When did you become aware of "race"

[Brown_Pride]

I was listening to Joe ROgan podcast #344 and he said he never knew what the N word mean until he was like 10 or 11. Yesterday I told my son to stop acting like a white boy not my best "daddy moment", but he tells me, "what do you mean" i said NVM.

Question:
is it a good thing for kids NOT to learn about things like this that they will inevitably run into? Should you "keep the lie alive" as long as possible?


I see it as a good thing that my kids haven't been exposed to that yet and are blissfully unaware, thinking back i remember being aware of this stuff AT LEAST by 8 years old.

THoughts?

 

[BIGDENNIS10UK]

What was your boy doing?

 

[Fervid]

I was a black kid growing up in white america. I was aware as soon as I was able to be aware.

 

[Brown_Pride]

What was your boy doing?

said he wanted to play tennis

They play basketball on a team right now, both on the same team. Time is up to renew, i asked if they wanted to play again, one said yes, the other (i have two sons) said "i want to play tennis", sadly, but admittedly, i said, "stop acting like a little white boy", he said, "what's that mean,", I said, "oh nothing never mind, yes you can play tennis "

In a round about way i started asking them about skin color and it was sorta nuts to see how much they don't recognize color. Tall, "fat", short...those things they use to describe people, not color though. Very cool to watch actually, but it made me wonder if or more importantly WHEN i should have that discussion with them.

 

[BIGDENNIS10UK]

said he wanted to play tennis

They play basketball on a team right now, both on the same team. Time is up to renew, i asked if they wanted to play again, one said yes, the other (i have two sons) said "i want to play tennis", sadly, but admittedly, i said, "stop acting like a little white boy", he said, "what's that mean,", I said, "oh nothing never mind, yes you can play tennis "

In a round about way i started asking them about skin color and it was sorta nuts to see how much they don't recognize color. Tall, "fat", short...those things they use to describe people, not color though. Very cool to watch actually, but it made me wonder if or more importantly WHEN i should have that discussion with them.

Tennis is wide open for a black star

But is it not a good thing colour is not a big issue for them?

I realise things are different in America with regards to racism, we have our problems, but it does seem worse in the US.

 

[The Real]

I became aware of it at 3 or 4 when some white families pulled their children away from me at the playground. I didn't really understand it until later, but that's when it first became an issue for me, even if it was just a question mark.

 

[Brown_Pride]

Tennis is wide open for a black star

But is it not a good thing colour is not a big issue for them?

I realise things are different in America with regards to racism, we have our problems, but it does seem worse in the US.

we're hispanic though lol

and i don't know if it's a good thing, i mean i believe it to be, but at the same time i KNOW they are going to experience it, again at what point does one pull their seed aside and say, "oh hey by the way you can expect to make less money, get pulled over more often, and by and large have a rather significant number of people dislike you for no other reason than your skin color. SUPRISE "

I'd like to think they'll NEVER experience it but let's be honest we're not there yet.

 

[Julius Skrrvin]

let him play tennis man

 

[Brown_Pride]

let him play tennis man

DON'T TELL ME HOW TO RAISE MY KIDS


It's tennis man...tennis. I can't tell you how many things my kids do or WANT to do because it's what's cool at their school that have me like


Justin Bieber
rubberband bracelets shaped like animals
skinny jeans

I"ll let him play though if he wants

 

[Julius Skrrvin]

Tennis is a good sport though breh; its an all round great for improving speed, coordination, mental toughness, endurance, pretty much everything but brute strength. It's not a white boy thing either, its a rich dude thing. at the guy above saying tennis needs black stars. No love for the venus sisters lmao

You are a mexican though so i bet you prolly want your kids to box or play soccer

 

[Pool_Shark]

Animal shaped bracelets are what's hot in the streets now What happened to marbles and yoyos?

Didn't really start thinking about race till I was like 16-18. Just was never really something that came up. My dad had all kinds of friends he'd bring over so ever race was cool.

 

[No1]

To be honest, I grew up in a diverse city with a diverse group of friends, race didn't matter all that much to us. I guess as kids, we didn't see what was out there. We were certainly aware, and I was given speeches as a kid about understanding that I'd have to be undeniably better to be seen as the same but it wasn't immediate to me. No one ever had the gall to directly say something racist to me to my face, there were certain actions sure, but even my friends who were of other races told them that they were ignorant. I remember a game like SOCOM US Navy Seals being the first time I heard someone use the n-word in a derogatory fashion in real life. It just didn't happen, and maybe we were fortunate.

I'd say the internet makes me think more about race or religion or any of those things than I do normally. That's not to say we didn't know racist people, we had friends whose parents didn't like black people (grandparents especially), but we always chalked it up to an older era. I'd seen enough to know my friends didn't think that way, and to this day, a lot of those people would ride for me before my black friends would. Though not as egregious, my older relatives had habits like calling every Asian person Chinese anyhow so I couldn't exactly be to upset by a little ignorance. We were special.

It wasn't until college that I found out how rare my experience was, and that most people lived self-segregated. Class, race, religion, none of that stuff had ever mattered to us. It's why when I see any sort of generalization in here I because I know that's not how real life is and we've all branched out to other parts of the country and the world and found out that we weren't all that unique. People have more in common than was separates them if you give them a chance. I think I got a bit off-topic there.

But to answer the question when it really hit me what being black in america meant: It was during the uproar of Cornel Young Jr. being shot and knowing his little sister. If anyone remembers that case.

 

[Brown_Pride]

Tennis is a good sport though breh; its an all round great for improving speed, coordination, mental toughness, endurance, pretty much everything but brute strength. It's not a white boy thing either, its a rich dude thing. at the guy above saying tennis needs black stars. No love for the venus sisters lmao

You are a mexican though so i bet you prolly want your kids to box or play soccer

lol i just want them to be happy. I'd prefer they played bball or football...not so much football anymore with the studies coming out on head trauma and hte such...but still a year or two of popwarner never hurt nobody...plus my oldest son is FREAKISHLY strong he's only 10 but solid as a damn rock it's kinda crazy

the younger one wants to play tennis, i guess it'll teach him how to cut lol.


They also want to do MMA of some type, that's a battle me and their mom are having...it's only a matter of time though, only a matter of time.

and yes i did want them to box so fuk your racism and it's accuracy.

 

[Julius Skrrvin]

lol i just want them to be happy. I'd prefer they played bball or football...not so much football anymore with the studies coming out on head trauma and hte such...but still a year or two of popwarner never hurt nobody...plus my oldest son is FREAKISHLY strong he's only 10 but solid as a damn rock it's kinda crazy

the younger one wants to play tennis, i guess it'll teach him how to cut lol.


They also want to do MMA of some type, that's a battle me and their mom are having...it's only a matter of time though, only a matter of time.

and yes i did want them to box so fuk your racism and it's accuracy.

You might be down on them doing MMA but the actual stats on CTE and brain damage for the sport are much lower than boxing or football for example, you can go check it out yourself. The grappling and general ruleset negate a lot of the damage that people would expect.

The one thing i'm meh on MMA for kids about is the image of the sport. not exactly role models everywhere.

 

[Brown_Pride]

Animal shaped bracelets are what's hot in the streets now What happened to marbles and yoyos?

Didn't really start thinking about race till I was like 16-18. Just was never really something that came up. My dad had all kinds of friends he'd bring over so ever race was cool.

i liken it to the POG trend that took off and died just as quickly when I was a kid. I said no, they were upset for a week, then that shyt died out. It was a teachable moment "Don't get caught up in fads"

and i haven't seen a kid play marbles in like 20 years...