make us unhappy with what they do.

But how do men guard their heart more effectively and learn to let go?

firs thing is this you can only control yourself, you can't control if a woman is going to cheat step out or screw you over.

People don't change, people are who they are especially if they are adults they ain't changing.

Instead of getting caught up by a beautiful face, big boobs and an ass nikkaz need to learn how to SCREEN, the signs are right infront of you, the attention whore with scandalous photos, she clubs and bar hops, she has a bunch of male friends, broken family, you can feel it shes wild but you want to you want to try and domesticate a cobra STOP.

People will show you who they are its up to you to believe it and not get caught up by the mirage, like I said I've developed a set of skills throughout the years in reading people and the signs, like a old wiry detective i've seen it all, i hang onto every word like bill duke



you guard your heart by thinking logically, by having a set of rules, boundaries and don't break them. Give no leeway give no exceptions regardless of how "hot" she is, never be afraid to WALK AWAY