What is your biggest insecurity?

[-deleted-]

Too passionate. Too intense

The average brotha is cool, or at least desires to be.

I have cool moments, but I can turn up with the quickness, and will be in a big ball of sweat just talking about some trivial shyt like basketball. It don't matter what I'm talking about, tho'.

Basically, I'm Stephen A. Smith

Breh, as long as not being negative or hurting anyone, people will always remember you for this. It’s a good thing

 

[ManfromNYCest.1900s]

Thick thighs are so

Better count your blessings







What's the name of the cream?

It's some long word ending in zine. I don't know but, the first one was not strong enough so the dermatologist I spoke to wrote me a stronger prescription and it worked. I used it the wrong way though.
Try having that shyt on your face while being #handsomegang

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

My weight.

I feel like it’s the last piece of the puzzle. Unfortunately, it’s the most difficult piece.

 

[I AM WE ARE]

I got that Terry crews wrinkle in my forehead

 

[mbewane]

LOL I missed the mark by one

But you're still young. It's not like you did a 20 years bid and you're out at 50 ()

In fact, you just "lost" your late teen years. The second half of your 20's in not different from the first half.

You still have 3 years to do you your "young man" thing. You better stop at 40 tho.

That's what I'm thinking too

 

[-deleted-]

I’ve skimmed through this thread a bit, so I may as well contribute.

I am often insecure about coming up short as a man at times mainly due to being skinny. The older you get the more apparent it is that people treat people differently based on their appearance and being a scrawny black man does you no favors. I’ve worked out for years and have put on some muscle but due to lack of consistency in diet I’m not as diesel as I’d like to be. I’ve come a long way and I don’t give up so I give myself credit for that, but it’s a terrible feeling seeing brehs younger than you be much bigger than you, and by proxy, living a healthier more fulfilling life.

I also used to be very insecure about how I am with the ladies. I’ve had success in the past but most average success with women. Over the last year I’ve finally decided to discard the woman-hating shell I was in and not only put more effort towards respecting women but people in general. I am still as honest as can be and while I did in the past, I don’t really lie to women anymore for sex, or anything like that anymore.

 

[DirtyMoney]

I got re-circumcised around the same age so I know your pain.... Literally

I doubt you lost that much length, if anything your mind is just exaggerating it. The skin made it seem bigger, in reality your still the same. You can always do exercises to gain it back, it will just take years

Spoiler

Thunder's Place

Do at least two months of research before you dive in.
And don't be an idiot and over do things

As for the look of it

Spoiler

For me it was two different colors a bright pink and then you could see where the circumcision stopped. I was ashamed of it for a while
But it evened out a little over time, and I've never had a woman make a comment about it. Even if I ask about my dikk, a chick will usually inspect it and wonder what I'm talking about.

Usually I will even tell a chick about it. And she'll express her sympathy and give it a kiss to help it feel better

Basically..... it's not as serious as you think

Good luck breh

Nah i lost alot. I been on thunders gettin it back

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

The replies here

 

[King]

I feel insecure about the fact that I’m not financially free and I don’t have a plan to get out of it.

I graduated from college and am living at home again. I don’t even have a place right now and I’m broke. No one is hiring, it’s to the point now where I don’t even see any value I have in this capitalistic system. I’m not trying to bag groceries my whole life.

Haven’t had sex in over a year since moving back home because I don’t have my own place. And I feel like women will look down on me for not having a plan and being stagnated in growth.

I see other people with good jobs and careers with money and it makes me look down on myself because there’s so many barriers to get there. Like I would have to go back to college for another 4 years and take on 100s of thousands in debt because my financial aid ran out. To think how radically different my life would have been if I woulda just checked a different box on my applications 5 years ago.

I did the best I could with what I knew and graduated college. Only to find out that no one valued me and coming from a poor family I have no network, I’ve never been a really social person.

Idk brehs sometimes I just think

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

I feel insecure about the fact that I’m not financially free and I don’t have a plan to get out of it.

I graduated from college and am living at home again. I don’t even have a place right now and I’m broke. No one is hiring, it’s to the point now where I don’t even see any value I have in this capitalistic system. I’m not trying to bag groceries my whole life.

Haven’t had sex in over a year since moving back home because I don’t have my own place. And I feel like women will look down on me for not having a plan and being stagnated in growth.

I see other people with good jobs and careers with money and it makes me look down on myself because there’s so many barriers to get there. Like I would have to go back to college for another 4 years and take on 100s of thousands in debt because my financial aid ran out. To think how radically different my life would have been if I woulda just checked a different box on my applications 5 years ago.

I did the best I could with what I knew and graduated college. Only to find out that no one valued me and coming from a poor family I have no network, I’ve never been a really social person.

Idk brehs sometimes I just think

keep doing what you're doing breh. I know you dont believe this, but there are millions of people your age going through the same despite what their social media accounts portray.

 

[King]

keep doing what you're doing breh. I know you dont believe this, but there are millions of people your age going through the same despite what their social media accounts portray.

I just don’t see a way out for me, imma keep pushing tho. One day at a time.

 

[IronFist]

Moreso this is a thinking point than anything else.

Insecurity is a convert confession of knowing that you are unqualified
°
This means you know you do not possess the personal value . Qualities and resources necessary to secure whatever its is you're afraid will flee from you.
•

°Think about it...​

Are confident people ever concerned about losing that which they know they have earned?

Of course they are not.

But when you are living a double life, your conscience will haunt you with insecurities.

I am a firm believer that wounds are meant to be eradicated as soon as possible---and so if you don't know the remedy, then your responsibility is to find it, and once you find it, your responsibility is to use it.
•

It is no man's responsibility to coddle weakness. Where is the productivity in that?

This attitude places the fire element in the leadership position that it belongs.

Water and Earth are submissive to force but Fire is the lord of Will!

You are either a victim or a Victor:::

Water

 

[Mike809]

English is not my first language , so I dont come off as smooth as I wish I did when talking to women.

I also dont use any slang at all , which might make me seem like a square.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Moreso this is a thinking point than anything else.

Insecurity is a convert confession of knowing that you are unqualified
°
This means you know you do not possess the personal value . Qualities and resources necessary to secure whatever its is you're afraid will flee from you.
•

°Think about it...​

Are confident people ever concerned about losing that which they know they have earned?

Of course they are not.

But when you are living a double life, your conscience will haunt you with insecurities.

I am a firm believer that wounds are meant to be eradicated as soon as possible---and so if you don't know the remedy, then your responsibility is to find it, and once you find it, your responsibility is to use it.
•

It is no man's responsibility to coddle weakness. Where is the productivity in that?

This attitude places the fire element in the leadership position that it belongs.

Water and Earth are submissive to force but Fire is the lord of Will!

You are either a victim or a Victor:::

Water

Okay Chloe Mitchell

 

[Jay Kast]

Biggest insecurity for me is that I've squandered my chances of having a mutual emotionally yoked relationship. I feel incapable of love in a sense that it's no longer pure or pristine. It's an object that I can put in a compartment, a holster, a suitcase that I can put away and return to but the sentimental value doesnt resonate.

Is it fair to spark a journey towards those feelings even though I know I won't feel the same as her?

How can I justify having kids when no true love is present?

I'm doing much better than most in life yet it feels without reason or without meaning.

About to break up with my girl of 3 yrs in the morning because I feel like I'm stringing her along.

Wish I was never born in the hood sometimes, these characters and experiences take a lot of you, and you dont know exactly what it is - you just know you'll probably never get it back.