What is a man's purpose if he's not supposed to be a provider?

[Diondon]

My purpose in life is to be the best me I can be. I'll "provide" for who I deem worthy.

 

[jackson35]

you don't seem to realize the complexity of your question. it is within our nature, not our purpose to provide, the real question to a percentage of men is, do you have the means to provide?

 

[Mowgli]

The problem is thinking that your purpose or role in a relationship is tied to any one set of actions. A woman with a job and a man with the same job/same pay are still TWO different people...they bring different energies to the relationship and should provide balance to one another. People, black folks especially, benefit from good partnerships. Yes, you can be successful on your own, but you can get there twice as fast with someone who has the same vision/goal as you. A man's purpose should be whatever the woman is lacking and vice versa.

Some women have to accept that they're selfish people who don't want to help anyone but themselves while only seeking people who can help them.

They want it one way.

Women who struggle to see why they need a man are often selfish and can't cook but can be found somewhere in scandal with dikk or p*ssy in their mouth

 

[eXodus]

Emancipating ourselves from women is some dangerous shyt.We've been fooled by this CAC construct.


People only care about themselves and feel entitled to happiness.Everybody wants to be happy and stress free.


We just have to accept that life's a struggle(It's not constant, tho.You have moments of relief/pleasure) and we all have to play our roles.


The whole key is creating an environment of peace wherein we can both grow/support each other & produce strong children.


Then we'd have strong households, neighborhoods, cities, states, countries, world.


It's really that simple.We just complicate things trying to escape the pain of this warped society.


When things get bad, you don't break apart, you embrace each other.


We just have to put some order/structure in our lives and stick together.Eventually, we'll learn to love each other.


Might not be what some of us want, but it's what we need.Take care of what you need and it'll eventually grow into what you want.


We might not see it in our lifetimes, but let's not act selfish, and fail to lay down a track.Sacrifice.


I think both men & women need to emancipate themselves from the wiles of mutual exploitation.

We get into these relationships that have no meaning.All about vain shyt like partying & fukk buddies.Looking good when we go out.

The focus should be on clear, common objectives.Not finding individual happiness.Especially a "happiness" born out of that kind of shallow existence.That's a mirage

Not saying you have to be a hermit.You should go out and do some extra curricular shyt with your partner, but that shouldn't be the life blood of your relationship.It shouldn't be at the top of the list.Soon as that get old, you're not "happy" anymore.

As black folks in this country, and as a collective, we've never had anything to build on/keep our energies focused.I just wanna see what it would be like if we did.

Damn that's deep bro

 

[doublex]

Some women have to accept that they're selfish people who don't want to help anyone but themselves while only seeking people who can help them.

They want it one way.

Women who struggle to see why they need a man are often selfish and can't cook but can be found somewhere in scandal with dikk or p*ssy in their mouth

There are selfish women and men out there. Women who don't want to work or take care of the home, men who don't want to work or take care of the home. Everyone needs to realize they can't have it both ways because no decent partner is going to stick around if their other half is dead weight.

Just don't get caught up with someone who has no answer if you ask them what their duties should be.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Boys Consume Men Create

I agree with you but still gonna 1 star ya thread cause I know you've 1 starred a couple of mine.

 

[Larry Lambo]

There are a lot of provider type dudes out there, tho.

He may not be as tall as you like, or have the physique you like, but if you want a provider it's dudes out there willing to play that role.

What is most important? Having a man provide for you, or getting the man you are most attracted to?

 

[doublex]

There are a lot of provider type dudes out there, tho.

He may not be as tall as you like, or have the physique you like, but if you want a provider it's dudes out there willing to play that role.

What is most important? Having a man provide for you, or getting the man you are most attracted to?

For most women, provider > attraction.

It's the opposite for men though which is why there are so many rich man/beautiful woman couples out there.

How many rich women do you see out here with male models? That alone proves that the genders are not the same and are not looking for the same things.

 

[mamba]

There are a lot of provider type dudes out there, tho.

He may not be as tall as you like, or have the physique you like, but if you want a provider it's dudes out there willing to play that role.

What is most important? Having a man provide for you, or getting the man you are most attracted to?

That's the thing. The provider types, which they claim to want, don't typically come wrapped in the package they want.

There are tons of simps outchea willing to spoil the shyt out of these women. But, the women don't want them.

They want the 6-6-6 Coli nikka who just wants to skeet and retreat. They want to tame that nikka instead of settling with the average "provider" nikka they claim to covet.

 

[doublex]

That's the thing. The provider types, which they claim to want, don't typically come wrapped in the package they want.

There are tons of simps outchea willing to spoil the shyt out of these women. But, the women don't want them.

They want the 6-6-6 Coli nikka who just wants to skeet and retreat. They want to tame that nikka instead of settling with the average "provider" nikka they claim to covet.

That all depends on the woman, though.

If she's a supermodel, of course she's going to want it all because she can get it all. If she's just pretty she will likely be happy with an average looking dude who takes care of her financially. If she's average looking with an average salary, she's going to end up with a guy who's equally yoked and she knows it.

 

[mamba]

That all depends on the woman, though.

If she's a supermodel, of course she's going to want it all because she can get it all. If she's just pretty she will likely be happy with an average looking dude who takes care of her financially. If she's average looking with an average salary, she's going to end up with a guy who's equally yoked and she knows it.

Tell that to the women in this social media age.

All women with more than a handful of followers think they're the supermodel!

 

[old_timer]

Aight pretty good thread, colicat
Another platinum production

I tabulated the results, Ernst and Young audited my tally, and here are the findings..(excluding jokes, off topic, side arguments, vendettas, and chit chat)

What is the man's purpose in a relationship??
#1 answer was to avoid the question and instead discuss the woman's purpose

#2 most popular answer .. dikk

#3 answer = whatever, no purpose, nothing

#4 explore the mysteries of the universe

#5 (tie) love, affection, companionship, cuddling, comparability, open jars, procreate , ying to her yang ..

So there we have it
Actually the replies were much higher caliber than previous versions of this same question
We'll do it again in a few months

 

[doublex]

That all depends on the woman, though.

If she's a supermodel, of course she's going to want it all because she can get it all. If she's just pretty she will likely be happy with an average looking dude who takes care of her financially. If she's average looking with an average salary, she's going to end up with a guy who's equally yoked and she knows it.

Tell that to the women in this social media age.

All women with more than a handful of followers think they're the supermodel!

You're going to have to use specific examples; where are these average-looking women with wealthy, handsome men? All the average-looking women I know have settled down with their match.

 

[mamba]

You're going to have to use specific examples; where are these average-looking women with wealthy, handsome men? All the average-looking women I know have settled down with their match.

Well, if they are average-looking, they either settle or become perpetually single! We have a lot of lone, single women outchea that could be paired up if they weren't holding onto some fantasy.

 

[doublex]

Well, if they are average-looking, they either settle or become perpetually single! We have a lot of lone, single women outchea that could be paired up if they weren't holding onto some fantasy.

There are some women who don't want to settle down because they overestimate their league, but it's not hard to find a woman who will settle down with you as long as you don't overestimate your league. Delusional people come in both genders.