Whats the biggest reason why your single?

[Peter Popoff]

And men are doing the same thing though. We honestly have the same issues with each other, just different perspectives. As far as GMB goes, "prospering" is subjective. There are plenty of men in happy, functional marriages, and I'm willing to bet it's because they worked hard on being the person their partner needs, which requires change. People not wanting to change is the root of the issue. Sorry, but no one loves you just for you, but your damn mother. You can also change without compromising your morals or your stance as a man. LOL at "taking the lead" when you don't even know where you're going. If you want someone to follow you, get a dog. If you want someone to figure out the path with you, get a woman.

Generations evolve and relationships should adapt to new values as well and this is what causes problems. Also, the old heads are trying to spit knowledge that only applies to their generation without addressing the complications of this generation.

At the bolded; I'm assuming you're just venting your frustrations based on emotions from your past. You may need a Melvin from baby boy type dude to grab you by the scruff of your neck or put you in a sleeper hold while pounding out your cheeks and showing you who's boss.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Generations evolve and relationships should adapt to new values as well and this is what causes problems. Also, the old heads are trying to spit knowledge that only applies to their generation without addressing the complications of this generation.

At the bolded; I'm assuming you're just venting your frustrations based on emotions from your past. You may need a Melvin from baby boy type dude to grab you by the scruff of your neck or put you in a sleeper hold while pounding out your cheeks and showing you who's boss.

Real, breh.

 

[Rawtid]

Define "friend" in your own words.
I mean...is it acceptable to cuddle with a friend? Sometimes?

Friend like I don’t care who you cuddle with or what you do because it doesn’t matter to me lol.

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

I feel like whenever I used to go to NYC, to visit my sis, from the time I got off the train to arrive all the way up until it was time to leave, men used to be so thirsty. Like so thirsty. If anything, NYC, seems like the best place for attractive women to have an endless roster of men to fukk.

@Alvin come down south. Charlotte, Atlanta, Houston--attractive BW. And I know a lot of BW that are looking to settle down out here.

Women in the city can definitely live their Sex and the City dreams if they’re attractive

I don’t think women ever have a shortage of dikk but the problem, particularly in NYC, is trying to foster a meaningful, monogamous relationship in a city with multiple options and distractions combined with the fact that everyone is career-focused / me-focused.

From a ratio perspective, NYC is disadvantageous to women so you have a city with a lot of women (many who are attractive and successful in their own right) competing for smaller group of “high status” men who know they hold the cards

I’ll put it like this (case study style) I share a personal trainer with the Wilhelmina / Elite models (real runway, campaign models, not IG girls) and they complain about the dating dynamics / competition. Sure they operate in social circles with successful men but it’s another thing to be more than a fukk buddy

 

[born of fire]

1. i need to work on issues with my mental health

2. i need to get my body together

3. i don’t go out enough

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

I feel like I have a similar issue as what you've mentioned. There probably is some anxiety involved. But also, I don't like being vulnerable or opening up. I almost feel like it's weak and exposes you to feeling emotions that can fukk you up, and having you doing stupid stuff. I think I don't like the *feels*, but it's a control issue for me. Feeling too much, or opening up too much means I've lost control, if that makes sense. I'm 50% introvert, 50% extrovert but also feel like I'm stuck in my head sometimes too. I was just telling a friend that--I analyze shyt too much, and think too deeply. I definitely feel like my biggest issue is myself, lol--sometimes we can be our worst enemies.

Man...

That's real because that's exactly what happens

I get called apathetic alot because I don't show alot of emotion most of the time and am just all around chill. A part of that is that feeling of losing control when you open yourself up. That shyt is trash lol. Especially when you do it and it turns into shyt anyways. It's wild because you can't hope to have a relationship with anyone if you're not willing to open up but at the same time more often then not that shyt seems to lead to disaster for alot of people because other people are in fact trash. It's a weird balancing act we've all gotta play.

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

1. i need to work on issues with my mental health

2. i need to get my body together

3. i don’t go out enough

I can relate to this


And I think so could the majority of this board in one way or another...

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Women in the city can definitely live their Sex and the City dreams if they’re attractive

I don’t think women ever have a shortage of dikk but the problem, particularly in NYC, is trying to foster a meaningful, monogamous relationship in a city with multiple options and distractions combined with the fact that everyone is career-focused / me-focused.

From a ratio perspective, NYC is disadvantageous to women so you have a city with a lot of women (many who are attractive and successful in their own right) competing for smaller group of “high status” men who know they hold the cards

I’ll put it like this (case study style) I share a personal trainer with the Wilhelmina / Elite models (real runway, campaign models, not IG girls) and they complain about the dating dynamics / competition. Sure they operate in social circles with successful men but it’s another thing to be more than a fukk buddy

Hmmm, interesting. I had all types of attractive men trying to get with me in NYC, when I was looking quite basic, as far as not wearing make up, and dressed like shyt. I was with my little son too. It wasn't strange for me, because it happens if other cities that I've lived in. But, I felt like, their was a thirstiness to these men that felt a little "off". As I said, it seems like a good city if you ain't on shyt but dikk. But, forging meaningful relationships is another thing. Interestingly enough, I find that in every city, you have different people that have different insight on dating there. I've heard from a few people I know that lived in NYC that women held the cards in NYC. But you say men do. On the other hand, I have a friend who lived in Atlanta, and you know how people are always saying that Atlanta would be a difficult dating city for BW... Well this friend had great dating experiences in Atlanta. She's average looking, FYI. On the other hand, I know women who had an incredibly difficult time dating in Atlanta. Just goes to show, we all can have a variety of different dating experiences.

 

[Brandsdale]

It takes a lot of effort and a equal amount of luck in order to find and secure a woman into a relationship. You dont want to be lonely you gotta download whatever app, go to whatever club or bar, put on whatever clothes to attract etc, all to increase your chances but also being aware that every chance is not guaranteed, which is why dating and job hunting are synonymous in the how they are both approached imo.

In job hunting you maximize your options in order to hopefully land one job that is both stable, and has career advancement opportunities but no matter what, extraneous factors can/will outweigh your efforts
sometimes it really all just comes down to probability I guess

 

[Ashtrey]

Mouthpiece is lackluster.

 

[Ghost_In_A_Shell]

I'm an entitled anti social narcissist with no redeeming qualities. I'm not attractive nor do I necessarily like marriage or people for that matter. I just wanna be a neet/hermit who only goes out in sunlight once every 4 months but cant because of capitalism.

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

Mouthpiece is lackluster.

Just talk to more women breh. If you're not a natural smooth talker then you gotta practice. Ironically this is what online dating is perfect for.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Man...

That's real because that's exactly what happens

I get called apathetic alot because I don't show alot of emotion most of the time and am just all around chill. A part of that is that feeling of losing control when you open yourself up. That shyt is trash lol. Especially when you do it and it turns into shyt anyways. It's wild because you can't hope to have a relationship with anyone if you're not willing to open up but at the same time more often then not that shyt seems to lead to disaster for alot of people because other people are in fact trash. It's a weird balancing act we've all gotta play.

Omg breh, same shyt I deal with all the time. It's so bad, that in nearly every relationship I've been in, the man never really knew the depth of my feelings for him. And they all said the same thing--they don't know how I feel, because I don't *show* it. so they all suspected I was cheating at many points, or full of shyt about having feelings for them. The women they had been with in the past were very vocal and expressive, so they never had to guess. But with me, it was a guessing game. And really I feel like a lot of it was a game for me. I liked having control and power, in that they never really knew me like they though they would, or my feelings for them either. For some of the brehs, my feelings ran deep, I just didn't let them know, I saw it as a weakness. I feel like I don't trust anyone to have my best interest but myself. so I'm pretty much like fukk everyone else. It's what led to the demise of relationships. And to be honest, I'm the same with my fam. I have a very apathetic nature, to pretty much everyone but my son and my mom-when she was alive. But like you said, in order to have a real relationship, there has to be some level of vulnerability and willingness to open up. Which is why I can fully admit that I'm single because of me.

 

[Samson]

It's shameful, but I cannot let go of teenage and pre-teen hurt. For some reason, it still impacts me to this day.

 

[Abraxus]

Why?

Dunno. Its how I’m wired. If I call up a girl and say I wanna fukk you for lunch I expect them to do it. Not to mistreat em or anything but I’m into being the assertive direct type and them being submissive. Like the nice girl I met who asked if she could come hang out and watch movies. I said sure but you know we fukking right? And bring some beer too. No one would ever call me a beta male. I’ve turned down way more p*ssy than I’ve got but (I met someone who intrigues me so for now I’m out the game, plus the std shyt) I run hot and cold on em like how they do other dudes except I’m mostly the one tell em to go fukk yourselves, idgaf. The girl I met is definitely an alpha woman but she submits to me, and my dikk so we vibing right now. Dude, as soon as she comes in the door my dikk it out but we have fun too and she a career woman yet still makes me cheese cake, brings me dinner etc. other broads are headaches, asking me to feed them all the time or they get on my nerves and their p*ssy/fukk game is wack. Delete