What does it mean when exes contact you?

[Music Fiend]

I dated a chick for 4 years, things didn't work out, and I felt real rejected by it because when it was over it seemed like she moved on effortlessly and told me she held 0 feelings for me and that I was in the friend zone.

She did some shady things during the relationship, but nowadays when I look back, I see I didn't put much effort at all into having a social life. I was really to myself then, pops had died a couple years before, felt like no one really reached out to make sure I was good. So when things happened, it felt like I was losing the only person close to me. I was simpin and couldn't let go.

A year or so after the breakup, I got my head in order started getting back out there and stopped simpin and tryna get her back, she said she wanted to be friends, I refused, but kept runnin into her. Made it hard to move on, so I cut all contact. She tried contacting me every couple of months, I would just ignore and delete, cuz she pretty much told me it was not gonna happen, but wouldn't stop contacting me altogether. She made sure to always contact me on my bday and sh!t.

Now it's 4 years after things ended and while I have moved on, I'm still in my ho phase. I still think about her. and from time to time she'll still contact me. But I really don't understand why. She hit me a few nights ago at 2 AM, I answered for the first time in two years. Had a lil convo, didn't sound like she was drunk nor did she sound all that interested in linking up. Just wanted to know where I've been...

I just don't get it bruhs, I doubt she has any feelings as she's had many opportunities to reconcile. So why is she still contacting me? She seemed to move on so easily.

 

[The 2020 New Member]

A lot of girls just enjoy having a gay friend. Don't take it too personally. They think we're just accessories to them or something. It's annoying but meh.

 

[bangbreh]

dat first post ether

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

Billy why you so silly breh

 

[Ricky Church]

I dated a chick for 4 years, things didn't work out, and I felt real rejected by it because when it was over it seemed like she moved on effortlessly and told me she held 0 feelings for me and that I was in the friend zone.

She did some shady things during the relationship, but nowadays when I look back, I see I didn't put much effort at all into having a social life. I was really to myself then, pops had died a couple years before, felt like no one really reached out to make sure I was good. So when things happened, it felt like I was losing the only person close to me. I was simpin and couldn't let go.

A year or so after the breakup, I got my head in order started getting back out there and stopped simpin and tryna get her back, she said she wanted to be friends, I refused, but kept runnin into her. Made it hard to move on, so I cut all contact. She tried contacting me every couple of months, I would just ignore and delete, cuz she pretty much told me it was not gonna happen, but wouldn't stop contacting me altogether. She made sure to always contact me on my bday and sh!t.

Now it's 4 years after things ended and while I have moved on, I'm still in my ho phase. I still think about her. and from time to time she'll still contact me. But I really don't understand why. She hit me a few nights ago at 2 AM, I answered for the first time in two years. Had a lil convo, didn't sound like she was drunk nor did she sound all that interested in linking up. Just wanted to know where I've been...

I just don't get it bruhs, I doubt she has any feelings as she's had many opportunities to reconcile. So why is she still contacting me? She seemed to move on so easily.

sounds like you need to add this bytch to the "blacklist" of life. cut her off and block her completely and move on. no more FB, no more phonecalls, no more texts, etc...

she sounds like a birdbrain. she was checking up on you 2 years after not speaking to see if you would bite and give in to her and accept her phonecall. as soon as you picked up that call, she said to herself "ha...I still got this nikka on lock."

no man needs that shyt, it ain't work out so move on.

that's my 2 cents, just hope ya'll listen.

 

[Music Fiend]

LOL I knew I shouldn't have posted this emo shyt.

Ish racks my mind though, it'd be different if I left her I suppose. She friend zoned me, ish ate me up inside for a good while. This isn't even about her really. I kinda want my ego stroked to say she couldn't find better. But I know better than that.

BTW, i aint answer her call cuz it was her number, it was a new number so I thought it was a booty call

 

[Ricky Church]

LOL I knew I shouldn't have posted this emo shyt.

Ish racks my mind though, it'd be different if I left her I suppose. She friend zoned me, ish ate me up inside for a good while. This isn't even about her really. I kinda want my ego stroked to say she couldn't find better. But I know better than that.

BTW, i aint answer her call cuz it was her number, it was a new number so I thought it was a booty call

change your number breh.

 

[CELL]

I dated a chick for 4 years, things didn't work out, and I felt real rejected by it because when it was over it seemed like she moved on effortlessly and told me she held 0 feelings for me and that I was in the friend zone.

She did some shady things during the relationship, but nowadays when I look back, I see I didn't put much effort at all into having a social life. I was really to myself then, pops had died a couple years before, felt like no one really reached out to make sure I was good. So when things happened, it felt like I was losing the only person close to me. I was simpin and couldn't let go.

A year or so after the breakup, I got my head in order started getting back out there and stopped simpin and tryna get her back, she said she wanted to be friends, I refused, but kept runnin into her. Made it hard to move on, so I cut all contact. She tried contacting me every couple of months, I would just ignore and delete, cuz she pretty much told me it was not gonna happen, but wouldn't stop contacting me altogether. She made sure to always contact me on my bday and sh!t.

Now it's 4 years after things ended and while I have moved on, I'm still in my ho phase. I still think about her. and from time to time she'll still contact me. But I really don't understand why. She hit me a few nights ago at 2 AM, I answered for the first time in two years. Had a lil convo, didn't sound like she was drunk nor did she sound all that interested in linking up. Just wanted to know where I've been...

I just don't get it bruhs, I doubt she has any feelings as she's had many opportunities to reconcile. So why is she still contacting me? She seemed to move on so easily.

No offence or anything but what the fukk are you doing messing around with the same chick that dumped you 4 years ago?

You need to move the fukk on with your life because unless you're unemployed there's truly no other reason for you to be this hung up on someone. I'm sorry to sound so offensive but it's simply tough love, you really need to start being a man because unless you stop thinking about this bytch and just move on you'll be in this same rut for another four years.

Move on fakkit.

 

[The Burger King]

A lot of girls just enjoy having a gay friend. Don't take it too personally. They think we're just accessories to them or something. It's annoying but meh.

Billy tha GAWD is back?!

 

[Music Fiend]

sounds like you need to add this bytch to the "blacklist" of life. cut her off and block her completely and move on. no more FB, no more phonecalls, no more texts, etc...

she sounds like a birdbrain. she was checking up on you 2 years after not speaking to see if you would bite and give in to her and accept her phonecall. as soon as you picked up that call, she said to herself "ha...I still got this nikka on lock."

no man needs that shyt, it ain't work out so move on.

that's my 2 cents, just hope ya'll listen.

See this is what I needed to hear, and this is what I thought. I did move on bruh, it really isn't messing with me emotionally like that. Sure it makes me wonder a bit if things went different where they'd have ended up, but I don't really waste time on it.

For some reason I guess I was starting to feel like maybe I was acting like a lil simp back in the day, and there was no harm in it. First thing she asked me when I answered was where have u been? I was like... why are you still calling me and what do you want? She avoided the question on some, well why did you answer and why are you still on the phone with me...

I don't have time for games like that. Thought we could be cordial since she has some good contacts I could need in the future after college but jesus breh.

 

[dat aint da same sandwich]

She might be an agent sent by the government to seduce you into taking the oath, are you following me?

 

[Music Fiend]

No offence or anything but what the fukk are you doing messing around with the same chick that dumped you 4 years ago?

You need to move the fukk on with your life because unless you're unemployed there's truly no other reason for you to be this hung up on someone. I'm sorry to sound so offensive but it's simply tough love, you really need to start being a man because unless you stop thinking about this bytch and just move on you'll be in this same rut for another four years.

Move on fakkit.

Bruh, I get more booty than you on the regular. I moved on. Problem is I don't care about these hos, I've been a monster these past few years which was cool in college, but I'm out here int he real world now. Recently I just messed over on the last chick I was with and she told me some ish about myself that made me think back to when I started being so ruthless. Then the old chick called on a random number out of the blue. Guess I took it as a sign as maybe I needed to mend things and not burn bridges.

 

[H@LLOW]

She text you when she is bored and her main guy is not blowing her back.

 

[Xerces]

A lot of girls just enjoy having a gay friend. Don't take it too personally. They think we're just accessories to them or something. It's annoying but meh.

 

[CELL]

Bruh, I get more booty than you on the regular. I moved on. Problem is I don't care about these hos, I've been a monster these past few years. Recently I just messed over on the last chick I was with and she told me some ish that made me think back to when i started being so ruthless. Then the ol chick called on a random number out of the blue. Guess I took it as a sign.

No need to get so defensive, I was merely offering my 2 cents. You need to understand this is The Coli so I need to clown you and kick a little knowledge

On a very serious level though I get that you're still getting p*ssy on the regs but the fact you didn't immediately clown this bytch childishly and put the phone down is concerning. You need to blacklist her number or change yours. Literally do everything to cut this bytch out your life because she'll always keep knocking to remind you about how worthless you are to her and it'll hurt.

You say you've moved on and that's cool. Your next job is just blackball her and don't be civil because as much as you've tried, this bytch is clearly not having any of it.