Peter Parker
Superstar
I don't like to hang out enough to make friends plus what I do for a living leaves me unavailable when most people wanna go do shyt.
When and Where was the last time you made a friend?
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Mandarin Duck
Majestic and Highfalutin
Why do you want friends old man?
Mandarin Duck
Majestic and Highfalutin
I need something to do on the weekends other than coke.
-Last people I'd consider friends I met through work. My main circle I've known for most my life.
-I've met a bunch of people more recently going to the the comic/cards shops. Since corona I've stopped in more frequently & got cool with people but I wouldn't really call them friends.
SupaDupaFresh
Superstar
One of my coworkers is the last extra cool dude I fukks wit. I work in a fairly diverse but still white washed industry, TV broadcasting. He was one of the few black men on my shift and one of the few fellow Bronx cats in the building. Breh left for CNN but I still come through to the crib.
Went to a party couple months ago and me and this other dude who was friends wit the person I came wit pretty much became the turn up tag tean instantly. I think we may even busted out the kid and play wildin out in front of folks. Had the party going. This os usually how i make new friends. We exchanged Steam accounts and phone numbers before we got ours for the night. Dude even passed me a redemption code for a free game he wanted me to try. Cool nikka.
I think most important thing is you gotta learn how to go out on your own. Most people go out only with someone they already know and otherwise stay home all day. You have to create and have your own spontaneous social life where you can do what you like, meet and perhaps spend the dat with new like minded people, and even find a bit of yourself in the process without feeling responsible for someone. And once you meet someone that wants to spend more time with you it wont be long before he or she includes you into their social circle.
This is so important, especially in your 30s. Even with an active independent social life at that age your prospects for dating and friendships is pretty much limited to coworkers (and some of you unenployed motherfukkers gotta beg your cousins to spend with with you) until you learn to create your very own social life.
You aint fully unlocking the potential of your 30s until you learn how to get dressed, hit the streets, and just spend time alone on a beautiful weekend day. Your very own social life thats all about finding yourself and new experiences. Its not about just getting laid or finding new friends. Learning how to make a every day a fulfilling day all your own is essential to you well being and mental health.
Went to a party couple months ago and me and this other dude who was friends wit the person I came wit pretty much became the turn up tag tean instantly. I think we may even busted out the kid and play wildin out in front of folks. Had the party going. This os usually how i make new friends. We exchanged Steam accounts and phone numbers before we got ours for the night. Dude even passed me a redemption code for a free game he wanted me to try. Cool nikka.
I think most important thing is you gotta learn how to go out on your own. Most people go out only with someone they already know and otherwise stay home all day. You have to create and have your own spontaneous social life where you can do what you like, meet and perhaps spend the dat with new like minded people, and even find a bit of yourself in the process without feeling responsible for someone. And once you meet someone that wants to spend more time with you it wont be long before he or she includes you into their social circle.
This is so important, especially in your 30s. Even with an active independent social life at that age your prospects for dating and friendships is pretty much limited to coworkers (and some of you unenployed motherfukkers gotta beg your cousins to spend with with you) until you learn to create your very own social life.
You aint fully unlocking the potential of your 30s until you learn how to get dressed, hit the streets, and just spend time alone on a beautiful weekend day. Your very own social life thats all about finding yourself and new experiences. Its not about just getting laid or finding new friends. Learning how to make a every day a fulfilling day all your own is essential to you well being and mental health.
Have you tried pepsi?
Try golf. You don't need friends to do that.I'm only a couple year away from 30 and already starting to notice how hard it is and that's why im already stepping my game up
but what i've noticed is that the older you get the more relationships are based on mutual benefits and not love. If peoole cant benefit from you some way they wont fuxk with you. @Mandarin Duck you might have to level up your career/lifestyle
but what i've noticed is that the older you get the more relationships are based on mutual benefits and not love. If peoole cant benefit from you some way they wont fuxk with you. @Mandarin Duck you might have to level up your career/lifestyle
Im the friend finder.. My wife is the friend maintainer
My wife and i were doing a volunteer service project december last year
The organizer paired me up with some fellows who were moving boxes around with dollies
So I met this one guy, a few years younger than myself, but he's a pharmacist
I always want to know a pharmacist .. It was on my list of things to do
We got to talking .. He has a moderate worldview and generally knowledgeable
I try fo find two pieces of supporting evidence
his occupation/point in life and conversation style sufficsd
(at that time people seemed stuck on covid, politics, ranting about government, etc)
he was also talking about his wife and she was dealing with their youngest child going off to college
And it happens to be a school one of my wife's children graduated from, and his child's major is close to another of wifey's kids occupations
So i was like "you should meet my wife"
So i grabbed wifey's attention, introduced her, and i invited them to dinner at our house
He said sure, and my wife would call his wife to set it up
We see them pretty regularly
The women talk on the phone too
My wife is a few years ahead of his wife with the whole grown children and becoming a grandmother thing
So it gives each of them some good interaction
I think we caught them at the perfect time
They are good/sociable people but were still transitioning away from having children at home
So they jumped at the chance to make new friends
My big tip is-
friends for a lifetime start as friends for a reason or friends for a season
If i can find people to potentially check both boxes (reason/season) for myself and my wife,,, i take action
My wife and i were doing a volunteer service project december last year
The organizer paired me up with some fellows who were moving boxes around with dollies
So I met this one guy, a few years younger than myself, but he's a pharmacist
I always want to know a pharmacist .. It was on my list of things to do
We got to talking .. He has a moderate worldview and generally knowledgeable
I try fo find two pieces of supporting evidence
his occupation/point in life and conversation style sufficsd
(at that time people seemed stuck on covid, politics, ranting about government, etc)
he was also talking about his wife and she was dealing with their youngest child going off to college
And it happens to be a school one of my wife's children graduated from, and his child's major is close to another of wifey's kids occupations
So i was like "you should meet my wife"
So i grabbed wifey's attention, introduced her, and i invited them to dinner at our house
He said sure, and my wife would call his wife to set it up
We see them pretty regularly
The women talk on the phone too
My wife is a few years ahead of his wife with the whole grown children and becoming a grandmother thing
So it gives each of them some good interaction
I think we caught them at the perfect time
They are good/sociable people but were still transitioning away from having children at home
So they jumped at the chance to make new friends
My big tip is-
friends for a lifetime start as friends for a reason or friends for a season
If i can find people to potentially check both boxes (reason/season) for myself and my wife,,, i take action
Negro Caesar
Superstar
I randomly started playing video games with a couple of guys like a year ago, after like 3-4 months of playing I found out they live like a hour away from me. 4 months after that I met them at a Buffalo Wild Wings for a football game.
we still play games together in the regular. Besides family, they only people I talk to 4-5 days out the week.
I don’t really wanna go make friends here like that, I’d be forced to break off plans because I’m an introvert and nikkaa would eventually stop asking me to hangout. But with these nikkas i don’t have to leave the house, just gotta open discord to bullshyt or get on the game
we still play games together in the regular. Besides family, they only people I talk to 4-5 days out the week.
I don’t really wanna go make friends here like that, I’d be forced to break off plans because I’m an introvert and nikkaa would eventually stop asking me to hangout. But with these nikkas i don’t have to leave the house, just gotta open discord to bullshyt or get on the game
Worthless Loser
Blackpilled
Middle school. After that there's not much reason to seek social engagement.