Weirdo street interview breh lit a match and watched them burn

[MMS]

No.


I said it wasn’t about the money, because it isn’t.

He also flew her family out to Italy and sounds like he paid for all that too.


Money is relative. It’s a waste to people who don’t have it.

35k on a ring for a woman is a waste to YOU, but you have men out here spending that or more each time they purchase a time piece because they are watch collectors. Is that a waste of money?

Is it a waste of money when car collectors spend 100k+ on unique automobiles? Maybe to YOU, but not to THEM. And if he wants to spend money he clearly has on a nice ring for the woman he loves, it isn’t a waste to him.

35k to you is a sedan. 100k to him is probably a sedan. That’s the difference.

its not a difference to me

you say its not waste but you are an outsider in his dealings with HIS woman. its a stone for sentiment sake. It does nothing other than tell you and the other people that you like to adorn yourself.

that said, he is clearly insinuating the material things he does for her validates that he is a "good man" because of it

but reality says thats a lie, materialism doesnt get you anything. There are billionaires getting taken advantage of for the pool boy and custodians security etc etc

you say its not about the money but end your post saying 35k to me is a sedan and to him 100k a sedan? are you calling me poor see what I mean? or maybe you do not. Money is not relative. If you think the value of a man is in the things they buy for you then thats for you. Not for me tho

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Or he could just say that marriage is too expensive, it involves too many people having to pretend they like each other on the wedding day and wedding process and he doesn't like the fact that there are now financial consequences for if they break up that can affect him for the rest of his life.

Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce and the majority of divorces are initiated by women. If I told you to put most of your money into a stock, then I told you half of all investors not only lose that money but will OWE money afterwards and you're not even guaranteed decent and consistent dividends...would you invest?

"Make it official" what does that even actually mean? You mean you want your relationship to have a contract where there are consequences when it's violated. That's actually what marriage is. It's not about love, because if yall been living together for years and your friends and family all know you're together, then it's "official" to them, but not official to the state you live in and the IRS.

Women are usually far more eager to get married because the benefits to them are very clear and immediate. You get a party, you get to be the center of attention, AND you're protected if the man ever upsets you to the point you no longer want to be with him. It's ultimate security. And as a bonus, depending on what culture you come from, his family will literally PAY yours via a dowry. You're getting money up front. The drawbacks for men are far more obvious and apparent so men are more sluggish when it comes to marriage.

The way she even phrased it was telling "you're getting wife duties" she might actually be too stupid to realize she just told him she sees their relationship as transactional. "If I'm doing all these things for you, what are YOU doing for me?" When that's your mindset in a relationship, you were already doomed to fail.

 

[Gloxina]

its not a difference to me

you say its not waste but you are an outsider in his dealings with HIS woman. its a stone for sentiment sake. It does nothing other than tell you and the other people that you like to adorn yourself.

that said, he is clearly insinuating the material things he does for her validates that he is a "good man" because of it

but reality says thats a lie, materialism doesnt get you anything. There are billionaires getting taken advantage of for the pool boy and custodians security etc etc

you say its not about the money but end your post saying 35k to me is a sedan and to him 100k a sedan? are you calling me poor see what I mean? or maybe you do not. Money is not relative. If you think the value of a man is in the things they buy for you then thats for you. Not for me tho

I’m not calling you poor! I’m not expecting some 50k engagement ring myself!


The point is it isn’t a waste to MILLIONS OF PEOPLE because there wouldn’t be a market for this shyt if everyone felt that way.


Diddy prolly spends more than 35k on decor for one of his bathrooms that he doesn’t even use. It isn’t a waste to him because it’s a room in his house.
That’s my point. It’s relative.

Sophia Richie’s ring cost more than that and I’m sure Lionel Richie didn’t tell her now husband that it was a waste of money. It was a beautiful gift and gesture from the man who wants to spend his life with her.
It’s custom, and some dudes don’t mind doing it for their lady.

 

[Fillerguy]

Folks nem asked her who had ever proposed to her. Yea, he checking his bytch.

She don't know how to stand up for herself

 

[Gloxina]

She don't know how to stand up for herself

How much you wanna bet she ain’t have a daddy

 

[MisterMajesty]

I’m glad you have some empathy and understand what happened.


See, in the black community it’s a game of “gotcha!” “Tough luck!” “Oh she bout to be played” when you encounter the girl who didn’t have a dad or a mom who also got played.

Yes some of these girls are def reckless, but there are definitely men who have no problem knocking women up out of wedlock too.


See, and because you know I know what the deal is, I know you are going to be honest and say I’m correct here:

The men who are raised with good fathers will tell their sons what? “Hey son, have your fun but if you don’t see it happening let her go before it’s too late for her”. Or “have your fun but don’t knock any of these chicks up!”

Thaaaaaaat’s the advice responsible old school playas give their sons so both their sons and the girls walk away without visible baggage.


We have a community filled with men and women who aren’t getting any fukking game, and because it’s a man’s world y’all can literally impregnate half the block and as long as you still have some money, looks, or a working you gon always find a willing woman.
It doesn’t work that way for us even if we unfortunately got dealt a bad hand in life.

Yeah her situation is legitimately horrible. Was a 10+ year relationship, she thought "this was it. I'm married soon." Heck, we all thought that. It just made sense. Breh did a whole 180, kicked her out and uprooted her life. From interacting with her and actually talking to her and knowing what is out here on them streets, I'd be lying if I ain't giving dude the side eye (I mean, my win. But this is the kinda lady that has a single digit body count, is strong as an ox, pro-black, and DOWN, there's literally only one flaw thus far...and that's something most people from the hood have: trauma).

In regards to the bolded? Lets just say im happy its a woman saying this shyt. Because I heavily, heavily agree. We losing recipes. Not just the US, a lot of brehs in the UK just don't "get it" nor understand the stakes of whats going on.

Both mom an dad always put it blunt. Any pregnant woman? thats ya wife now. You refuse? disowned. I got one mother who has family that was cool with panthers, and another that fought in the rhodesia situation. They're _old testament_ to hell. shyt, even my dad was getting onto me about hook up culture, told me to be a lil more disciplined. I ain't listen to him at first (I have a very high number and I ain't proud of it. At all. It all rings of wasted time ). Thankfully I smartened up mid 20s (nearly 30). But others ain't so lucky.

 

[MMS]

I’m not calling you poor! I’m not expecting some 50k engagement ring myself!


The point is it isn’t a waste to MILLIONS OF PEOPLE because there wouldn’t be a market for this shyt if everyone felt that way.


Diddy prolly spends more than 35k on decor for one of his bathrooms that he doesn’t even use. It isn’t a waste to him because it’s a room in his house.
That’s my point. It’s relative.

Sophia Richie’s ring cost more than that and I’m sure Lionel Richie didn’t tell her now husband that it was a waste of money. It was a beautiful gift and gesture from the man who wants to spend his life with her.
It’s custom, and some dudes don’t mind doing it for their lady.

you know peer pressure isnt just in middle school and high school

the "diamonds for engagements" idea was completely fabricated and extensively marketed to sell ILLEGALLY pilfered African diamonds before the great depression

GMB



there are lots of things you can buy for 35k but to ME i think jewelry is a antiquated method of holding excess money. and for engagements completely for show.

 

[Givethanks]

Don't let people into your relationship, especially if they don't know what's going on behind closed doors.

What if she's working at McDonalds and breh is a tradesman making decent coin, what if she's depending on him. Or maybe the roles were reversed and he was depending on her.

Imagine losing a decent guy because some random influencer wanted it use your relationship for clout, especially if she says she happy.

But it's not my relationship so




People will go into +60K in debt over one day just to impress others who won't help you or give you positive solutions when your marriage gets tough

And God knows it will and always does, marriage isn't a walk in the park because you can't just walk away

 

[Gloxina]

you know peer pressure isnt just in middle school and high school

the "diamonds for engagements" idea was completely fabricated and extensively marketed to sell ILLEGALLY pilfered African diamonds before the great depression

GMB



there are lots of things you can buy for 35k but to ME i think jewelry is a antiquated method of holding excess money. and for engagements completely for show.

I totally understand what the DeBeers family did to literally create the diamond industry and their extreme generational wealth.


That being said, as I said, I didn’t say I personally expect a ring that expensive. But 35k to some people is 1k or even 100. That’s a bracelet for Paris Hilton and maybe an anklet for her mother Kathy Hilton.
$35k can do a helluva lot. And for some people it can buy jewelry and trinkets.

Hell, one of my aunts walks around with multiple Cartier love bracelets. You think she cares what else could’ve been bought with that money? No, because everything else in their lives is in order. So she can splurge on those things

 

[Gloxina]

Don't let people into your relationship, especially if they don't know what's going on behind closed doors.

What if she's working at McDonalds and breh is a tradesman making decent coin, what if she's depending on him. Or maybe the roles were reversed and he was depending on her.

Imagine losing a decent guy because some random influencer wanted it use your relationship for clout, especially if she says she happy.

But it's not my relationship so

The point is she could be “happy” with a man who sees her as a woman to bide his time with while he’s “building”, but he might drop her once his station improves. If he’s snacking up with her and thinks she is the one, what’s so hard about going to the courthouse? They don’t have to have some big wedding.


He gets some “in-house” that’s cooking and washing his draws who is hoping for a future, while the white girl up thread is cooking and washing the draws of a man who made a commitment to be with her as she has his kids and gets older.

 

[MMS]

I totally understand what the DeBeers family did to literally create the diamond industry and their extreme generational wealth.


That being said, as I said, I didn’t say I personally expect a ring that expensive. But 35k to some people is 1k or even 100. That’s a bracelet for Paris Hilton and maybe an anklet for her mother Kathy Hilton.
$35k can do a helluva lot. And for some people it can buy jewelry and trinkets.

Hell, one of my aunts walks around with multiple Cartier love bracelets. You think she cares what else could’ve been bought with that money? No, because everything else in their lives is in order. So she can splurge on those things

i feel it

but i also feel like the rings are pure evil

semi-related @010101

prometheus is suspended from "typhons finger"...what if Typhon is a woman

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/have-any-of-yall-ever-found-out-something-you-werent-supposed-to-know-dark-secret.962890/#post-48604274

 

[010101]

i feel it

but i also feel like the rings are pure evil

semi-related @010101

prometheus is suspended from "typhons finger"...what if Typhon is a woman

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/have-any-of-yall-ever-found-out-something-you-werent-supposed-to-know-dark-secret.962890/#post-48604274

get committed*

 

[MMS]

get committed*

are you committed? or you just committed to sad daps

 

[Gloxina]

Yeah her situation is legitimately horrible. Was a 10+ year relationship, she thought "this was it. I'm married soon." Heck, we all thought that. It just made sense. Breh did a whole 180, kicked her out and uprooted her life. From interacting with her and actually talking to her and knowing what is out here on them streets, I'd be lying if I ain't giving dude the side eye (I mean, my win. But this is the kinda lady that has a single digit body count, is strong as an ox, pro-black, and DOWN, there's literally only one flaw thus far...and that's something most people from the hood have: trauma).

In regards to the bolded? Lets just say im happy its a woman saying this shyt. Because I heavily, heavily agree. We losing recipes. Not just the US, a lot of brehs in the UK just don't "get it" nor understand the stakes of whats going on.

Both mom an dad always put it blunt. Any pregnant woman? thats ya wife now. You refuse? disowned. I got one mother who has family that was cool with panthers, and another that fought in the rhodesia situation. They're _old testament_ to hell. shyt, even my dad was getting onto me about hook up culture, told me to be a lil more disciplined. I ain't listen to him at first (I have a very high number and I ain't proud of it. At all. It all rings of wasted time ). Thankfully I smartened up mid 20s (nearly 30). But others ain't so lucky.

You got that good old school upbringing

Like I said, those who know the game avoid a lot of BS.

I’ve met men with money who lacked the breeding and I left them alone because I knew it would be a disaster.


I remember a JayZ interview where he said he thought he was ready for marriage because he had the money, the success and the perfect girl so he said “well, yea, marriage is next”, and how he made mistakes and hurt Bey because he wasn’t actually ready and didn’t know what it meant to be a husband.

And I said to myself “Wow. How sad that Beyoncé had to endure that pain and embarrassment because he hadn’t sat down and sorted himself out before proposing.” Imagine if he had “done the (internal) work” and discovered/healed his trauma before getting married?

That’s the shyt I’m talking about. Men and women doing things they aren’t ready to do.

 

[Givethanks]

The point is she could be “happy” with a man who sees her as a woman to bide his time with while he’s “building”, but he might drop her once his station improves. If he’s snacking up with her and thinks she is the one, what’s so hard about going to the courthouse? They don’t have to have some big wedding.


He gets some “in-house” that’s cooking and washing his draws who is hoping for a future, while the white girl up thread is cooking and washing the draws of a man who made a commitment to be with her as she has his kids and gets older.

From going off the video; She's happy, she said she is. She's been with him for 3 years, she must know her man better than anyone else.

"Might" "if"... can't really assume what we don't know and there situation from a short video.

From the video, i'm getting she wants a big fancy wedding a nice one. She said no to a 1.5k wedding ring, and there's nothing wrong with what she wants. I think I can assume she doesn't want to go to a "courthouse", I could be wrong.

We don't know the white girls situation, people never say the full story. Talking to white people at work, I'm hearing they usually have family helping out with a wedding; got an uncle who own a property by the water front, grandma and grandpa got a cottage, aunt has 5 horses, daddy and mommy give them a "loan" to buy a 5k ring and you know how it goes.

I feel like the interviewer didn't aka the important Qs. He looks like he just wanted to stir the pot and trouble them, you see how the white boy stepped to him.