Welp, I'm single again.

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

I shortened that because it's causing confusion. I'm not even looking, it's more of a why do women come out of the wood works when you've decided to take time off, better yourself, maybe take up a hobby - but when you're single and looking, it's like hunting for scarce meat.

The truth of the matter is they were ALWAYS there, you just never paid attention to them when you were involved.

I'm speaking from personal experience. After my divorce, I went dolo for 7 years to get myself together.​

 

[No_bammer_weed]

I shortened that because it's causing confusion. I'm not even looking, it's more of a why do women come out of the wood works when you've decided to take time off, better yourself, maybe take up a hobby - but when you're single and looking, it's like hunting for scarce meat.

Theory of relativity

 

[Tommy Knocks]

Women like 'a challenge' as much as a guy. What has more value to you, something that you have to pursue or something that you've been given? That which you had to pursue has more value. When you are nonchalant, you allow the women to pursue you, which raises your value in their eyes.

I don't like a challenge at all. I like when hot chicks just come up, and I didn't have to work for it. It's like asking me, do I want a 1kt diamond, or do I want to dig for rocks in some west african mine. tf.

what kind of logic do they have. see what I mean? and what's up with nikkas and "So where the ladies at?" "Oh no ladies today?" wtf, I just became single, shouldnt it be more like "hey I have a friend I want to introduce to you", they been on the market this whole time, I havent how the fukk am I supposed to know where the ladies at? nikka YOU TELL ME. It's like when dudes notice you're not hunting either, they get all in the cut observing your every move, soon as you start talking to a lady be on some

I thought I said I was retired.

 

[Tommy Knocks]

The truth of the matter is they were ALWAYS there, you just never paid attention to them when you were involved.

I'm speaking from personal experience. After my divorce, I went dolo for 7 years to get myself together.​

never thought of it like that.

 

[Tommy Knocks]

I'm the same, my life is at peace and I enjoy it. Don't got to talk on the phone or send texts throughout the day, don't got to waste money on dinner or movies can just work come home and relax

Maybe one day ill dabble and nestle in with one of these prickly creatures known as women again but for now

this shyt is fukking great.

 

[Malta]

I don't like a challenge at all. I like when hot chicks just come up, and I didn't have to work for it. It's like asking me, do I want a 1kt diamond, or do I want to dig for rocks in some west african mine. tf.

what kind of logic do they have. see what I mean? and what's up with nikkas and "So where the ladies at?" "Oh no ladies today?" wtf, I just became single, shouldnt it be more like "hey I have a friend I want to introduce to you", they been on the market this whole time, I havent how the fukk am I supposed to know where the ladies at? nikka YOU TELL ME. It's like when dudes notice you're not hunting either, they get all in the cut observing your every move, soon as you start talking to a lady be on some

I thought I said I was retired.

Your first mistake is trying to apply male logic to a female Our minds are actually wired differently and don't work the same, it's why men are better at math & navigation, while women are better at emotional facial recognition and other shyt.

Never try to think like them and question why they do what they do, our software is compatible, just written in different code and using different operating systems.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I'm the same, my life is at peace and I enjoy it. Don't got to talk on the phone or send texts throughout the day, don't got to waste money on dinner or movies can just work come home and relax

Maybe one day ill dabble and nestle in with one of these prickly creatures known as women again but for now

I think every cat should spend some significant time alone and left to his own devices. It's the only way you can improve yourself and figure out who you really are and what you want out of life...The life we live in now has 2 many distractions and we find ourselves just going through the motions most of the time with no destination in sight

I got put on probation around this time last year and hopefully, tomorrow will be my last day...

During this time of semi lock down I had a lot of time to be introspective and focus on myself physically and spiritually.

Dealt with very few broads(very few people in general) and it was extremely relaxing to say the least.

I was able to focus solely on me and figure out what my end game in life was finally gonna be...

Sadly I was forced into this by partially losing my freedom, but that's what it takes sometimes...

 

[Tommy Knocks]

Your first mistake is trying to apply male logic to a female Our minds are actually wired differently and don't work the same, it's why men are better at math & navigation, while women are better at emotional facial recognition and other shyt.

Never try to think like them and question why they do what they do, our software is compatible, just written in different code and using different operating systems.

true. true.

and what of men that also wonder why you're not hunting and keep a close eye on you and who you're talking too, wondering why you're not hunting? while they themselves are in the same position (difference is they're trying, you're not)

my first thought was competitive nature. but if you're not trying, how is it competitive?

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

The truth of the matter is they were ALWAYS there, you just never paid attention to them when you were involved.

I'm speaking from personal experience. After my divorce, I went dolo for 7 years to get myself together.​

If you don't mind me asking, what did you focus on in those 7 years and are you the same cat you were before your divorce?

If you're not, are you much improved ? Do you value the same things as before?

 

[Malta]

true. true.

and what of men that also wonder why you're not hunting and keep a close eye on you and who you're talking too, wondering why you're not hunting? while they themselves are in the same position (difference is they're trying, you're not)

my first thought was competitive nature. but if you're not trying, how is it competitive?

Most dudes just do what other dudes do, same thing, you're not following the pack and they can't comprehend why. Also of note, is dudes that have to try hard to get women cannot understand why a dude who is used to getting them much easier by comparison would ever take a step back. I guess they view it as wasted opportunities, cause to them it's more difficult.

 

[Tommy Knocks]

Most dudes just do what other dudes do, same thing, you're not following the pack and they can't comprehend why. Also of note, is dudes that have to try hard to get women cannot understand why a dude who is used to getting them much easier by comparison would ever take a step back. I guess they view it as wasted opportunities, cause to them it's more difficult.

That actually makes a lot of sense.

I guess that's where the stares come from, seeing if you're bringing down the jersey and what not. Bit annoying tbh. "where the ladies at" I done got asked this 3 times this past weekend, it's getting old.

nikka don't ask me stupid questions. Go find them, and then come back and tell me where they are, or ask me to be a wing, I'm a great wing man, but don't be off to the side watching a nikka sip his beer and watch the game, that shyt is weird.

My cameroonian homie on the other hand has taken the opportunity and This nikka never goes out, but now that I'm back he's on some "lets go out" . I just chill, they come around, I keep quiet and he picks em off like crazy. shyt is funny. The nikka aint even got to get into pounce position, as long as he's near me, and they keep coming close, he opens the set, chops them up, I give him some DHV periodically, and chill off to the side quiet as can be. He a short lil african dude, but his game on point right now.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

If you don't mind me asking, what did you focus on in those 7 years and are you the same cat you were before your divorce?

If you're not, are you much improved ? Do you value the same things as before?

Self-esteem was shattered because I felt I'd failed as a husband/father/man, so I had to re-build myself from the ground-up. Primary focus was getting out of debt. Secondary was forgiving myself and my ex before I felt ready to go back out into the dating scene.

I ain't the same. Before, I was more concerned with others' issues and helping them as much as I could. Now, I'm more concerned with what makes me enjoy life and value my own opinions. I still help others as much as I can, but I realized that there are some things I just can't/shouldn't do and I'm okay with that now. I'm not 'improved'. Just more in-control of my own destiny and my core values are immutable.​

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Self-esteem was shattered because I felt I'd failed as a husband/father/man, so I had to re-build myself from the ground-up. Primary focus was getting out of debt. Secondary was forgiving myself and my ex before I felt ready to go back out into the dating scene.

I ain't the same. Before, I was more concerned with others' issues and helping them as much as I could. Now, I'm more concerned with what makes me enjoy life and value my own opinions. I still help others as much as I can, but I realized that there are some things I just can't/shouldn't do and I'm okay with that now. I'm not 'improved'. Just more in-control of my own destiny and my core values are immutable.​

I can dig that... The best advice my uncle gave me was that most people aint shyt for real. They'll love you until they don't need you anymore. They'll drain you of your energy and resources and won't reciprocate shyt back if you let em get away with it..

I applaud you for bouncing back and being steadfast in what makes you happy with life. I know it sounds crazy but that's easier said than done if what you value out of life isn't mainstream or doesn't fit the status qou.



I know more than a few cats who are still financially and emotionally broken from their divorces that occurred 3-5 years ago

 

[MikelArteta]

I can dig that... The best advice my uncle gave me was that most people aint shyt for real. They'll love you until they don't need you anymore. They'll drain you of your energy and resources and won't reciprocate shyt back if you let em get away with it..

I applaud you for bouncing back and being steadfast in what makes you happy with life. I know it sounds crazy but that's easier said than done if what you value out of life isn't mainstream or doesn't fit the status qou.



I know more than a few cats who are still financially and emotionally broken from their divorces that occurred 3-5 years ago

Yep it's no joke, the amount of women who told me I won't do this or do that only to do it,