What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism

[Poitier]

That's another component, but I wouldn't say it is "more so" the cause of the falling marriage rate.

Agree to disagree

 

[MarloStanTrill]

I don't even know what to say to this. I knew a couple who were in an open marriage. It didn't work out for them.

And that last paragraph is insane to me. If he was "the man of the house" (making good money, etc.) does anyone honestly believe that she'd even consider asking for an open marriage? And the whole feminist angle seems like a lie he tells himself to make the fact that his wife is connecting (physically and otherwise) with other men okay.

feminists are feminist until they get pregnant. then men should give up their seats


foh feminist = man hate and that cac is a cuck

 

[Gold]

Yes, it does. Some of the biggest drop-offs in marriage rates are among people who are most "at risk" of divorce. In other words, poor uneducated people who don't have the financial means to sustain a family. Fewer of the people who tend to get divorced are getting married at all. That leaves people who love each other and have money.

You should have said fewer at risk people, but thanks for clarifying what you meant.

 

[tater]

Yeah this bytch stepping out with Rico Suave and shyt

Bottom line is a relationship..whatever kind it may be is about RELATING to that other person. People get so caught up in roles and expectations that they forget to communicate with each other like real people which is what causes the problem. Being able to be completely "naked", emotionally, spiritually, intellectually with somebody you plan to spend your life with, as a friend and as a lover is something traditional marriage doesn't usually afford because there are so many feelings you aren't supposed to have anymore, as if there is some sort of switch that turns off attraction or desire.

You hear the stereotypes of how everything changes as soon as you tie the knot or acquire the ball and chain...I study language, we use these terms for a reason. We like the idea of partnership and family, but what is it that really changes once you sign what basically amounts to a receipt for the other person? I feel like people often subconsciously begin to resist that loss of autonomy.

How doesn't traditional marriage afford you the "nakedness" you speak of? If anything in these arrangements (in which everything else is going well) I would gather those things are fulfilled, it's the physical that's lacking. IME when people seek solace in other relationships it's normally for physical reasons. This isn't the case all the time of course but that's just what I notice.

 

[Smashius Clay]

I sent my mom the article and she texted me this:

I personally would see a man as a weak p*ssy if I could come home and tell him about the guy I just smashed.

I'd be wondering what kind of weak ass man he is, that I can come home with another mans scent on my body and get in bed with him. It would disgust me that he can accept that and I would leave him.
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EDIT: She sent more

 

[BruhManFromTheFifthFlo]

Seen this a couple times now. Each time i go;

































































Be a cuck, brehs

 

[Colicat]

So how many partners will it take for his wife to find herself or know herself or express herself?

She is just a nympho who gets off on the premise that the only thing better than dikk is new dikk...

And that's cool if that's you but don't enter or stay in a relationship built on monogamy in order to satisfy a selfish desire

 

[J Money]

This story had me at first.

Then I started to think. Some people are in relationships like this (not exactly in the OP story manner) but something similar. Just because a person is married doesn't mean they are happy, monogamous, and satisfied. Plenty of swingers and cheaters out here.

An open relationship could work but both parties have to be on the SAME PAGE. If they get off the same page...then shyt can get fuked up.

My mom did say that for some women...one dyck just ain't enough for them. And I know some men with good looking women would still cheat even if the other woman offering isn't as cute.

Also some people don't like having to answer to nobody and like to go and come as they please. I know a female like that but she kinda tomboyish.

If I had a female who was a dyckhead and needed to hit the dyck buffet...I would be embarrassed if others found out plus I would worry about STDs since so much is out here. I wouldn't mind a female going out and hanging with her friends if we were married as long as I can do my thing with my homies sometimes. But sleeping around I donno.

What kind of fukked up conversations are you having with your momma?

 

[Kyle C. Barker]

So how many partners will it take for his wife to find herself or know herself or express herself?

She is just a nympho who gets off on the premise that the only thing better than dikk is new dikk...

And that's cool if that's you but don't enter or stay in a relationship built on monogomy in order to satisfy a selfish desire

Yeah that's the fukked up part of it all. Homeboy got married expecting a monogamous relationship and later got manipulated into being in a polyamorous one.

 

[Arithmetic]

It ain't even a smiley for the face of disgust I'm making right now. And I only read the first two paragraphs.

 

[Weaver31]

What kind of fukked up conversations are you having with your momma?

She was just telling me that some of these "fast and forward" women as she say....are hoes and no matter how good u treat them....They gonna be up on another dude. Hell my neighbor's sister, an older black woman said a lot of women are lap hoppers and told me to beware. They just was giving me a female's point of view.

Just like a lot of male hoes....there are plenty of female hoes out here.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Women go through their sexual prime at a later age.

I don't think this is necessarily true. I think this is a byproduct of marketing and advertising..... even from a biological standpoint, it doesn't make sense

 

[SunZoo]

How doesn't traditional marriage afford you the "nakedness" you speak of? If anything in these arrangements (in which everything else is going well) I would gather those things are fulfilled, it's the physical that's lacking. IME when people seek solace in other relationships it's normally for physical reasons. This isn't the case all the time of course but that's just what I notice.

I always liked how Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee put it in regards to their stint of having an open marriage:

It occurred to us, from observation and reasoning, that extramarital sex was not what really destroyed marriages, but rather the lies and deception that invariably accompanied it -- that was the culprit. So we decided to give ourselves permission to sleep with other partners if we wished -- as long as what we did was honest as well as private, and that neither of us exposed the family to scandal or disease. We had to be discreet and, if the word can be apt, honorable in our behavior, both to ourselves, to whomever else might be involved, and most of all, to the family. And for the most part, we were... But looking back, I'd say no matter what did or did not happen, we freed each other. And in doing that, we also freed ourselves... Sex is fine, but love is better. That's the most important part of being free.

But you come to the conclusion that it's one of these elements in life where you decide if what you have is really is what you want. The complications of being involved with other human beings - and the world is full of marvelous human beings. You could find one maybe every week or every year or something. And, it would be such a topsy turvy affair - in terms of family, property and all kind of things. But, we both came to realize that we were very fortunate that, in all of the deep profound, fundamental ways, we really, really only wanted each other. It was like a rediscovery of something from the beginning. It's not something that you'd recommend to everybody.

They didn't keep it that way but letting sexual desire be exactly what it is, without shame or guilt allowed them to find out what "love" to them really was. That's what I mean by naked, in all ways.

 

[#1 pick]

It's a bit long, but interesting in a cringe worthy kinda way

Source: http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/07/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism.html

 

[jerome]

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