What should replace child support?

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It seems that many men especially those with baby mothers think the system is unfair to men. So what do you propose instead...that will benefit the child?
 

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Here are four of the most critical flaws of the current child-support system.

The system is outdated.

The child-support system was originally a bipartisan policy reform designed to serve divorced parents who were steadily employed. But the system was established nearly 40 years ago, and is based on outdated stereotypes that viewed Mom as a housewife and Dad as the sole breadwinner.

As Johns Hopkins University sociologist Kathryn Edin explained to Graham, the traditional roles of mothers and fathers have changed dramatically since the 1970s, but the laws are still stuck in the past.

“We have a 1970s narrative about a 2010s reality,” Edin said.

The system makes it particularly tough on low-income fathers.

As Graham points out, 29 percent of families in the system live below the federal poverty line. Many fathers sincerely want to do right by their children, but simply don’t have the means to do so. That becomes a very slippery slope for a lot of dads.

When unpaid child-support payments accumulate, this often snowballs into another issue: parental alienation. Research has shown that men with outstanding child-support debts tend to be less involved in their children’s lives. Some even find themselves incarcerated over unpaid payments.

And since many states treat incarceration as voluntary unemployment, child-support debts continue accumulating while men are in prison. It’s easy to see why this is such a difficult cycle to break.

The “deadbeat dad” myth.

Another stereotype feeding many of the problems with the current child-support laws is that of the deadbeat dad.

In 1986, CBS produced a report titled “The Vanishing Family: Crisis in Black America,” which featured a New Jersey father of six who bragged on camera about not supporting his children financially. The report sparked outrage across the country and even led to stricter child-support laws.

Not long after the piece ran, Congress passed a law forcing states to adopt stricter enforcement practices when collecting past child-support debts. That trend continued well into the ’90s when President Bill Clinton’s welfare reform act gave government even greater power to enforcement child-support collection against noncustodial parents.

While fathers skipping out on their child-support responsibilities certainly shouldn’t be ignored, current research suggests the “deadbeat dad” is probably more of an outlier than the status quo.

In 2013, Edin coauthored “Doing the Best I Can: Fatherhood in the Inner City.” Edin and coauthor Timothy Nelson conducted in-depth interviews with 110 low-income fathers in the Philadelphia area over seven years and discovered the majority of the men were exhilarated to be fathers, even when the pregnancies were unplanned. Even when faced with difficult financial situations, many fathers tried to find other ways to provide emotional support for their children.

Edin’s study goes hand-in-hand with other recent research that suggests economic support, although necessary, is hardly enough to qualify one as a good parent.

The current system fixates on enforcement and ignores involvement.

The core of the problem with modern child-support laws is that there is too much emphasis on enforcement and not enough focus on getting fathers involved in their children’s lives.

The Federal Parent Locator Service uses a national database to track down noncustodial parents to enforce payments. In 2013, $32 billion of child support was collected and that number has been steadily rising over the years.

While the government is very efficient with its enforcement of child-support laws, it might be more beneficial to address its child custody statutes.

The National Parents Organization recently released its Shared Parenting Report Card, which graded every state on its child custody statutes and how well they promote shared parenting following divorce or separation. Nearly across the board, states scored with a cumulative 1.63 grade point average (on a 4.0 scale).

There is no shortage of evidence showing that shared parenting helps offset the negative effects of divorce. While it is important for them to receive adequate financial support, it is arguably even more essential to have quality time with both Mom and Dad.

What's your take on those?
 

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What's your take on those?
They don't see the picture. They are so hellbent on getting back on women and not what is best for the child. You can tell these dudes dont care about the kids....just coming out victorious.

More empasis should be placed on the right parent to have full custody of the child in the first place.

Second; women should not be given preference for being mothers unless the child is very young. At a certain age....the court should reasses which parent has the child. More emphasis should be placed on joint custodies.

If the father has the child during the summer...the mother gets no child support during that period. If fathers suspect that mothers are misusing the child support they must be granted an investigation on how the money has beeen used by the mother and the mother is forced to provide evidence. Only if requested and only after at least a year of the father being consistent with his payments and honest with his income that he is making. If the father has attempted to be dishonest..request is rejected unless he jas proven that he can fulfill his financial obligations.

Court should delineate what is acceptable to use the money towards with the onus being for the benefit of the child(ie/ some household costs may be acceptable provided the child's immediate needs are met)

Mothers must have a job that enables them to support the child and themselves and child support should remain just that support. Arrangements can be made where instead of child support the father can agree to be solely responsible of certain expenditures.

If the father has remarried and has a new family than child support should be reassessed with the understanding that he has additional dependents. If the mother has the child and has remarried and the stepfather serves as surogate than child support must also be reassessed.

I don't believe men should be sent to jail for going arrears due to child support however, they must pay the child support if it has been court ordered or else their may incur other penalties like their credit...etc...

If a man has years of arrears that he now pays and the mother has been taking care of child without that child support should go towards an account serving to cover his/her education, etc....

A more holistic approach is needed from the court which encourages the father to be an active parent rather than quanitifying it in dollars and cents. Therefore, the court shoudl encourage the use of family counsellors/mediators that can help improve the relationship between the co-parents and the child in coping with the situation.
 

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The biggest change i think it is to include counsellors/relationship coaches/mediators/social workers which helps broken families cope with the reality of divorce or parents breaking up outside of the courtroom. I'd argue it should be mandatory...with couples who cant seem eye to eye to avoid lengthy court proceedings that inconveniences everyone and benefits no one. There lacks continuity after judgement has been made.
 

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It seems that many men especially those with baby mothers think the system is unfair to men. So what do you propose instead...that will benefit the child?

It's not so much that the system as a whole needs to be scrapped, it's moreso that it needs to be made fair.
The system (like most systems in the world) is being pimped.
 

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Awe man if i could be legislator/judge in family and divorce court i would do my darnest to implement this.
 

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Flip a coin and whoever loses has to fight a tiger to the death. If they win then they get to decide everything...If they lose, the other parent gets the kids and moves on with life. Quick and easy.
 

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Child support is a bytch my mom stayed putting the laws in my daddy life behind that shyt and I blew all them money every month on bullshyt :win:
 
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