What do you do with a worthless family member??

[MeachTheMonster]

OP/Djweltch,
What would happen if yall stopped taking care of their kids? Or ended the codependent relationship with your brother?

What if you told your enabling mom that you cant talk to her anymore unless she cuts your brother off?

It would be all bad. I can't do my mom like that. She's already all stressed out and fukked up. My dad's a good person but he doesn't help. He blames her for what's going on plus he's gotten old and angry, so they just fight everytime my brother does some bullshyt. I'm all my moms got right now, if I stopped helping she wouldn't change her ways.

 

[Broke Wave]

Don't cut him off bruh. Keep fighting. That's your blood. I know its hard, I have a degenerate loser sister who has done some down right evil things to me, and I refuse to talk to her, but I'll be there to help if I can.

 

[Tha Snowman]

Moms needs to talk to a counselor or another mother that has been through the same thing. She needs to shift her mindset and come to the realization that cutting him off is helping him, as backwards as that will seem to her.

You don't give people with homicidal tendencies guns. Don't give people with self destructive tendencies the tools to make bigger fukk ups than they can on their own.

Sounds like dude just needs to hit rock bottom. Unfortunately some people need that. Unfortunately some people also don't make it back. That's life.

 

[HoustonHeat]

You don't give people with homicidal tendencies guns. Don't give people with self destructive tendencies the tools to make bigger fukk ups than they can on their own.

Sounds like dude just needs to hit rock bottom. Unfortunately some people need that. Unfortunately some people also don't make it back. That's life.

best statement here. You can show empathy but dont enable.

 

[Strapped]

Pops need cut moms access to money,if she cannot access it she cannot waist it,you & pops gotta protect her from that leech she calls a son

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

Pops need cut moms access to money,if she cannot access it she cannot waist it,you & pops gotta protect her from that leech she calls a son

Best advice here.

Your mom doesn't have it in her to do what's necessary. You and your pops need to get together and keep the money from her.

 

[True Weltch Media]

OP/Djweltch,
What would happen if yall stopped taking care of their kids? Or ended the codependent relationship with your brother?

What if you told your enabling mom that you cant talk to her anymore unless she cuts your brother off?

If i stopped helping with his daughters he would temporarily lose all contact with his kids all together since the mother has a restraining order, which is going on right now.

My mother died years ago so he lives with my grandmother who is the "enabler" but she is 85 years old

His father doesn't talk to him and he has burnt every bridge around him. He's fought with just about all of his family members on both sides of the family including myself sometimes physically.

If you say anything to him, he feels like your ganging up on him or picking on him and that everyone only focuses on the negative.

 

[True Weltch Media]

its a shame when you feel like Jail for your sibling will be a relief to your family.

 

[Seea]

Bushes.

He's not gonna stop self-destructing. You and your dad gotta sit your mom down and express that she's a part of the problem. If he doesn't have her to rely on to help her out of any ol' ditch he finds himself in, he'll have to figure something out on his own.

You might hafta cut your mom off too in the process though, especially if she just will not stop.