what would you do if you have a gay son?

What would you do if your son came out gay?


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Raava

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this happened to my gay cousin. his dad tried everything to turn him straight, even tried to get him to become a truck driver (:dead:). my gay cousin even tried hard to be straight just so he could have his dad in his life. nikka even hard a girlfriend for a year. didnt work.
That sounds really sad.
 

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Whatever. Still rather have that.

i find your stance surprising. i mean i dont know u or anything but usually u expect males to be hateful about it. mothers are usually more accepting.
 

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Out here in my damn drawls
yea im of the same mindset. i laugh when i see them and i turn away when i see gay scenes in shows and i get a little weirded out by it, but damn to say i would disown my seed, my blood, my son created and brought into this world by me and my wife, over someshyt he has no control over, man thats just not right. u have to be one cold dude to do that.

My mother's friend and her husband kicked their son out when he was 14. His grandfather took him in, but died , so he moved in with this guy that was his 30's and went really bad. Ol' boy got shot in the head out in the street when he was 19 (over drugs). The most fukked up part about it was that I remembered the dude as a straight-laced square (no pun intended) , but they never spoke to him after the day they threw him out :smh:


It's been, almost 8 years I believe, and his mother is still fukked up, taking all kinds of medication. Her and her husband got a divorce, and she looks like a ghost :merchant:. Everytime my ma would visit her, I'd be like :no: :whoa: and kept my ass in the car no matter how long she stayed (3 hours once). She used to be fine, too, like a prime Chaka Khan :wow:
 

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My mother's friend and her husband kicked their son out when he was 14. His grandfather took him in, but died , so he moved in with this guy that was his 30's and went really bad. Ol' boy got shot in the head out in the street when he was 19 (over drugs). The most fukked up part about it was that I remembered the dude as a straight-laced square (no pun intended) , but they never spoke to him after the day they threw him out :smh:


It's been, almost 8 years I believe, and his mother is still fukked up, taking all kinds of medication. Her and her husband got a divorce, and she looks like a ghost :merchant:. Everytime my ma would visit her, I'd be like :no: :whoa: and kept my ass in the car no matter how long she stayed (3 hours once). She.used to be fine, too :wow:

:wow: some people are so cold man. one of my sisters in law has an oldest brother that has aids. idk if he was gay but from what my mom told me, when his mother found out he had aids she disowned him and kicked him out.

the funny thing about these people is that they use the bible and god as proof that they are doing the right thing and what they are doing is downright evil. how ironic, using a "holy" book to justify evil acts..

:patrice: where have we seen that before?
 

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i find your stance surprising. i mean i dont know u or anything but usually u expect males to be hateful about it. mothers are usually more accepting.

Hmmm, maybe its because I don't have a son. If I did my position may change. I do have a cousin who I think is going to be gay, and I love him to death . So who knows.
 

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it really was. now they have 0 relationship and his dad had a stroke and is confined to a wheelchair. as far as i know my cousin doesnt even visit him anymore cause his dad still hates him for being gay.
I guess people decide what is more important to them. I really think it has more to do with them internalizing things. Like some \one mentioned before them being a failure, them being embarrassed, them being disturbed/grossed out. I have an son, for a number of reasons I would rather him be straight. But I could never, would never turn my back on him or put him through what your cousin had to go through.
 

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I guess people decide what is more important to them. I really think it has more to do with them internalizing things. Like some \one mentioned before them being a failure, them being embarrassed, them being disturbed/grossed out. I have an son, for a number of reasons I would rather him be straight. But I could never, would never turn my back on him or put him through what your cousin had to go through.

if im being perfectly honest, i would rather my kids be straight. not because of any personal issues i would have, but because of how tough things would be for them. just cause their dad is accepting and loving does not mean everybody in the family will be. my wife's brother is a little homophobic and im sure her dad wouldnt like it. many people in my family would make funny faces and make them feel bad and i would have to stand up for them a lot. kids have enough to worry about when they start entering high school without having to worry about being outcasted cause they are gay. so if the choice was up to me, i would not want my kids to be gay. however if they are, i would love them and be that rock for them through those teenage years.
 
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The responses in this thread are surprising but i love them. All these kids want is to be loved and even if you don't support them being gay.

Communicate, have honest discussions, love them, hell even joke. Most of these boy are masculine, so alot of these fathers/mothers won't have to worry about that. Just treat him and raise him to become a man.
 

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I would still love him and raise him. Why would I care if he is gay? As long as he is happy than I would be happy.
 
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