When did you Realize that Contrary to Popular Belief most Males ain't getting Females like that?

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Men and women are caught up in the implication that desire is deserved and obligated to them. Like people really out here walking around believing that they deserve a stranger that they've built up in their minds as the perfect man/woman is just going to fall for them and all of their hangups/shortcomings .

Been said ad nauseam but love yourself, come to terms that you shouldn't stress on shyt beyond your control and find something you're good at and make money off of it. The would isn't going to retool itself to your liking...you just told breh that he better make himself a part of that desired 15% if shyt's looking bleak for him as is...and how he respond?

Exactly. I just don't understand wallowing. Like you are here. You are alive. What else do you really have better to do besides go after what you want?

 

[Youseenmywork]

How is that a band aid? You live in a capitalist society. By nature of the social structure there will be more losers than winners. All you can do is focus on yourself and your self improvement. What are you trying to do? Get all the losers laid?

man I swear ....nvm

 

[Neuromancer]

Yeah but the nature the general reality that we live in is that you have to work for what you want. If you're not working at achieving your goal than you don't really want or deserve it. Why does someone deserve something they never really but any real effort to get? I'm a woman and I watch self improvement and dating advice for both women and men to get a full prospective.

I never said you shouldn't self improve.

 

[DJSmooth]

The average guy is not getting girls too easy, average guy is lucking up on some ass here and there. Most women want a winner type of guy, top 15 % type of guy.

Women will over look the average guy until they come to terms that they are not good enough for a top 15% guy. Thats when women will settle for the average guy


This woman is below average but becuz she has an ass, she gets attention, her pics average 7k likes & hundreds of thirsty comments from dudes. I wonder how her DMs look like

I honestly wouldn't even see this chick if she walked past me on the street

If she approached me I would turn her down immediately. This would be an easy lay. Maybe i'm apart of the 15%

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

man I swear ....nvm

Say what you gotta say homie. I'm in a very good mood today.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I wasn't really talking about how capitalism effects the sexual market place. But that's important to remember. I just don't like Watching people lose. I also look at problems larger than myself.

Im come in and piggy back why it is important to help other nikka win in the SOCIETY we in now.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I never said you shouldn't self improve.

You didn't answer the question though. If they aren't working at improving then why do they deserve anything?

 

[PartyHeart]

Only within the past couple years did i realize that having sex and validation from women was so important to a man's assessment of self. Like that dude who killed people cuz he couldn't get a gf. And of course the posters here.

Maybe it's a guy thing. But if u have money, good job, fulfilling recreation, etc., how do u end up like a Kent? I mean sure u still have your biological urge to have sex, but how does it impede ur mind so much overall

Right. When I realized that sex was a lot more to men than just the feeling and act of it alone, it helped my understanding of men a lot. Socialization for boys and men centers so much on sex. Their masculinity, self esteem, and self view of success depends on it. Its not a good thing at all, but its true. Its a lot like how much women are socialized and pushed to be validated through marriage. I think theres a bit of a movement with women to get away from that harmful mindset, whereas men seem to just have dug in even more and made sex an even bigger priority in their lives.

 

[iBrowse]

I'm not sure what you're saying. I have a girlfriend. This is just troubling to me, cause I prefer folks to win.

Idk fam (you're Nelonmaxwel right?) I commend you concerning yourself with this but the reality is that men who keep repeating this shyt refuse to take any accountability for their status in life. I really don't understand what more there is to say that hasn't been said already.

 

[iBrowse]

@Booksnrain

 

[Neuromancer]

You didn't answer the question though. If they aren't working at improving then why do they deserve anything?

I thought that was rhetorical. You don't as long as everything is based on merit.

 

[iBrowse]

You didn't answer the question though. If they aren't working at improving then why do they deserve anything?

Regardless of whether you're doing good or bad no one deserves shyt, but it stands to reason that a man getting his shyt together has a statistically higher probability of getting the women he really wants. I think that the mental aspect of it is underrated, as the hangups and bitterness is something even the most successful deal with.

 

[Neuromancer]

Idk fam (you're Nelonmaxwel right?) I commend you concerning yourself with this but the reality is that men who keep repeating this shyt refuse to take any accountability for their status in life. I really don't understand what more there is to say that hasn't been said already.

Yes I am. I was once I'm this position. My older friends helped me figure things out and hit a stride. I'm a pay it forward kinda guy. I feel that since I was helped, I should try to do the same. I do recognize futility when I see it though.

 

[Neuromancer]

Right. When I realized that sex was a lot more to men than just the feeling and act of it alone, it helped my understanding of men a lot. Socialization for boys and men centers so much on sex. Their masculinity, self esteem, and self view of success depends on it. Its not a good thing at all, but its true. Its a lot like how much women are socialized and pushed to be validated through marriage. I think theres a bit of a movement with women to get away from that harmful mindset, whereas men seem to just have dug in even more and made sex an even bigger priority in their lives.

It's not only socialization. Studies have been done on other primates and the effects sex has on behavior. This is biological as well

 

[PartyHeart]

It's not only socialization. Studies have been done on other primates and the effects sex has on behavior. This is biological as well

The study of primates is not always, perhaps not even usually, an apples to apples comparison. For instance would you say the motivation behind most human males obsession with sex is to have offspring?