What does it mean when exes contact you?

[Ricky Church]

She text you when she is bored and her main guy is not blowing her back.

is she gonna need a favor from him when her man goes to jail?

 

[Klyk21]

A lot of girls just enjoy having a gay friend. Don't take it too personally. They think we're just accessories to them or something. It's annoying but meh.

You mean, GUY friend, right?

 

[H@LLOW]

is she gonna need a favor from him when her man goes to jail?

Money and used him for free meals. Sad thing is that all he is getting at the end of the night is a hug.

 

[Ricky Church]

Money and used him for free meals. Sad thing is that all he is getting at the end of the night is a hug.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Just act like her calling and shyt doesn't phase you


My ex hit me up a few weeks ago on FB, I spoke but I was dry as fukk but not on purpose... That's how I felt. I put a lot of effort and time in trying to make shyt work with her and she was never fully satisfied. So my mentality is like fukk u too


She broke up with me and I was like cool... fukk it then. I loved her but needed to love myself more I guess (still struggling with that). She moved on within a few months like I knew she would and I'm stuck dealing with this bullshyt dating game again...


Then I had all these doubters about the relationship, friends/family saying I could do better and etc. and I'm salty because she basically proved them right.... But I saw her fine ass friend at the gym and we still chit chat... So idk if I should try that yet






But it's much easier for a chick to move on than a dude usually, so don't sweat that. Just truly don't give a fukk anymore

Edit: I didn't even delete her off anything neither. I didn't delete her off Facebook, Instagram or nothing. I did that with my last ex when she was flaunting her new nikka around... He ended up getting her pregnant and skipping out. So with this ex, I'm like w/e. She's flaunting her new relationship around too... I wanna see what happens once I start flaunting whatever relationship I get in next

 

[Music Fiend]

No need to get so defensive, I was merely offering my 2 cents. You need to understand this is The Coli so I need to clown you and kick a little knowledge

On a very serious level though I get that you're still getting p*ssy on the regs but the fact you didn't immediately clown this bytch childishly and put the phone down is concerning. You need to blacklist her number or change yours. Literally do everything to cut this bytch out your life because she'll always keep knocking to remind you about how worthless you are to her and it'll hurt.

You say you've moved on and that's cool. Your next job is just blackball her and don't be civil because as much as you've tried, this bytch is clearly not having any of it.

This is so true brehs. I appreciate all the feedback brehs. I did clown on her when she asked if I got her calls and messages, sh!t was a moment. I said no hard feelings, she asked what my next move was lookin like since college is over. Said she'd run into some of my old homies I got into it with a year or so back and they said they ain't see me in a minute.

But it is concerning me, that I even entertained her after I figured who it was. Should have just . Oh well you live and you learn.

Thought she would ask me to come over and wax that ass one more time

 

[The Burger King]

This is so true brehs. I appreciate all the feedback brehs. I did clown on her when she asked if I got her calls and messages, sh!t was a moment. I said no hard feelings, she asked what my next move was lookin like since college is over. Said she'd run into some of my old homies I got into it with a year or so back and they said they ain't see me in a minute.

But it is concerning me, that I even entertained her after I figured who it was. Should have just . Oh well you live and you learn.

Thought she would ask me to come over and wax that ass one more time

Yeah I made this same mistake once. Broad rejected me, so I basically said "fukk it" and stopped talking to her period. About a year later she hit me up on Facebook, and I actually tried one last time to get with her.

We all fukk up though, just charge it to the game. I don't know how old you are, but I'm 19, still got a lot of learning left.

 

[Egomaniacal1]

Who broke up with who and why?

By the way i feel like you're being a disingenuous lying sack of shyt. No way you cut off contact with her completely after admittedly simping the broad AND still thinking of her years later.

Assuming this story has any truth to it, it's not so implausible to believe that someone you once loved, who also loved you back would still have some love for you at least enough to be able to maintain a friendship with.

 

[Music Fiend]

Who broke up with who and why?

By the way i feel like you're being a disingenuous lying sack of shyt. No way you cut off contact with her completely after admittedly simping the broad AND still thinking of her years later.

Assuming this story has any truth to it, it's not so implausible to believe that someone you once loved, who also loved you back would still have some love for you at least enough to be able to maintain a friendship with.

It was a lot of back and forth, we were young. In the end, she ended it and said she felt nada for me, and by that time I figured someone else was blowin her back out and she gave no fukks about me. Nah it's true bruh. I really did. shyt had me deep in depression. I had to cut it all off. One of the hardest things I've done ever. You see, I wonder if it is that way. Chances are I won't hear from her for another 6 months so It could be when she gets lonely she starts looking for people who've cared. She had a huge problem with being alone. Caused a lot of issues back in the day.

I almost feel weak that I gotta cut her off and avoid her contact like this, like I'm running from something. Last time i saw her, she took me out on my bday a few years back to a nice restaurant, I started thinking things may work out, got shut down and that was it. Last straw.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

It was a lot of back and forth, we were young. In the end, she ended it and said she felt nada for me, and by that time I figured someone else was blowin her back out and she gave no fukks about me. Nah it's true bruh. I really did. shyt had me deep in depression. I had to cut it all off. One of the hardest things I've done ever. You see, I wonder if it is that way. Chances are I won't hear from her for another 6 months so It could be when she gets lonely she starts looking for people who've cared. She had a huge problem with being alone. Caused a lot of issues back in the day.

I almost feel weak that I gotta cut her off and avoid her contact like this, like I'm running from something. Last time i saw her, she took me out on my bday a few years back to a nice restaurant, I started thinking things may work out, got shut down and that was it. Last straw.

Bingo

Stop giving a fukk, whether you talk to her or not, and she'll either try to get back with you (so you would care about her again) or she'll fall back

 

[Egomaniacal1]

It was a lot of back and forth, we were young. In the end, she ended it and said she felt nada for me, and by that time I figured someone else was blowin her back out and she gave no fukks about me. Nah it's true bruh. I really did. shyt had me deep in depression. I had to cut it all off. One of the hardest things I've done ever. You see, I wonder if it is that way. Chances are I won't hear from her for another 6 months so It could be when she gets lonely she starts looking for people who've cared. She had a huge problem with being alone. Caused a lot of issues back in the day.

I almost feel weak that I gotta cut her off and avoid her contact like this, like I'm running from something. Last time i saw her, she took me out on my bday a few years back to a nice restaurant, I started thinking things may work out, got shut down and that was it. Last straw.

Well it sounds like she just needs a good friend and she knows you're good ppl so she keeps u around. Nothing wrong with that and i wouldn't say you have to cut her of if you don't really want to...the problem is you, not her. Your mind is all fukked up and instead of hoeing it up outchere sounds like you should have been done found a nice chick to settle down with. Honestly yall both sound like damaged goods and thats the bond that keeps yall connected.

 

[DaddyTime]

Breh I dated a chick on and off for like 6 years.

She broke up with me, I was a dikk doe but shyt had me

Wanted to be "friends" I was like naaaah, but eventually said yeah whatever. Then she just did the exact opposite and had highschool parties and invited all these people I knew and shyt, but not me breh

So I seen her and was like said nothing and ignored her, she took that to heart and we ain't speak for like 3 years

She found out I had a child and all of a sudden I'm getting messaged about how I'll be a great father and she'd like to meet my kid

Do you @Music Fiend these birdbrains is NO GOOD

 

[FaTaL]

I dated a chick for 4 years, things didn't work out, and I felt real rejected by it because when it was over it seemed like she moved on effortlessly and told me she held 0 feelings for me and that I was in the friend zone.

She did some shady things during the relationship, but nowadays when I look back, I see I didn't put much effort at all into having a social life. I was really to myself then, pops had died a couple years before, felt like no one really reached out to make sure I was good. So when things happened, it felt like I was losing the only person close to me. I was simpin and couldn't let go.

A year or so after the breakup, I got my head in order started getting back out there and stopped simpin and tryna get her back, she said she wanted to be friends, I refused, but kept runnin into her. Made it hard to move on, so I cut all contact. She tried contacting me every couple of months, I would just ignore and delete, cuz she pretty much told me it was not gonna happen, but wouldn't stop contacting me altogether. She made sure to always contact me on my bday and sh!t.

Now it's 4 years after things ended and while I have moved on, I'm still in my ho phase. I still think about her. and from time to time she'll still contact me. But I really don't understand why. She hit me a few nights ago at 2 AM, I answered for the first time in two years. Had a lil convo, didn't sound like she was drunk nor did she sound all that interested in linking up. Just wanted to know where I've been...

I just don't get it bruhs, I doubt she has any feelings as she's had many opportunities to reconcile. So why is she still contacting me? She seemed to move on so easily.

she cant find anybody better

u

 

[Music Fiend]

Man so many good responses. I love yall man. Instead of clownin yall are holding it down.

I agree with a lot of you. I'm thinking she's just lonely and wanys a friend. Prolly doesn't want me to get too far away.

Oh well. It prolly means nothing.

 

[Music Fiend]

she cant find anybody better

u

Idk bruh. That'd be great confirmation. Id prolly feel comfortable in a relationship again. But I can't even think about caring for amyone again. Guess im a selfish a$$hole but I dont wanna ever feel that pain again on some real sh!t