Whats the biggest reason why your single?

[Rawtid]

At least you’re honest. I need a woman to submit to me and when I find ones that be on some other shyt and the sex isn’t good or they in a rat race in life well...they disqualify themselves. Like the one girl who wouldn’t suck it but wanted oral done to her. I was like but that’s another story

Why?

 

[Peter Popoff]

As you get older, the pickings are slim and then your tolerance changes. Sometimes too much wisdom keeps you single.

 

[Rawtid]

As you get older, the pickings are slim and then your tolerance changes. Sometimes too much wisdom keeps you single.

I don't think the pickings are slim, more than people are stuck in their old, tired ass ways and ideals. People are really out here looking for the "traditional" set up, no matter how much many times we see that doesn't work for everyone. People want to pick a partner off the rack instead of communicating and changing so you can be who you need for each other. They'd rather fill out 500 questions and assume because someone answered those same 500 questions similarly, that somehow they are a true match.

 

[Ohene]

i think my biggest reason is that when it comes to the women ireally want ...i get too excited.

i am extremely shyt at playing the games that people do now (the ignored messages, the long responses, etc.). Even if I have a roster there is always one girl that if she was down i'd relinquish the rest of them. My excitement causes me to be direct...and my directness or aggressiveness scares girls off.

 

[Da_Eggman]

The common thread seems to be bruhs just don’t want to put in so much time and effort making another person happy


Happy wife happy life is what most men are taught growing up

We are a generation that says nah ma I’m trying to get my happy life set you should do the same

 

[Swirv]

Real spit, a lot of y’all need to see which posts resonate with you and holla at eachother. I see females replieing that I’ve never seen before.

 

[Peter Popoff]

I don't think the pickings are slim, more than people are stuck in their old, tired ass ways and ideals. People are really out here looking for the "traditional" set up, no matter how much many times we see that doesn't work for everyone. People want to pick a partner off the rack instead of communicating and changing so you can be who you need for each other. They'd rather fill out 500 questions and assume because someone answered those same 500 questions similarly, that somehow they are a true match.

I'm not quite sure how to interpret this. I think that the bad batches tend to filter themselves out and stay single by requesting audacious ideologies of what they expect from their partner which essentially becomes entirely comical. They'll choose a partner that is weak and malleable and create what we also interpret as simps, incels and beta males out of them while the #GMB continues to prosper during lunch hours. It's not about changing for your partner, it's about having a backbone and as a man, taking lead, otherwise, you'll continually walk into toxic relationships in all aspects of life.

 

[Peter Popoff]

The common thread seems to be bruhs just don’t want to put in so much time and effort making another person happy


Happy wife happy life is what most men are taught growing up

We are a generation that says nah ma I’m trying to get my happy life set you should do the same

Yes and no. The saying applies to a generation where women were not given the same economic privileges as men. In this generation, women are making the same income as men, if not more. So climbing to the top of the totem pole to please a partner at the expense of being miserable is not a smart business move. Every relationship is a business and every business requires a good team.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

The common thread seems to be bruhs just don’t want to put in so much time and effort making another person happy


Happy wife happy life is what most men are taught growing up

We are a generation that says nah ma I’m trying to get my happy life set you should do the same

The bolded is real though, honestly. I feel like this generation is more selfish than previous generations. I can fully admit I'm very selfish during the dating phase--If I don't *feel* like doing something, putting in the effort, etc, then I don't. There's also the issue of options. You know there are always other options, so you don't have to put in the effort/work with one person, when you know there will be others. I have a date scheduled for thursday with a breh that I was flakey with, a month ago, and already I'm like why did I agree to go on this date with him...

 

[Rawtid]

I'm not quite sure how to interpret this. I think that the bad batches tend to filter themselves out and stay single by requesting audacious ideologies of what they expect from their partner which essentially becomes entirely comical. They'll choose a partner that is weak and malleable and create what we also interpret as simps, incels and beta males out of them while the #GMB continues to prosper during lunch hours. It's not about changing for your partner, it's about having a backbone and as a man, taking lead, otherwise, you'll continually walk into toxic relationships in all aspects of life.

And men are doing the same thing though. We honestly have the same issues with each other, just different perspectives. As far as GMB goes, "prospering" is subjective. There are plenty of men in happy, functional marriages, and I'm willing to bet it's because they worked hard on being the person their partner needs, which requires change. People not wanting to change is the root of the issue. Sorry, but no one loves you just for you, but your damn mother. You can also change without compromising your morals or your stance as a man. LOL at "taking the lead" when you don't even know where you're going. If you want someone to follow you, get a dog. If you want someone to figure out the path with you, get a woman.

 

[Jamal514]

Broke up with my girl in January after a 3 year relationship and feel like living a bachelor lifestyle for a while.

 

[JT-Money]

The bolded is real though, honestly. I feel like this generation is more selfish than previous generations. I can fully admit I'm very selfish during the dating phase--If I don't *feel* like doing something, putting in the effort, etc, then I don't. There's also the issue of options. You know there are always other options, so you don't have to put in the effort/work with one person, when you know there will be others. I have a date scheduled for thursday with a breh that I was flakey with, a month ago, and already I'm like why did I agree to go on this date with him...

You never know you two might just hit it off.

 

[panopticon]

Yeah man it really is affecting me. I've been doing nights off and on for about ten years, six years straight. That money from that night differential ain't no joke though.

It sounds like you're in a good financial situation now because of it breh

But might be worth taking a bit of a financial hit and trying days for a good 3-6 months just to see if things change for you as far as energy, desire to meet new people, etc.

Not about to spout some bullshyt about money not being important...it is, especially for us as black men. But at some point we all deserve to enjoy the fruits of our labor.

 

[Serious]

Career Focused. Women are a pocket liability.

same.

That focus

 

[CarmelBarbie]

You never know you two might just hit it off.

I've already went on a couple of dates with him before I got flaky lol. He was cool. I'm just being my typical fickle self lol. It's like I like people at first, but then I find the silliest reasons to be done with them.