What is it with women and the fact that they can't live without being flaky?

[Zapp Brannigan]

So flaky to you guys means having sex with different people? That's different.

Flaky to me means the following:

• Standing me up when she agrees to meet.
• Cancelling at the last minute when we're supposed to meet.
• Keep insisting that we HAVE to meet really soon, then ignore when I follow up.
• (This only happened a couple times) Show up to a party to drink all my good liquor for free, then go to some other guy's house to fukk him. Hard lesson to learn.

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

So flaky to you guys means having sex with different people? That's different.

Flaky means not doing what you say you're going to do. You have no word, your promises mean jack shyt, and you lead people on. You basically treat people like garbage but act like "it's no big deal".


Yes this applies to men too, so you don't even have to counter with that shyt.

 

[SouthernBelle]

I thought flakey meant being inconsistent.

Flaky to me means the following:

• Standing me up when she agrees to meet.
• Cancelling at the last minute when we're supposed to meet.
• Keep insisting that we HAVE to meet really soon, then ignore when I follow up.
• (This only happened a couple times) Show up to a party to drink all my good liquor for free, then go to some other guy's house to fukk him. Hard lesson to learn.

Flaky means not doing what you say you're going to do. You have no word, your promises mean jack shyt, and you lead people on. You basically treat people like garbage but act like "it's no big deal".


Yes this applies to men too, so you don't even have to counter with that shyt.

Those are my definition of flaky but some of the posters before my question used it to mean having sex with different guys. What in the world does being flaky have to do with feeling cheap? That is why I asked the question (it was not about countering anything so don't start with me).

 

[kevm3]

They are flakey because they do their best to build 'teams', aka a roster of different guys for different purposes, and if she's busy, she's most likely dealing with one of those other negroes in some capacity. When a woman is young, like has been said, she has a ton of suitors, so she can pull this off. When them looks fall off though, men remember how she was acting and she'll get left in the dust unless she hooks some unsuspecting simp.

 

[SouthernBelle]

Also if a woman is being flaky, she probably isn't into you. That doesn't mean she is going to die a lonely hag. Just stop contacting her.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

wow, you guys make flakey seem bad. i wasn't even talking about that level of flakiness. just the occasional non-responsiveness. i've never been stood up or anything like that. just having plans fall through on occasion (it's happen equally on both sides for me, sometimes i'm bad at planning or sometimes other things that are more important come up) or the woman talking about meeting up soon but not following up after i've attempted to follow up. i run into more situations where the woman talks about meeting up and doesn't follow through than i get situations where plans fall through. and, generally, a lot of my plans are last minute anyways. i'll hit a girl up and just see what she might be doing in a few hours. i'm not the type to plan too far ahead...

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Those are my definition of flaky but some of the poster before my question used it to mean having sex with different guys. What in the world does being flaky have to do with being cheap. That is why I asked the question (it was not about countering anything so don't start with me).

Ah, I understand. Well, it's good to have you agree. I don't really freak out too much if a girl is banging someone else if I'm not in a relationship with her. I just gotta make sure that my sex game is right when I'm with her to make sure I can beat out any prospective competition. Now if I'm committed to her, yeah, I'm pissed, and if a guy did the same to you, I'd be angry for you.

I can't remember who said it, but someone once said to me before drinking as a "cheers" kind of thing, "To the woman you haven't met yet that'll make you the happiest guy in the world: She's fukking someone else right now, but she's not as good as you'll be, because she's just learning what to contrast you against."

 

[Sierra Mist]

Only mess with women who want you and only you. Don't waste your times on stupid bytches who just want you to be an option. Same goes for the ladies when it comes to some dusty nikkas who want you to be one of his stable or what ever you call it.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

they're only flaky if they're not that into u. and some of them "flake" for genuine reasons. if shes canceling on u and not suggesting another time, dont even bother responding to her.

Cosign. A chick who really wanna fukk with you is gonna make herself extra available. She'll reply to every text, return every phone call, and if she does cancel she'll make sure to apologize and schedule another time.

Sound like the T/S is a lame and just doesn't realize it yet

 

[kevm3]

Flakiness IS bad. There's a saying. Your word should be your bond. If you're not trying to kick it, just say I'm not really feeling you on that level. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I'm not feeling you like that, so I can't go out with you. On the other hand you got people giving the okey doke, talking about let's go out, let's do that, but then just don't be picking up the phone or cancelling at the last moment. Stand up and let your real intentions be known.

But the reality is, it won't change... at most, I will give someone two chances. The first one, I might give them a pass for 'being busy.' But if they pull it again, I keep it pushing and that door is shut permanently. Ain't no her coming back around and all of a sudden feeling me and wanting more of my time.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

They are flakey because they do their best to build 'teams', aka a roster of different guys for different purposes, and if she's busy, she's most likely dealing with one of those other negroes in some capacity. When a woman is young, like has been said, she has a ton of suitors, so she can pull this off. When them looks fall off though, men remember how she was acting and she'll get left in the dust unless she hooks some unsuspecting simp.

Damn, it must suck to be an ugly and/or fat chick. You're stuck with a shytty team for everything.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Flakiness IS bad. There's a saying. Your word should be your bond. If you're not trying to kick it, just say I'm not really feeling you on that level. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I'm not feeling you like that, so I can't go out with you. On the other hand you got people giving the okey doke, talking about let's go out, let's do that, but then just don't be picking up the phone or cancelling at the last moment. Stand up and let your real intentions be known.

but the thing is, you can't say (or you rarely can say) that you feel 100% positive or negative about a person. i'm all for trying things out, and it just might happen that maybe at a particular time, i don't want to go through the hassle. i'm sure you can't even say you've never flaked out. flakiness is something that just happens...

 

[Rominati]

Chicks aint flakey on dudes they really like. If she playing games with you, cut her off whoadie. You wasting ya time and life energy on a chick who dont even like you like that.

 

[Shameonyou]

man all this chicks aint flakey with dudes they really like stuff is false....the flakiness has nothing to do with interest, and everything to do with a womans desire for variety, thats all it is....this is why a woman can be down for you, but at the same time drool over another dude while in a committed relationship


yea I know guys are capable of it, and its natural, but most men, and speaking for myself, I have too much respect to drool over another woman, if I got a main with me...and even if she not around, I respect our bond that much to not disrespect HER desirablilty by giving my "lust" to another woman....

women arent thinking in depth like that when it comes to situations like that, and it brings tension.

I dont think flakiness is just about canceling dates, its also about mentality.....if you arent valued, it will show in her actions no matter how much she's supposedly into you.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Chicks aint flakey on dudes they really like. If she playing games with you, cut her off whoadie. You wasting ya time and life energy on a chick who dont even like you like that.

i feel like this is more of a defense mechanism belief than truth. i mean, look at your next statement. you tell people to cut them off if they're being flaky. while it may be possible in some cases that she's just not into you, sometimes it can be a matter of circumstance. you have to weigh it out properly and judge it properly...