What’s The Point Of Being The Breadwinner in a Relationship

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My point is the concept of breadwinner as we are discussing here to a degree is antiquated. A large problem with society is the inability to contextualize the time they are living in. Consistently cherry-picking what they like from the past without recognizing the landscape of the present. Is it ideal for one person in 2022 to be working and bringing home most if not all the money when everything is more expensive? Is it ideal for a man to be the sole breadwinner and be financially vulnerable if his wife decides to up and leave him bc it’s much easier to do so today? To me it makes more sense for both parties to have skin in the game and both parties working towards the same goal especially when they are both capable of doing so. Almost equal stake.

“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”
Imagine thinking relationships/households where only one person works are gonna be the norm in 2022. My chick is a civil engineer and about to start working for her masters, and I'm about to start my second business.

You clowns and bums stuck in the 90's.
-You don't need to be in a single income household to be the breadwinner, it's the person that comes out of pocket the most.

-Women will say shyt like "We both work but he's the breadwinner" because they actually grasp the concept.
 

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50/50 doesn’t work lol.

Either it’s 80/20 or you handle ALL the bills and she uses her money on stocks / vacations / etc.

Especially if you want a black woman
 

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-You don't need to be in a single income household to be the breadwinner, it's the person that comes out of pocket the most.

-Women will say shyt like "We both work but he's the breadwinner" because they actually grasp the concept.
Why someone gotta come out the pocket the most? Like do you have to or you choose to? Then it becomes a question of why if you don’t have to.

It’s all about the relationship people choose to be in. In the same way, one can choose to pay for everything or most of everything. There’s no rules is what I’m getting at.
 

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I'm not caught up on nonsensical terms that are out of date. nikkas like you do and you wonder why the only time you get a text is the phone company to remind you to pay your bill and I'm deep throating my woman on a hotel balcony in Miami with that money from landscaping. Stay broke and lonely, fakkit.
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Being the bread winner affords the man a woman who can focus on being a home maker. She gets to spend more time with the children, rather than sending them to daycare. Traditionally the wife handled all the bills and finances of the household. If home responsibilities are managed appropriately by the couple, it also affords the woman more time to making sure she is attractive and sexually available to him.

That's the way its suppose to work, but does it really?
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A cac say jump and y’all jump, time to start reaching back into your own mind about things
 

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Being the bread winner affords the man a woman who can focus on being a home maker. She gets to spend more time with the children, rather than sending them to daycare. Traditionally the wife handled all the bills and finances of the household. If home responsibilities are managed appropriately by the couple, it also affords the woman more time to making sure she is attractive and sexually available to him.

That's the way its suppose to work, but does it really?
:manny:
I think this only happened if a man believed or conceded his wife as being smarter than him.
 

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I think this only happened if a man believed or conceded his wife as being smarter than him.
Not true at all. No smarts are required for paying bills and balancing a household budget. All of it could be done on the back of a checkbook. Savings accounts and CDs use to actually pay good interest rates. If a man held any stocks it was all handled through his broker. Retail trading didn't exist even in the early 2000s .
 

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Not true at all. No smarts are required for paying bills and balancing a household budget. All of it could be done on the back of a checkbook. Savings accounts and CDs use to actually pay good interest rates. If a man held any stocks it was all handled through his broker. Retail trading didn't exist even in the early 2000s .
If you're not good at math you aren't balancing a checkbook. And I don't understand the relevance of a broker, a person trained and qualified to handle stocks, handling them in regards to why a man let's his wife handle the money he earns.
 

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If you're not good at math you aren't balancing a checkbook. And I don't understand the relevance of a broker, a person trained and qualified to handle stocks, handling them in regards to why a man let's his wife handle the money he earns.
Have you ever balanced a checkbook? It's basic subtraction and addition. Balancing the household budget was considered secretarial work, and beneath a man's capabilities back then. That's like telling a man to be his own secretary. If you think the modern woman isn't capable of balancing a checkbook, thats a different discussion, but it was standard MO for a wife pre-2000.
 
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