What's up with women and their indirect curves?

[Music Fiend]

I understand the importance of learning to take a hint.

I do not mind a chick simply telling me, she's not interested or a I'm not feeling you like that; direct curve.


But word games? being the type of nikka I am, if I have to assume I'm gonna assume your not interested.

50% of the time they aren't , the other 50% I'm looked at like I didn't try hard enough or not aggressive enough. They play clueless.

Curve examples

- she hits you up and talks like she's interested. But you hit her back to link up , no response.
- I can't come, I have to wake up early for work
- I'm sick
- I'm too tired tonight

^^ but will never say they aren't interested. So is the general rule of thumb if you attempt to link up, if she doesn't make a counter offer immediately she's not interested? Why not just be direct?

 

[Koba St]

Far as I'm concerned if she starts playing those games then she's not interested. All the females I've been with were interested from the get go and would respond to my texts within seconds and eager to meet up and do things.

 

[VFib]

If she isn't showing interest, it's best to move on. You shouldn't have to guess whether or not someone is interested.

- "she hits you up and talks like she's interested. But you hit her back to link up , no response". (Maybe something in the conversation made her realize that you weren't the person for her)

- "I can't come, I have to wake up early for work" (It may be too late for her. Was another day and time suggested?)

- "I'm sick" (Was another day suggested?)

- "I'm too tired tonight" (Was another day suggested?)

 

[Music Fiend]

Far as I'm concerned if she starts playing those games then she's not interested.

But that's the thing, it's hard to tell the ones running game and being honest. So I usually just cut them all off.

Then I can't tell if they are bothered I've bounced cuz they just wanted attention and games or if they were interested lol

 

[audemarzz]

Seem like she trynna keep a roster so she always have someone on call bush her

 

[Music Fiend]

If she isn't showing interest, it's best to move on. You shouldn't have to guess whether or not someone is interested.

- "she hits you up and talks like she's interested. But you hit her back to link up , no response". (Maybe something the the conversation made her realize that you weren't the person for her)
- "I can't come, I have to wake up early for work" (It may be too late for her. Was another day and time suggested?)
- "I'm sick" (Was another day suggested?)
- "I'm too tired tonight" (Was another day suggested?)

I dig it. No I rarely suggest another day. Because there is no end to it u feel me?

If u say ur busy, sick or tired or whatever, I'm not gonna run down my next free days like "how bout Tuesday? How bout Thursday? Ok Friday then"

Isn't that their responsibility when the balls in their court?

I was always taught if someone extends to link with u and u can't you need to counter offer.

 

[Music Fiend]

Seem like she trynna keep a roster so she always have someone on call bush her

Exactly, idk why our society can't be direct. Maybe I'm just that blunt that I will be direct.

It's usually the first example. Woman comes at me indirectly to avoid rejection, I peep it and say lets link up then it's crickets.

 

[VFib]

I dig it. No I rarely suggest another day. Because there is no end to it u feel me?

If u say ur busy, sick or tired or whatever, I'm not gonna run down my next free days like "how bout Tuesday? How bout Thursday? Ok Friday then"

Isn't that their responsibility when the balls in their court?

I was always taught if someone extends to link with u and u can't you need to counter offer.

I meant, was SHE suggesting alternatives.

If I am sick, I am not going out, BUT I would suggest getting together within 2 days, when I know I would feel up to it.

I also don't work a 9-5, but this would be explained during the first phone conversation (no texting), so he would know the best times to contact me and wouldn't feel dissed if he contacted me during work hours or when I would be asleep and I didn't respond right away.

It's all about communication.

 

[audemarzz]

I would love for a female to just tell me (of course with respect) I'm not into you sorry. I can handle that as a man I can understand and take rejection without lashing out. It's more crazy to exchange numbers text someone you have no interest in and talk with them like you do while not sharing the same feelings. Women will shout and scream "but what if he does xyz" Yeah this only applies in secluded/isolated spaces, most dudes ain't bout to

you in starbucks because you said you good on talking to them. Females love to be chased even by those they bare no attraction/feelings towards.