It'll come. I was a game goofy dude growing up.. girls liked me, I was just a mad awkward dude so I had absolutely no luck with girls. I'm still awkward, but I just roll with it rather than try to be fake and fit in.
Some of my homies used talking about having that "glow up". I didn't know wtf they were talking about in my early 20s; i thought they were talking like some Bruce Leroy "glow" man, gtfoh...nah when your shyt hits on all cylinders, people see that shyt. It's an unspoken energy that you'll have. Strangers will give you the right of way, coworkers will give you unearned authority, your boys will defer to your influence on things, women will choose up on you...
This might be just me, but the other thing I noticed is, you'll start to actually have haters. I didn't have too many haters in high school, I got along to get along. I or a lot of people didn't really have haters before, because you're not in anyone's way; there's nothing to hate. Haters can come in direct form; flat out talking shyt...but It'll also be covert, little passive aggressive jokes, them telling people little lies they made up in their head.
You take the good with the bad. I don't give it too much energy. It's all a part of that evolution.