What Would a Black Mom Do?
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Dirty Mcdrawz
Your girl loves em....
I can’t even imagine what would my mom would have done because I can’t fathom being that rotten as a kid.
UpAndComing
Veteran
She needs a juice cleanse the to wash the Meth away
He has severe emotional disabilities. Or (ED).
Most children do NOT display that level of aggression towards their caretakers at that age without serious neglect, trauma or emotional deficits.
Kids with ED can be very tricky to deal with b/c they oftentimes have high IQ and can manipulate situations. He was progressively escalating as he didn’t get his way but if u watch him closely, he waited for reaction each time he did something progressively worse to his mother and didn’t receive a consequence. He chose that setting to try that stuff in b/c he was also looking at the presence of others as a source of protection that could allow him to get away with it.
You have to systematically remove children from all settings, and anything they could possibly want, and then slowly reintroduce reinforcers back into his environment.
Unless the appointment was for something concerning his health, she should have rescheduled. Knocked the hell out of him. Taken him home and stripped him of any privileges while reminding him of the inappropriateness of his behaviors. Anytime he asks for anything, he would be required to explain who provides and why he has to respect her to get it. He would not leave his room until he demonstrates mastery of that concept.
If she doesn’t rein him in now, he’ll be a monster in another year or two.
Most children do NOT display that level of aggression towards their caretakers at that age without serious neglect, trauma or emotional deficits.
Kids with ED can be very tricky to deal with b/c they oftentimes have high IQ and can manipulate situations. He was progressively escalating as he didn’t get his way but if u watch him closely, he waited for reaction each time he did something progressively worse to his mother and didn’t receive a consequence. He chose that setting to try that stuff in b/c he was also looking at the presence of others as a source of protection that could allow him to get away with it.
You have to systematically remove children from all settings, and anything they could possibly want, and then slowly reintroduce reinforcers back into his environment.
Unless the appointment was for something concerning his health, she should have rescheduled. Knocked the hell out of him. Taken him home and stripped him of any privileges while reminding him of the inappropriateness of his behaviors. Anytime he asks for anything, he would be required to explain who provides and why he has to respect her to get it. He would not leave his room until he demonstrates mastery of that concept.
If she doesn’t rein him in now, he’ll be a monster in another year or two.
xXOGLEGENDXx
Veteran
Sometimes kids are just dikkheads
She fukked up not nipping it in the bud when he was younger. Folks don't realize that your parents are your first teachers, not the ones you get in school. Yes, kids act up in public, but this is a case of bad parenting because his parents should've taught him how to act in public. Not even in public, but you shouldn't be putting your hands on your mom period. It shows that he has a severe lack of respect for her, but if you don't instill that day one, good luck tryna do so when he gets older. shyt my mom would've whipped me in front of everybody for showing out. Lord knows what my pops would've done once he found out what happened.
Sad thing is the kid might have a disorder, but you can tell she spent years pacifying the behavior instead of addressing the situation initially. I've worked with kids who displayed the same behavior and a lot of cases unfortunately (not all), the parents don't get their kids the help they need because they pacify the behavior for the time being hoping they child grows out of the behavior. Alot of times they don't want to be seen as a bad parent due to what society tells you on how to raise a child as if every kid is the same smh. Or they flat out don't accept that it's a problem until it's too late.
Judging by her reaction. This isn't the first time this happened. She doesn't know what to do.
Sad thing is the kid might have a disorder, but you can tell she spent years pacifying the behavior instead of addressing the situation initially. I've worked with kids who displayed the same behavior and a lot of cases unfortunately (not all), the parents don't get their kids the help they need because they pacify the behavior for the time being hoping they child grows out of the behavior. Alot of times they don't want to be seen as a bad parent due to what society tells you on how to raise a child as if every kid is the same smh. Or they flat out don't accept that it's a problem until it's too late.
Judging by her reaction. This isn't the first time this happened. She doesn't know what to do.
