Weirdo street interview breh lit a match and watched them burn

[Richard Glidewell]

I'm all about peace, but there would be consequences for that cat with the microphone. I'm looking at the chick and the dude and he chose and he chose them for a reason. The disrespect would not stand. Dirty macks should be put to death. If you cant get your games off without trying to bring down my name and image then you a failure

 

[MisterMajesty]

You got that good old school upbringing

Like I said, those who know the game avoid a lot of BS.

I’ve met men with money who lacked the breeding and I left them alone because I knew it would be a disaster.


I remember a JayZ interview where he said he thought he was ready for marriage because he had the money, the success and the perfect girl so he said “well, yea, marriage is next”, and how he made mistakes and hurt Bey because he wasn’t actually ready and didn’t know what it meant to be a husband.

And I said to myself “Wow. How sad that Beyoncé had to endure that pain and embarrassment because he hadn’t sat down and sorted himself out before proposing.” Imagine if he had “done the (internal) work” and discovered/healed his trauma before getting married?

That’s the shyt I’m talking about. Men and women doing things they aren’t ready to do.

Are you ever really "ready" for those kinda steps though? I can sit here and readily admit that outside of observing my parents, I don't really know much about that kind of commitment. I can only comment on how I handle long term relationships (which is, I handle them the same way I take on jobs. I do this, you do that. Any kind of issue? we raise it up this way, and this is why, etc etc).

To me I look at kids, marriage kinda like a boxing fight. You have a whole of routine training, a game plan, some wiggle room, and a tough hardened shell to allow you to bite the bullet and endure the hardships that come with the shyt. and most of important of all, you have some humility. Cus if there's one thing that is true, its that everyone can end up on the canvas. Figuratively and literally.

 

[Gloxina]

From going off the video; She's happy, she said she is. She's been with him for 3 years, she must know her man better than anyone else.

"Might" "if"... can't really assume what we don't know and there situation from a short video.

From the video, i'm getting she wants a big fancy wedding a nice one. She said no to a 1.5k wedding ring, and there's nothing wrong with what she wants. I think I can assume she doesn't want to go to a "courthouse", I could be wrong.

We don't know the white girls situation, people never say the full story. Talking to white people at work, I'm hearing they usually have family helping out with a wedding; got an uncle who own a property by the water front, grandma and grandpa got a cottage, aunt has 5 horses, daddy and mommy give them a "loan" to buy a 5k ring and you know how it goes.

I feel like the interviewer didn't aka the important Qs. He looks like he just wanted to stir the pot and trouble them, you see how the white boy stepped to him.

I’m sure the white couple did get help!
My family pays for the wedding and sends you on your honeymoon/gives you the down payment for the marital home. Same with some of the guys/girls I know.

Point is it wasn’t a situation where he or his or her family said the ring, engagement trip, wedding, etc was too expensive. Those expenses work for their lifestyle.


And with the black couple, I’m just going off the fact that he told her that he didn’t need a ring or marriage to make it “official” when he shows her love every day.



AGAIN- Coli daddies! When your baby girl’s boyfriend tells her she doesn’t need a marriage/ring because he doesn’t think they need to make it “official” for it to be real, you gonna tell your daughter she got a “real one” or you gonna tell homeboy to kick rocks?

 

[Tair]

Both of them aren't ready for marriage.

 

[010101]

are you committed? or you just committed to sad daps

v 0.1*

 

[Umoja]

It’s not a “toxic” question. It’s a real question her parents should’ve asked her before she moved in with him.

So if you have a little sis or a daughter, you’d encourage her to live with a boyfriend who tells her that being “official” isn’t a real thing to him?

He got defensive when pressed. We don't live in the 80s and 90s anymore. Women don't stay at home until getting married, men can no longer afford to live on their own.

It is normal for boyfriend and girlfriends to co-habit for a number of years before getting married. And if I'm going to get cross if I hear people act like it is some black only thing.

When I look at my friends who are married, regardless of race, they were with their wives for several years before getting married.

If we want to get technical about things, the fukked up thing you're not pointing out is her saying "As far as I'm concerned, we are single unless married". That mindset actually shows a person is not to be trusted.

 

[MMS]

v 0.1*

so shareware

 

[Givethanks]

I’m sure the white couple did get help!
My family pays for the wedding and sends you on your honeymoon/gives you the down payment for the marital home. Same with some of the guys/girls I know.

Point is it wasn’t a situation where he or his or her family said the ring, engagement trip, wedding, etc was too expensive. Those expenses work for their lifestyle.


And with the black couple, I’m just going off the fact that he told her that he didn’t need a ring or marriage to make it “official” when he shows her love every day.



AGAIN- Coli daddies! When your baby girl’s boyfriend tells her she doesn’t need a marriage/ring because he doesn’t think they need to make it “official” for it to be real, you gonna tell your daughter she got a “real one” or you gonna tell homeboy to kick rocks?

It depends, if she's more well off than him


But for real, if it gets to that point. It is what it is, when I have a daughter/son I just hope they marry a mature person (financial, emotional, yadda yadda) who would give them the shirt off their back. I don't live with my girl, but I'd anything and everything for her.

Hopefully their mother (hopefully my current GF) and myself instill positive traits that stick with them, otherwise

 

[Gloxina]

He got defensive when pressed. We don't live in the 80s and 90s anymore. Women don't stay at home until getting married, men can no longer afford to live on their own.

It is normal for boyfriend and girlfriends to co-habit for a number of years before getting married. And if I'm going to get cross if I hear people act like it is some black only thing.

When I look at my friends who are married, regardless of race, they were with their wives for several years before getting married.

If we want to get technical about things, the fukked up thing you're not pointing out is her saying "As far as I'm concerned, we are single unless married". That mindset actually shows a person is not to be trusted.

I agree that it wasn’t the healthiest thing for her to say.
The reason why women say that or teach their daughters that is because plenty of dudes will say “it isn’t cheating if I’m not married” meaning dudes will have their girlfriend and will be “sowing their oats” and having their fun before it’s time to buckle down and be “a one woman man”.

Plus their are men who will say that they will be with a woman but know she isn’t someone he will marry. He won’t tell HER that. He’ll just string her along for years until he drops her and marries someone else a year later. Like breh a few posts up who said his girl was in a previous relationship for a decade and thought she was getting married, but instead ol boy kicked her out and said it was over. That’s the shyt that can happen when you cohabitate.

 

[Swirv]

Letting people into your relationship is a recipe for disaster.

 

[010101]

so shareware

give yourself a twist of fate*

 

[Gloxina]

Are you ever really "ready" for those kinda steps though? I can sit here and readily admit that outside of observing my parents, I don't really know much about that kind of commitment. I can only comment on how I handle long term relationships (which is, I handle them the same way I take on jobs. I do this, you do that. Any kind of issue? we raise it up this way, and this is why, etc etc).

To me I look at kids, marriage kinda like a boxing fight. You have a whole of routine training, a game plan, some wiggle room, and a tough hardened shell to allow you to bite the bullet and endure the hardships that come with the shyt. and most of important of all, you have some humility. Cus if there's one thing that is true, its that everyone can end up on the canvas. Figuratively and literally.

You right.

But who do you think it better prepared for the “fight”? Those who watched parents/relatives have healthy marriages that lasted or folks who are the products of babymommas/babydaddies who never saw adults make it work?

 

[BEN23]

yall aint find her page

 

[Umoja]

I agree that it wasn’t the healthiest thing for her to say.
The reason why women say that or teach their daughters that is because plenty of dudes will say “it isn’t cheating if I’m not married” meaning dudes will have their girlfriend and will be “sowing their oats” and having their fun before it’s time to buckle down and be “a one woman man”.

Stop the bullshyt.

One trait I really hate in people is pawning off their fukked up behaviour. Seeing the worst in other people becomes a kneejerk reaction because people want to justify their selfishness.

Plus their are men who will say that they will be with a woman but know she isn’t someone he will marry. He won’t tell HER that. He’ll just string her along for years until he drops her and marries someone else a year later. Like breh a few posts up who said his girl was in a previous relationship for a decade and thought she was getting married, but instead ol boy kicked her out and said it was over. That’s the shyt that can happen when you cohabitate.

We don't know the full story and I don't see why this really matters. If they were married and then divorced in the same period of time, what would really change?

Marriage does not stop the relationship from ending. This insinuation is being used as a cover for wanting the financial security that comes that comes with it.

 

[Gloxina]

Stop the bullshyt.

One trait I really hate in people is pawning off their fukked up behaviour. Seeing the worst in other people becomes a kneejerk reaction because people want to justify their selfishness.


We don't know the full story and I don't see why this really matters. If they were married and then divorced in the same period of time, what would really change?

Marriage does not stop the relationship from ending. This insinuation is being used as a cover for wanting the financial security that comes that comes with it.

The fukk? Cover?


Of course we want the financial security that comes with marriage?

Negro WHAT?!


So I’m supposed to pop my legs open, get pregnant without a care in the world, work FT contributing to bills, risk my health with pregnancy and birth (because men like to downplay how dangerous child birth actually is) and generally put myself in a situation where I am now less appealing to the rest of the world because of the changes my body went through to give birth to a child I created with YOU.

Fukk yes, I need the commitment and guarantee that you truly want a future and FAMILY with me and that you commit to being with me and going on the journey of life as a married couple.

Because if one day you wake up and say “you know what. I’m a little tired of this situation. I want some new pu$$y, I want to be single, I don’t want to deal with having my child running around me every two seconds- I’m out”. Well, now I’m older and less appealing to any potential new suitors. So yes, the financial assistance I’ll get during the divorce (if there’s even anything to split) will help keep me going because I’m going from a situation where I had a hubby who was the breadwinner/2 income household to now having a one income household.


Of course finances are a factor.

TF?