What's your thoughts on this picture about couples building an "empire"?

[MikelArteta]

if you dont build with a woman the first struggle that may pop up
@Ciggavelli she most likely will be gone.

If all a woman knows is you having a flashy condo, a 80,000 a year job, a beamer. If you become unemployed or sick and lose the condo, the job, the car and have to move back home with your parents you think she's going to ride it out with you?

 

[Swirv]

To add to what you said, I definitely think two people starting out should build together.... But then take situations like Kevin Hart and the brother from Sesame Street....what's the point in building together if you won't be together?

I am also iffy on building with a person on a different plateau financially as well....I've been there done that and it didn't work...
Why should I build with you? You wasn't with me shooting in the gym.......
I don't know.... It's just not as black and white as people paint it....

I can't speak on Kevin Hart's relationship because I don't know about that. People change and grow apart no matter how long they've been together or what they've experienced together. Personally if me and a woman have struggled together since jump & we finally get to where we've wanted to go I'm not throwing her in the bushes. Egos can get the best of you male or female so I remember where I came from everyday.

Not all partnerships are equal in every aspect. Like one person may be very creative but disorganized and the other orderly & astute. Its up to you two to discern who is better at what and try to build on your strengths.

Before you started taking this broke individual serious did you two have a talk on where you were going in life?

 

[Colicat]

if you dont build with a woman the first struggle that may pop up
@Ciggavelli she most likely will be gone.

If all a woman knows is you having a flashy condo, a 80,000 a year job, a beamer. If you become unemployed or sick and lose the condo, the job, the car and have to move back home with your parents you think she's going to ride it out with you?

Why get with a woman who brings nothing to your condo and 80,000 a year salary besides a warm hole and make-up bag?..... If you were wise with your choices, your girl will be able to hold the bills down until you get back on your feet... Why do you have to move in with your family? That just means you were a shytty leader and as the head of the household you should have made sure y'all were living within your means and had an emergency plan that didn't include mommy and daddy

 

[MikelArteta]

Why get with a woman who brings nothing to your condo and 80,000 a year salary besides a warm hole and make-up bag?..... If you were wise with your choices, your girl will be able to hold the bills down until you get back on your feet? Why do you have to move in with your family? That just means you were a shytty leader and as the head of the household you should have made sure y'all were living within your means and had an emergency plan that didn't include mommy and daddy

who said she brings nothing?

if you noticed I said become sick ala big medical bills not convered by insurance

its typical of women to deflect and to try and cast a wider net on what was being spoken.

you know damn well you would bounce

 

[Colicat]

I can't speak on Kevin Hart's relationship because I don't know about that. People change and grow apart no matter how long they've been together or what they've experienced together. Personally if me and a woman have struggled together since jump & we finally get to where we've wanted to go I'm not throwing her in the bushes. Egos can get the best of you male or female so I remember where I came from everyday.

Not all partnerships are equal in every aspect. Like one person may be very creative but disorganized and the other orderly & astute. Its up to you two to discern who is better at what and try to build on your strengths.

Before you started taking this broke individual serious did you two have a talk on where you were going in life?

I agree with the ego portion... Throughout ones relationship journey you should communicate needs and wants....some things should be in constant flux and in the revision process... (The family budget is one)...

As far as the broke guy ... Yeah... I helped him go back to school... Helped him through his courses, paid for things along the way (dates, food, & clothing for him- mind you he still lived with mom)... Helped him study... His goal was to become a professor... So I supported him...

Waste of 5yrs... ..... So I am not that thrilled with the idea if building at this stage

 

[Mordith]

If all a woman knows is you having a flashy condo, a 80,000 a year job, a beamer. If you become unemployed or sick and lose the condo, the job, the car and have to move back home with your parents you think she's going to ride it out with you?

 

[Colicat]

who said she brings nothing?

if you noticed I said become sick ala big medical bills not convered by insurance

its typical of women to deflect and to try and cast a wider net on what was being spoken.

you know damn well you would bounce

Why would I bounce if he lost his job? Or got sick?.... I am multiple deviations above the norm in terms of income... If my husband is sick and can't work, then we would still eat very well... Till death do us part... My mom has set an amazing example of what it means to hold your husband and family down....

Maybe your long term girlfriend whom you never fully committed to will bounce... But you never promised through sickness and health.... So why should she stay?

 

[Remote]

I agree with the ego portion... Throughout ones relationship journey you should communicate needs and wants....some things should be in constant flux and in the revision process... (The family budget is one)...

As far as the broke guy ... Yeah... I helped him go back to school... Helped him through his courses, paid for things along the way (dates, food, & clothing for him- mind you he still lived with mom)... Helped him study... His goal was to become a professor... So I supported him...

Waste of 5yrs... ..... So I am not that thrilled with the idea if building at this stage

Don't call it a waste.
As I've gotten older, I've learned something about myself from every relationship. So in that sense, it's never really a waste.
It's only a waste if you haven't learned and grown from the experience.

Just my opinion, though.

 

[MikelArteta]

Why would I bounce if he lost his job? Or got sick?.... I am multiple deviations above the norm in terms of income... If my husband is sick and can't work, then we would still eat very well... Till death do us part... My mom has set an amazing example of what it means to hold your husband and family down....

Maybe your long term girlfriend whom you never fully committed to will bounce... But you never promised through sickness and health.... So why should she stay?

coli women are always the exception

 

[Swirv]

I agree with the ego portion... Throughout ones relationship journey you should communicate needs and wants....some things should be in constant flux and in the revision process... (The family budget is one)...

As far as the broke guy ... Yeah... I helped him go back to school... Helped him through his courses, paid for things along the way (dates, food, & clothing for him- mind you he still lived with mom)... Helped him study... His goal was to become a professor... So I supported him...

Waste of 5yrs... ..... So I am not that thrilled with the idea if building at this stage

I agree communication is major in all areas of life. It can make or break even the most loving of couples.

What was your desired outcome for that relationship that now you call it a waste of time?

 

[Timeis$]

To build something together you actually have to like your partner. A lot people are in relationships for money or sexual attraction but don't even like the person they're with. Like I said before if you can't do normal human everyday interactions with your partner without hating their guts it's probably not going to work and you sure as hell aren't building anything together.

 

[J-Nice]

Honestly, I think this scenario can only work if the man is a solid leader and has a solid plan to follow. But this all hinges on choosing the right person to ride it out with. In the selfish culture we currently live under, it's gonna be difficult to find the right person who wants to build with you and won't leave when the going get's tough or when they have the option of upgrading. There are alot of successful married couples out there who are examples of this, but it takes immense sacrifice and patience. And those are things this current generation lacks in my opinion.

 

[Colicat]

Don't call it a waste.
As I've gotten older, I've learned something about myself from every relationship. So in that sense, it's never really a waste.
It's only a waste if you haven't learned and grown from the experience.

Just my opinion, though.

In that sense you are absolutely correct... I definitely learned a lot sexually, emotionally, and socially from him... But I also had other ideas for an outcome and in that sense it was a waste

coli women are always the exception

I just so happen to be an exception.... .... I ain't mad at it....

I agree communication is major in all areas of life. It can make or break even the most loving of couples.

What was your desired outcome for that relationship that now you call it a waste of time?

Marriage and babies....

 

[MikelArteta]

In that sense you are absolutely correct... I definitely learned a lot sexually, emotionally, and socially from him... But I also had other ideas for an outcome and in that sense it was a waste



I just so happen to be an exception.... .... I ain't mad at it....



Marriage and babies....

how old are you now?

 

[Colicat]

how old are you now?

I am in my early 30s....